Do You Even Know What Actually Matters to You? | The Black Coffee Club

Yeah, Happy Friday, y'all. Hey, we take away out. They give him shiny, Oh, get him shiny. Let's go. Hmm. Yeah. Man, there we go, Joe, there we go. Whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa? Man? Take away up? Man? Man, what's up with a family? What's the damn deal? Man? This is the Black Coffee Club Live. Man, I d your host, Junior the Truth. Thank you so much for taking the time to tune in. Man, shout out to the most intentional morning circle on the planet, The Black Coffee Club. Yeah, yeah, we can't be stopped. Man. I just built a boat and said, if the hell with it. I just built a boat, and we down here, basement flooded and we here plugging in electricity and say, man, is what it is. We're gonna do this show though. I bet that we're gonna do this show, and as you see, we're gonna do it in this studio. I bet that, I bet, I bet that. I bet we ain't finna stop. I bet we ain't finna stop. This is purpose. I bet we ain't finna stop this purpose. Man, we ain't finna stop. We ain't ever finish finish stop. If I gotta go outside and sit Indian style under my tree, We're gonna do this, you feel me. If we don't do nothing else, we gonna do this. Yeah, solude to the family. Man, Thank y'all so much for taking the time to tuney and really truly genuinely appreciate you. If I had a million times, I couldn't tell it all, man, Like I really couldn't tell it all. Thank you, Thank you, thank you, thank you. I'm in DJ host Junior the Truth. Man. This us. This show is brought to you by the Black Gentleman Grooming Company. We do have a line of all natural, handcrafted grooming products specifically with you and minds. Be sure to come check us out www dot the Black gent dot com. That's www dot the Black gent dot com. Man, listen to me. I'm in DJA host Junior the Truth. You can follow me everywhere via social media. I could be found with the handle Junior the Truth. It's j U n I O R t H G t r U t H and it's over all the social media platforms man, each and every one. 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Replay games full and full effect replay gang Man, y'all don't understand, man, I'll be drawing like y'all be the notifications all throughout the day, be giving me, Man, I be feeling. I be powering up, Man, I be powering up off those uh chats and and or excuse me, the comments and likes and the shares and everything that happens during the day the podcast family, Man me lie for me. You already know how. You already know how I'm coming. Shout out to everybody that's catching this, uh this content via the podcast man, no matter where you are on the plant, Man, thank you all so much. I really truly, genuinely appreciate it. Podcasting aka my first love, hashtag, Junior Mafia and me Live Familia. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Salute to the family though man, salute the most intention of Morning Circle on the planet. Yeah. So, as we always do, I gotta start with a simple question. It's man, I've been in a lot of people been they saw the title. We didn't get to do the show yesterday, so I've been getting it hit up. They're like, man, I need that one. What in the world are you talking about? You feel me? What in the world are you talking about? So let me start with my simple question, as I always do. Do you even know what actually matters to you? Do you even know what actually matters to you? Yeah? Not what you say matters you feel me? Not no, no, no, not what you say matters, not what sounds good you feel me? Because we got a knack for saying what sounds good, not what sounds good, not what's gonna get you the applause, not what's gonna get you to standing ovation, none of that. I'm talking about what actually matters. You feel me? Now? I need you to think about this and drop it in the chat. You can hit me with a yay or name. If you've ever had a moment where you realize, man, I've been chasing things that don't even matter. You can hit me with a yay or nay. You can just hit the while you're in you feel me. Have you ever had that moment where you realize, like, man, I've been chasing this and it don't even matter. I have been chasing things that don't even matter to me, don't even matter to me? You feel me like that? I done went all the way, deep, deep deep in left field for some shit that don't even matter to me, man, Like it don't even matter. Man, I'm gonna try to I feel a whole lot of foul language coming. I'm gonna try my best to keep a lid on it. But I've been chasing this shit and it don't even matter to me. Have you ever realized that you ever had that moment? Yeah, now this is the kicker a sniper. Watch this, bro. Most people never slow down long enough to answer that question, honestly, you feel me. Most people try to save face. Most people want to you know, we over concern ourselves with what people think. We over concern ourselves with what it's gonna look like. You feel me like, most people don't ever slow down to answer that that shit. Honestly, man, you ever had a moment where you realize, Man, I've been chasing things that don't even matter to me, No matter who told you to do it, what led you to do it, what group influenced your decision, or so on and so forth, You've been chasing things that don't even matter. What they say, nothing even mad as at all, looking at us like nothing, Matt, none of it matters. It don't matter. And we've been chasing this stuff all this time. Then when all the way far thousands of thousands of dollars invested, some of us hundred and thousands of dollars invested, and I don't even care like this don't I don't even this don't even matter to me. This does not matter to me, man, I'm stuck on that point, because it's a point to be stuck on. You feel me like it don't matter. I've been chasing things that don't even matter to me. Think about the think about things that we've inherited priorities. Think about that we have inherited priorities. Yeah, we've inherited priorities. Think about that type we've inherited priorities. We've inherited priorities from our parents, from our family, from the culture, from our colleagues, from from social media, from other people's expectations, from outside expectations, and before you know it, like before you even know it, if you ain't careful, you're gonna be living somebody else's script. You're gonna be living somebody else's script. Yeah, do you even know what really matters to you? Let's get it one So. I'm hustled harder than the moment. I'm a feast on these streets. Got a revolver. I talked for these niggas trying to take me off the block where I pointed up daily sit Bailey's out the bottles smoke. It's only right, It's only right. It's a new day old school Winstanley in a building what's something with you, homie? It's only right sweet, your real Queen of MLA. What's up with your MMA and combat talk? Salute to my sister tank tag, what's up with you? Salutor King Voney eighty six? What's up that your homies? Salute to your family really truly genuinely appreciated. Blessings to you and yours or you and yours. Salute to my brother the Dirt Gang boss in the building. What's up with you? Boss? Boss? Ain't hit that light but to share, sub man. You already know that, you already know the prerequises. We know that decorum. At least hit the light button. Thank you. Saluting my sister La lah D. She says, Chrispy Happy Friday. Salute a La lah La Lah say friye. She one of them people that say Fridye, Happy Friday. Y'all. Hey, Hey, hey, hey, hashtag thout Master, Let's put that in the atmosphere. Dirt Gang, Let's put that in the atmosphere. Shout out to Kevin Dunbar, to scholar. Let's go salute the salute the uh Saluta Joe. She was in here under stalker page. We're gonna get that off of there real quick, saluted my sister another the great aka kid Allen. What's up with you, Tiffy two? What's up love man? For our snipers in the building, what's up with you? TIVV two said sing it. Don't encourage my foolishness, girl, don't incur. Hey, don't encourage my foolishness because I'm I'm, I'm, I'm subject to go I'm subject to go crazy. I'm subjected to go crazy. Have everybody everybody years hurting you feel me? Salute the sweet Tiffy two. Let me see we got a thrive and go with Joe. That's the right one. What's up with you? Joe? Not an eighty six eighty six ninety seven? Yeah, let me see that. I get everybody? Kay underscoring the building. What's up with it? New day? Hey? Hey, hey, hey, my mama said, my dad always did like this. Now I said, don't et cetera. That's the fact it's so new he be in the building. What's up with your homies? Salute to you, Hey, new day, New day. Give it to a Dirk game. It's such new ay, new day, New day man. That feel good. It's suck new. Man. Shout out one more time, man for the most intentional morning circle on the planet. Man shout out for the music producer of the show shining on the track AKA my Soul to keep over on Instagram. Man, salute to my little brother, Yes, indeed. Man. Salute to the family. Man, y'all come in here and acting out. Man already, come on, man, come on, Man, salute, salute, salute. Man. Salute to the homie Justin Cash Man in the Super Chat, Man, thank you so much, really truly, genuinely appreciate it. Salute to my sister Kia Allen in the super Chat. Thank you, loved one. She said, Kid, say past the collection plate, if you will, past the collection plate and let the whole church say a man, thank you so much. Key, I appreciate you, love, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. Justin Cash, I appreciate you for setting it our family. Thank you. Man. Let's get to it, man, because like we said, if we're not careful, you're gonna find yourself knee deep in somebody else's script. Man. Yeah, so let's talk about why this happens. Kay Underscore opened up the jar. He opened up the jar for us. But let's talk about how this happened. People feel disconnected from their lives because they never clarified their values. You feel me, just in cash, they never clarified their values. People feel this connected from their lives because they never never, never, never clarified their own values. Never never, never, never sleped my brother ab Man for the supersticker. Thank you for our family. I really truly genuinely appreciate you. We never clarified our own values. We and y'all know I'm telling the truth. We just started running. We picked it up and we just started running. You feel me, We just started running. You had school, you had career, money, success recognition. We ain't even gonna mention romance. You just picked this shit up and you just started running with it. We just started running. We pick it up and we run. We pick it up and we go, and we never once sat down and clarified our own value. Use Saluting my sister Thriving Glove with Joe in the building, she said, blessing the collection plate. Let's go saluted my sister. Y'all be sure to go subscribe to my sister Thrive and Glow with Joe. Go over there and check out Joe's sisters. Y'all definitely should be over there. Me and folk, y'all definitely should be over there. Go over and check out my sister, thrive and glow with Joe. Hey man, listen to me. We picked it up and we just started running some of us to this day, we still have not if we're gonna tell the truth and we're gonna keep it a cold break. I told y'a it's gonna be a lot of foul language. So I'm apologized for that in advance, especially those of you all if this is your first time tuning in. I'm a heathen, but I try to keep a lid on it most days, so y'all be sure to keep coming back. And some days are better than others. All of my good days our weigh my bad days looking at a us. But we're gonna get to it. Your ass, A lot of y'all that come in here every day, right and we talk. We've had this conversation. Your ass still has not sat down. You still have not sat down and figured out what your core values are. We had a whole exercise about sitting down, figuring out your core values. You have not sat down and given any thought or much thought, or I'll say enough thought to what your actual core values are. And as we know, your core values are like your guide and light. Like your core values are your guide and light. That's what you're supposed to be using to form everything else around your life. You understand what I'm saying. So if like you know, your life is like the body, your core values is like the soul. But we never sat down and clarified those values, and we just start running, and we never stopped running. School, career, money, success, marriage, parenthood, recognition, you feel me what other folks think, don't leave that out. And those things aren't inherently bad. Like, they're not inherently bad, ab Dirt Gang, they're not inherently bad. But if you don't know your own values, if you don't know your own values, then you gonna chase everything. You're gonna chase everything. Yeah, I watched I went yesterday. My mentor he buried his father yesterday. And he's a preacher, so he eulogized his father. It's my mentor, saluted my mentor, coach Burke Man. If you see this as matter of fact, I know you're gonna see this because I'm a clip it and I'm gonna send it to you. Man. I love you. I love you, and I'm proud of you. Man, And I really truly Genie appreciate you. But I watched them eulogize his father yesterday, right, and he sung a song. My soul has been anchored, you feel me. My soul has been anchored. And it's just so funny how life is where we go through life and we have all of these like life gives me if I'm gonna say me, I'm not gonna say you. Life gives me all kind of context clues, like I have all kind of context clues, you feel me as to the things that really truly matter in life and the things that the best way I should be living my life. That's just me. And so when I see stuff like like anchored, like yeah, anchored, and then I understand and I take it. I take that to a self mastery conversation, which is spiritual by nature. But when I take it to a self mastery conver sation like what is your life anchored on? Like? What what is it anchored? Your anchor is literally your values. So if you have not sat down and clarified your values, you don't have an anchor. That's a bar. What do you value in this life? Like, what do you value? And if you don't know what you value, then you're not anchored. And that's why you can float every which way. That's why you can be talked into this. That's why you can be tricked into that. That's why you can be douped into this. That's why you're not fulfilled here. You're not fulfilled there because what are you anchored in? You feel me? And the truth of the matter is, and this is a whole nother I'm putting the cart before the horse or whatever, but I'm gonna just say this. We call this foreshadowing. If you know what you're anchored in and you know your values, then your life is gonna look like it and it won't be no question. You feel me. My brother can't underscore and said, I tell my daughters I don't have all the answers. If they find out before I before before I do, Please come back and educate me. You feel me. Now, you got to share that. You got to share the information. Game applied means elevation. You better come back and drop some game on the ground for your for the hungry hand. That is your daddy for shit show. All right, So if you don't know your values, you're gonna ended find yourself chasing everything, y'all, And chasing everything eventually eventually turns into exhaustion. You feel me, here go my sister kid, her good literally, her good literature ass, her good literature literature scholar ass. She said, okay for a shadow and talk that talk. She's sick, man. Yeah, you'll chase everything, and chasing everything eventually turns into exhaustion. Yeah, are you do you? Have you ever met or are you that person that has a lot going on but still feels empty, Like it's a whole lot going on, but they empty. You know people who are stretched and they run here, they run there, they're all over the place, but they have an attitude and they have a countenance that they still feel empty. Like you do a lot of things for a lot of people, but at the core, like you're still empty. You feel me, You're still empty. Nobody's pouring into your cup. You're not pouring into your own cup. Yeah, you're not anchored. Yeah, And the truth of the matter is that's not a productivity problem, that empty feeling, that's not a productivity problem. You're not empty because you're pouring out, You're and you're just it's so engulfed in the community or in the work that you do, or so on and so forth. That emptiness is not because of that. The emptiness is because you have a values problem. You have a values problem. And if you are well aware and you are locked into your values, you never feel empty. You understand what I'm saying, You never feel empty. I can come in here and y'all talk to me all the time, and y'all talk about me pouring and pouring into into you are, or pouring into us, and pouring into this platform and pouring into this show every day. And I come in here and I pour every day because I'm anchored in my values. I'm anchored in what I value. You feel me, I'm anchored in what I value. Joe said. He said, it's a personal problem. A value problem is very much a personal problem. I agree one hundred percent. That's a personal problem, like a values problem is a personal problem. But the fact is is when you have all that activity without the alignment that is based and predicated on your values, then that creates internal friction, right, It creates internal friction. Some of y'all are busy as hell. You feel me, work won't let you rest? You busy as hell? And what do you have? You have internal friction? What are you anchored in? Yeah, so let's let's let's let's let's once again. Y'all know me and I believe in edifying the points and I believe in in uh, let me, let me, let me, let me stop talking like that. I believe in breaking this ship down to the bone gristle. You feel me. I believe in breaking this ship down to the bone gristle. I believe in really getting down to there. We're gonna get through the meat and then we're gonna get to the motherfucking bone. So let's get in here. Let's clear, let's clear. Let's clarify values. Let's break down what values actually are. Values are the principles that guide your decisions. Values are your set of distinct principles that guide your decisions day in, day out. Cookie man, Cookie man, Yeah, that's you. What's up with it, bro? Cookie man in a building? Yeah. They are the things that make you feel aligned in your life when you when you when you honor your values and you give your your values, the appropriate recognition. Yeah. Yeah, they make you feel aligned, and they also make you feel uncomfortable when you violate them. You feel me. You know, you didn't done some shit that ain't aligned with your values, and you feel uncomfortable with yourself, and you have those moments where you're sitting with yourself like, no, you know, y'all be having fits. Y'all had them internal it's so stupid. You feel me because you got your values and you violated your values, and you sit there and you look in your mirror and you just had it. You just disgusted with yourself because you violated your values. You feel me. Yeah, I can't believe that that will. That will you feel me like that's and that's the problem with me, right, is part of part of the reason why I really don't truly don't care what people think about me for the most part. Let me let me preface that you understand what I'm saying. Hell been on being he being on certain areas of my life, like you know, fatherhood, hood, manhood type shit, being a integrity, all that type shit, Right, But I'm so very hard on myself that it's like way worse than anything that anybody can say, which is why I don't have a bunch of credence, because I really have like meltdowns when I violate my own values. Understand what I'm saying, not make mistakes, not you know, live life and have shortcomings, But when I conscientiously violate of that one of my values, man, it takes me a while to recover from that. It takes me a while to recover from that. Yeah, So they are things that make you feel aligned when you honor them and when you and you feel uncomfortable when you violate them. Ab said haunts. It haunts even years later, still haunt you. Yeah, I got some times out violated my values. Man, I'm haunted by years, like literally years, shit even decades for real. But you know, for some people it's integrity, freedom, family, growth, peace, service, excellence. You know, people value. People's values are different. You know a lot of different values, but values act as basically they're your internal compass. You feel me, they're basically your internal compass. Then the fact of the matter is if you're unaware of them, or if you ignore them, then your life starts drifting. So what I'm saying to you is you can have money and still feel off. And I say this all the time. You know how many suckers there are running around the world that have money, that have resources. Whole lot of rich suckers, you understand what I'm saying. Whole lot of rich people that are running around. They're not solid though. Whole lot of suckers with money. Whole lot of people who are popular that be cold suckers, be cold suckers. Some of the most popular people you know, suckers, cold suckers. You feel me. You can have it. You can have a lot of things, man, and still be off. You can have success and still be disconnected from yourself because the fact of the matter is is the direction of your life won't match your values, or you have no values, or you're not in tune with your values. You understand what I'm saying. Yeah, So once again, always bring it back to you all. So you gotta and don't answer this in the chat. This is for you personally, right, you gotta tap in what are your top three values that are guid in your life right now? Like, what are your top three values that are guiding your life right now? And I'm talking about not ideally, not the stuff that people want to hear right now, really the reality of really what right now is guiding your life? Right now? What values are guiding your life? The guiding light? You feel me? What three now? You gotta think about that. You feel me and you got and you gotta look at them. And if you don't have three or you don't know it, they are ship, you gotta look at that too, Like you gotta look at that too. Yeah, yeah, all right, we already here. So let's go a little bit deeper. Let's go a little bit deeper. Meaning like the meaning when when you talk about life meaning and people can attest to this, I can attest to this. Life meaning does not come from accomplishments. You feel me like giving your life meaning like the fulfillment that you feel in your life does not come from accomplishments. It doesn't. It does not come from accomplishments. Yeah, meaning in your life. Stormy be Man saluted my brother's Stormy be Man in the building. And we talk about this. I'm talking about we when I'm talking about me and Stormy had this exchange. I always tell this story about him and him and and Pap Paul, Stormy taking groceries ahead of the storms. You feel me making making a pre pairing for his family. You understand what I'm saying, making and making a preparation for his family. Man providing provisions. So that's what men do. Men provide provisions. You understand what I'm saying. So providing having provisions for your family, that's a role. You understand what I'm saying. Meaning does not come from accomplishments, kid, Meaning comes from them roles that you occupy in your life. Kid said, I'm about to cry, So listen you want to cry, Kid, fuck it. Let's make it official. Let's make it official then, Kid, all of the things that you've accomplished in your life, right, all of the things I'm talking to you, Kid, I'm talking to you in particular. You feel me now I can talk this talk box and the barbecue. What's up with your homidp Rocker? What's up with homie? Because I know her personally, right, So all of the things she's accomplished in her lives, I'm talking about big shit. She's done some things. Just the mere fact of coming from where we come from to doing the things that she's done and she is doing, it's huge, right, But it didn't give her life. Meaning. You know what gave this woman's life meaning, what gave her her life meaning was her son, her baby boy was dealing with was dealing with a health illness. He was dealing with an illness. He's absolutely fine. Now, he's wonderful. He's actually here on YouTube. Does he does the gaming on YouTube? So the youngin was battling a health issue and he had a health crisis, and it was like it was like looking very it was looking very bleak. So the people said, people said, it was looking very bleak. And to see her go into her space of being a mother, of being a mother and praying and willing her son back into health and back into the fact that you're gonna be here. You got shit to do. And then she was petitioning people. She was using social media for what the fuck social media is supposed to be used for for us, for spiritual folks, you feel me. She I ain't talking about good people. I ain't talking about religious folks. I ain't talking about church folks. Fuck all that. I'm talking about spiritual people, people who need to connect with people on a real level. You know that shit we do in here, the spiritual shit. And she will petition people and say, man, I need y'all help, I need y'all prayers, I need y'all energy because they saying this boy ain't gonna make it. And watching her do that has given for me from the way I look at it, has given her life more meaning because see when I see Key, I say, oh, that's that's that's she a mama, Like she a ma. She ain't gonna fuck around when it come to her Key, that's she a mother, you understand. Don't talk about like a mother that's gonna sacrifice everything for her. Chilling, wasn't sleeping, wasn't eating, wasn't Come on, man, like, your life gets meaning from your roles, not from your accomplishments. Accomplishments ain't about shit. You understand what I'm saying. Accomplishments ain't about shit. I let me not say that. Ain't about shit. Accomplishments don't give your life meaning. I'll say that. And when you look at people who are who have meanings based on their accomplishments, you see a very empty existence like that's cool, Yeah, you this, you that, but that's cool. We look at Floyd. Let's use Floyd for an example. We saluted my brother Drew Titan in the super chat, Man, what's up with you? Brought salute to you? That popped up out of nowhere and kind of scared me. Man saluting my brother Drew tight And in the super chat. You look at Floyd Mayweather. Floyd Mayweather has all of these accomplishments, you understand what I'm saying. And he's accomplished all these things under the sun with regard to the sport of box, and he's made money, he has prestige, he's won titles, he's done pretty much everything that you can do in the sport of box and besides become undisputed. That's for the people who really follow the sport. But when you look at him, and you literally look at him, and you look at his life, you see a very empty existence. Why where's his children? You understand what I'm saying. One of the best things that I see from Floyd now is when I see him moving around with his grandson, I think his grandson's name kJ. I see him moving around with his grandson in the boxing ring and playing around with his baby, his baby's baby. You're a not Your life doesn't get meaning from your accomplishments. It gets meanings from your roles, the roles that you occupy and how you occupy them. Parent, you understand what I'm saying. A leader, a creator, a mentor, a teacher, a student, a provider, a provisioner, a waymaker. You feel me? A what did I call it? A resolutionist? What roles do you occupy in your life? Because those roles carry responsibility? You're a partner or a spouse. You feel me that I say, parent, grandparent, cousin, nephew, friend. Yeah, what occupies do you really carry in your life? And do you have in your life? And excuse me? What roles do you occupy in your life? And those roles carry responsibility and that responsibility creates meaning. You feel me. When people feel lost a lot of the times, it's because they're disconnected from the role that give their life meaning. Man, I'm about to throw this goddamn micaelphone. I'm about to throw this goddamn microphone. When a motherfucker feel lost in life, let me say it this way. When a motherfucker feel lost in life, nine times out of ten, I will bet you a dollar to donuts, it's because they're disconnected from the rolls in their life that give their life meaning. Instead, they are chasing external milestones, external validation, chasing the prestige. You feel me. You want to be in front of them folks. You want to seem like you want to be amongst the who's who. You want to move in shape, salute to my brother, carry bay, and to build a whole lot of BCU shit in full effect. You're chasing external validation, external milestones. But milestones don't anchor your identity. Man, your roles in your life do KG because you a daddy to them girls? Bro, when a motherfucker don't want to be daddy's no more. Mofuckers don't want to be men no more. You feel me. Mofuckers want to be me and want to be bad bitches. They don't want to be men. They don't want They want persons and clutch bags and tight pants. And they worried about designer and they worried about cars. They worried about getting their hairlines spraying on because they shit receiving. And we say, nah, nigga, we gonna raise these babies. We're raising the next generation the leaders. And I ain't balking. I ain't balking I'm on my post. When you feel when you feel disconnected, or excuse me, when you feel lost, you gotta check your connection. Are you connected to the roles that you occupy in your life, because that's where your meaning is gonna come from. What roles do you occupy? You might be as a a family member, you might be a son, you might be a friend, you might be a nephew. But if you somebody's favorite nephew and they need you, you understand I'm talking about that gives your life meaning. Milestones don't anchor your identity, your roles do. Yeah, And that's why someone can retire from a career and suddenly feel lost. Or motherfuckers stop working and then they die. Unerstand what I'm saying. Swap into my daddy. My daddy stopped working when they close down and they put them in the streets. They close down operations at this company, and then they put them in the streets. And my father passed the age of fifty. You feel me. That's why people retire and they feel lost because the role disappear and the meaning shifted. Yeah. Yeah, sorry, y'all, I'm trying to I'm fighting off a coffin attack. Seven ofolk Joe, what's up with you? Yeah? So all right, all right, all right, all right, all right, all right, let's let's clear something up. Purpose, like your purpose. Purpose don't have to be dramatic, you feel me. Roles, they don't have to be dramatic. They don't have to be dramatic. Social media makes it feel like purpose has to be like this huge life mission that you're dedicating your life to and so on and so forth. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. TIV two said facts troubleshooting one on one. Are you plugged in? Are you plugged in? When you feel lost? Are you plugged in? Yeah? Purpose don't have to be dramatic. Social media make you feel like it's got to be this huge thing and it's a huge life mission. But nah, the majority of the times, I'm gonna tell you the truth. Watch this seven ofolk Joe. Most of the time, purpose is real simple. It's real simple. Raise your raise your children. Will you feel me? Serving things? Doing service in the community, Like serve your community. Yeah, build something meaningful, that that that that you want to build. Build something meaningful. It could be you might build a telephone directory for everybody in your family, so that everybody's everybody's number is in the telephone directory. I just that's something that just came to me, because that's some shit I'm supposed to be doing. I need everybody's number in the telephone directory in my family, need a family telephone director. Put that motherfucker in a spreadsheet and and uh with telephone numbers, email addresses and addresses, and then I'm gonna send it out. You know, motherfuckers is finicky about their address. But whatever email address, address, telephone number, and send it out. Yeah, but it might. But but it's simple building something meaningful. Becoming a better version of yourself. Kid, that's why we come in here every day. Kid somewhere on the floor, rolling around, but with she she'll come back to. So she's out walking on the track. She on the track, rolling around. She's probably sitting there now getting herself together, getting up. But she getting up in yoga poses though, she getting up doing the downward doggie, getting herself together in the yoga post. She get her composers, she'll she'll come back and join us shortly. Yeah. Becoming a better version of yourself, Kia. Every day she get on here, she shared. She shared the show on Facebook, and she say it's about self mastery. We ain't fucking around this year, and she shared the show you feel me, we ain't fucking around. Become a better version of yourself. Purpose isn't always loud. It's not always loud. You understand what I'm saying. Sometimes it's just quiet alignment. You understand, the most powerful shit that you can experience is just quiet alignment. Like I've been me personally, I've been out of aligne been out of alignment, right, been out of alignment, and so it's so powerful for me to get myself and to get my family and to get things back in alignment. Right. You understand what I'm saying, like getting get yourself in alignment full it's powerful. Sometimes it's quiet alignment. Y'all know why this is the way that it's going in here with us, Why this shit's moving away it's moving is because of this quiet alignment that's been going on in my life, like just quietly aligning. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Purpose is direction. It's not pressure, it's not performance, it's not comparacon, it's just straight direction. Yeah. Yeah. Three questions for you to reflect on. I'm gonna get out of here, got get out the way. What values God your decisions? Because every time you're going to make a decision, you should your values should be at the forefront. What values are God in your decisions? What values God your decisions? You feel me? What roles give your life meaning? What roles give your life meaning? Yeah? And the last one is the big one. But what are you currently investing large amounts of energy into that don't actually matter to you? What things are you investing energy into right now that don't actually matter to you? It's a big one, y'all. Ponder over those three questions this weekend. I let me give it to you again. What values God your decisions? What values God your decisions? What roles give your life meaning? And where are you currently investing energy that doesn't actually matter to you? Yeah, I'm gonna tell you all the truth though. That third one, that last one, that energy question, where you currently invest in energy that doesn't matter to you? Yeah, that's where the breakthrough be happening. That's like where that's where the breakthrough is gonna happen because it's because it's about balance. So then you can rebalance. And I'm not saying that you got to stop the things that you give energy to that don't really matter to you, because in some instances you're not able to stop, but you can recalibrate and you can redistribute that energy. You understand what I'm saying. So instead of spassing out about shit that's going on at the gig that you can't control, Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you can. You can start working on that playscript, you start working on that that that that that business. You can go in the house and you can tackle that project that's been plaguing you. You feel me, I gotta clean my basement out. I've been knowing I need to clean my basement out for shit a year and a half, and I've been talking about it every week. I talk about cleaning out my basement. Guess what, This motherfucker's just flooded. So now I guess what I gotta do. Kid, got clean out of my basement this weekend. You feel me? Yeah? Where are you currently investing energy that doesn't even matter to you? Yeah? I be listening in the bullshit banter, listening to celebrity gossip, watching us bullshit tell of it, Like, where are you investing energy that doesn't even really matter to you? Yeah? That third one. That's where the breakthrough happens. A lot of us are spend the energy on things that don't align with our values or our roles. You feel me, don't align with your values or your roles, and that creates the internal chaos that we speak about. Yeah, and you get moved closer and closer to clarity within your life when you start removing those things that don't matter. Man, you start removing that shit that don't matter, figure out what don't matter, and then remove it. You understand what I'm talking about. Man, I'm so isolated right now. Maybe I'll start calling it icy like I ain't icy like g listen, but I'm icy as an isolated. I'm so I say I'm isolated. I so Joe round this motherfucker like I'm isolated. You feel me, Io Junior. I'm so isolated from things and from people and from places it's not even funny. But I'm removed. I'm removing the shit that don't matter, and then I can really truly focus and and and harness my energy towards things that matter. Felix, what's up with you? Brought salute to you? Yeah, So let me leave you with this clarity is not something you think your way into family, like you don't think your way into clarity. Clarity is something you you live your way into. You understand what I'm saying, Like we keep talking about self mastery, like I keep talking man, like I'm talking about self mastery. You gotta understand. It's clarity, like when you're like really clear about yourself and you really clear, like you can master yourself, but you gotta be clear first, Like you gotta be aware, you gotta be clear, you gotta be clear. Yeah, so so so, so let me say this, clarity. You gotta live your way into clarity. You test things, you pay attention to how you feel, You adjust, and over time your values become clearer and clearer and clearer and clear. Your roles will become stronger and stronger and stronger and stronger, and your direction becomes steadier. Your direction becomes steadier. Yeah, but it starts with asking that damn question that most people avoid. What actually matters to me? What actually matters to me? Yeah, because let me let me talk about myself. Right, I'm gonna talk about I'm gonna have my little young, my little young in conversation. Right. So, when I was little y'all remember, and fellas a lot of y'all can agree to this, and I gotta go. But remember when it was so simple, when we was kids and you started figuring out what you liked and you started liking girls. And I'm talking specifically for the fellas. I've never been a woman, so I don't know your experience, but you like, start figuring out what you like and what did you like? You know? You know what I'm saying. For me and I realized this, and I'm gonna help y'all out too. I'm gonna give yall some game, give y'all some news you can use, Fellas. Most of us the first well I can't say most of them. Well, yeah, I can most of us. You know, the first girls you liked, they were tom Boys. They were tom boys. The first girls you liked were tom Boys. You like tom Boys. I'm talking about the very first. You know why, because of the proximity, because y'all were cool, because y'all played together. You understand what I'm saying. And she could throw rocks like you, but ooh, she was pretty. You feel me. You like tom boys. You like girls that was cool down to earth. They will play with you every day. Some of us had like girls that friends that was like our real best friends. We go outside and play, so on and so forth. You understand what I'm say. And then things like started to shift and you started to get older, and society started telling you this, and television started telling you that. Then your friends started telling you this, and then all of a sudden, you know what I mean, you stopped really because some of the tomboys actually stayed tomboys, you feel me, and they turned into you know, athletes, basketball player, whatever, and you were conditioned to you gotta start liking this, like you should like this. You understand what I'm saying, you should like that. And then you had girls who came along and they weren't popular, and they were pretty and they were fast and blah blah blah blah blah, and you just started liking them. Was so it ends up everybody started liking the same girls and the same type of girls. You feel me. But then you had dumb ass Junior who was over here, and you know what I liked, don't know what I liked. I like nerds. I like nerds, I like nerds. I liked athletes like I like nerds. And I've always been one of those men that I like women that are put up, put away, under the radar, you don't really know them. And I'm the person that just of how I am, like I've always i'll be the person and I start liking a girl and then we go together or some shit like that, and then everybody, everybody start liking her. I'm one of them. You feel me, because then everybody see like, oh man, she is fan Man, I love them nerds. Kids said they left me writing a friend zone. They left the tomboys and the friend zone they was tripping, tripping, But that's what happened because we started listening to shit that didn't even matter. Like stuff didn't matter to you. Man, I don't care about her being light skin. I don't care about her having long hair. I don't care about her having a big boot. I don't care about that shit. Man, Like like I like who I like? Like If I can't have a conversation with you and we can't have like an intellectual conversation, I love nerves. Yeah, girl, talk to me about that pathagonal theorem a square plus b squirty cause square I like that type shit. You feel me, Yeah, talk to him. Talk dirty to me, baby, yeah, talk dirty to me. Thriv and go with Joe said, Now I know why I'm friends on because you was cool. Everybody was told they had to like the fast ass girls. Who was who was? You know what I'm saying out here doing this, doing that, look like this, look like that. Everybody wanted the cheerleaders to this. To that, nah man Phelix doing that, said that fit b Nachi spiral. Talk dirty to me, yeahheah. Nah. Talk to me about literature, yeah yeah, talk to me about some literature. Talk to me about poetry, yeah nah. Talk daddy to me, yeah yeah, talk to me about Paulawn's dunbore. I know why the cage bird scenes. God damn me. Man. We were taught and we we were We accepted things that didn't even matter to us. Then when I got older, you feel me, and I divorced myself from all of that thinking and all that bullshit. Then I can say this really actually matters to me. I like one fucker's this put up. I don't like motherfuckers just on the scene. I don't like motherfuckers that jump and club pop all the time. You feel me. I like the motherfucker that want to just come over here and sit down and chill. You feel me. Nah, we're gonna sit here and we're gonna chill, and we're gonna eat, and we're gonna laugh, and we're gonna enjoy each other. You understand what I'm saying, Like, that's what we that's how we that's how we gonna do this. Nah, we ain't gotta be out, We ain't gotta be on the scene. We ain't gotta be in the way. Yeah, your direction becomes steadier when you start asking the question that people avoid, which is what actually matters to me. Because when you know that, when you know what matters to you, life gets easier. Life gets way easier, your focus gets way sharper, and your life becomes aligned. But you have to know what actually matters to you. This is the Black Coffee Club, man, the most consistent, intentional morning circle on the planet. Yeah, and around here, man, we ain't we not here to chase success. We not here to just chase success. Yeah, we're building our lives in a way that it actually matters to us. You feel me. Salute to you all, man, Thank you all so much. Man, I really truly genuinely appreciate y'all. I had a ball. I got to get out of here, got to get back to tucking about is water you feel me. Salute to y'all. Thank y'all so much. Man, this is junior that you standing off, giving you a daily reminder to view your life like a pair of dice until it looks like a pair of ice. Man, I'm a how born player, mate, if you don't know anything else about me. At the end of the day, Man, y'all have a good weekend. I gotta keep pushing. Baby. We are the best grooming couts for you. For you that sung natural. If you ain't craft, we want to help you swag swag ust our class and luxury luxury. Then you got products up made for you the hop quality gas to get a start with Black Little Black g Company and competent you swag up bags out pass and luxury and luxury. 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