Why the Strongest Person in the Room Is the One Who Pauses!

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Uh, come on over to the hub man, that's Junior the Truth dot com www dot Junior Truth dot com. Man. So salute to you all, Man. I really truly, genuinely appreciate you, man. And if I had if I had a million tongues, Man, I could not possibly possibly tell it all. Man, I couldn't you feel me? I just would not be able to do it. So top of the day, man, grab your coffee, and let's get ready to get to it. Man, Cuz. Today were talking about one of the smallest things you'll ever do, Like a small thing. It's one of the smallest things that you'll ever do, but it just seems so very It is so very powerful, but it seems so significant. So if I could describe it, I'd say it's probably the most the smallest, most seeming, the most insignificant, or let me see, not insignificant, the smallest, most powerful thing that you can do. Yeah, you can completely change your life. You can completely change your life soon than my brother dead. He says, as long as we got each other, you feel me. One of the most the smallest, most powerful things, seemingly insignificant, but powerful things that you can do. The pause, the pause. Most people think power looks like speed, a quick comeback, a quick opinion, quick reaction, quick decision. I disagree because I've learned something there is in these, in these forty eight years, these here, forty eight years of living. Man, I've learned something. I have learned something. Yeah. In all of my stoic wisdom and practices. Man, and all of my all of my life, man, all of my my, my, my, my code of conduct, activities and what have you, I've learned something. Sometimes the strongest move that you can make is absolutely nothing. Let me say that again. Sometimes the strongest move that you can make is absolutely nothing. Yeah, only for a few seconds, but absolutely nothing for a few seconds. Today's verdicts is easy. Man. The pause is a power move, and we made a play on it. I think that was Wednesday when we kept talking. About pause, paus pause, pause. This pause that like the new pause. I ain't talking about the new pause, talking about the for real pause. The pause is a power move. Yeah, yeah, Why is it a power move. It's a power move because the pause, because the pause does something very specific. Reaction gives away control. Let's just say that reaction absolutely positively gives away control. Reaction gives away control. If we can agree about anything, we can agree upon the fact that reaction gives away control. But the pauls gives you a choice. Let's get it. One. I'm hustled harder than the moment. I'm a feast on these streets. Got a revolver I took for these niggas trying to take me off the block where I placed up daily, Si, Bailey's out the bottles smoke. Yep, Yeah, it ain't a show if we don't have an anthormit. Salutor my brother thirt game man coming through. What's more two hours, Saluted. The family man he came to twice. Saluted her game man. Hey man, yes, news. D did I get everybody overby? I didn't listen. Man. It's a new day, and I'm a man. I'm all over the place. Man, it's a new day. Hey hey hey hey hey hey hey hey hey hey. Salutor King Bonny coming through, man, blessing the child. It's a new dang. Salute to your family. H let me go back. Saluted my brother the dry gang boss and An't coming through. Bless you to check man. Wow, Wow, let's get it shaan. Men, new day, that. It's a new get him shiny. Du dude that it's a new day, new day. It's uh new new day, new day. Who got it like us? Man? Who got it like us, new day, new day, who got it like us. It's a new. Man who got it like us man, new. Day, new day. It's a new. All right, man. So let's go get to it man. So the power of the palls. Man, hopefully you all can see that. Uh, for those of you all who are looking on the screen, I realized I've been underserving all my visual learners. Man. One time for my you know what I mean, for my audio learners and and my and also one time for my kinesthetic learners. Hopefully y'all all are doing the kinesthetic thing. Maybe maybe not, we'll see, but one time for my realize I haven't been serving my visual learner. Saluting my sister thrive and glow with Joe. So we in here on the visual sad. You understand what I'm saying. Most people never make it past this here, Louke. This is the reaction loop. Most people never make it past this here, Louke. Something happens, you know what I mean. Somebody says something you know. Somebody cut you off in traffic, you receive a text, you receive email, bad news, somebody do something to you. You hold the door open for somebody and they don't say thank you, and you call them a ship head bitch, you know, all that type of stuff. You might get criticism, just a criticism at the wrong time or from the wrong person, and your nervous system says danger. You feel me. Your nervous system says danger. Yeah, and then before your mind even catches up, you react. Y'all, did you hear what I said? I said before your mind catches up, you react, You feel me? You react, don't don't And it's not even because you chose to do. You realize when we rightan with this reaction loop, the choices are out the window. You're not even choosing to you feel me. It's because that's what you've practiced. We're talking about practice, man, practice, We're talking about practice, and that is exactly what autopilot looks like. Salute to my brother, to too Fave box and talk. You don't hear me though, bocking too too fab y'all, don't hear me though. Your mind says danger. I mean your your nervous system says danger. Then before your mind can catch up, you react. You feel me, and you ever have something come out your mouth, and then you get that tingly feeling all over your body. Like, well, it's up. Now you feel me. You ever said something like something happened? You say it, then you get that tingly feeling all over your body like, oh you feel me, it's up. You were operating fully one hundred percent from the the the mode of reaction, from the reaction. Look. Yeah, yeah, this is exactly what autopilot looks like. You feel me, This is exactly what autopilot looks like. You have your trigger, you have your motion, you have your impulse, you have your reaction, you have a consequence. You feel me, and it starts all over again with the next incident. It starts all over again with the next incident. Yeah yeah, Dirk gag said, be sure to hit the like button. Be sure to hit the like button, man. Be sure. Third Gang gave us some fires in a hunt. He said, yes, sir, one time for the visual learners. That's what he said. That's what he said. Ah, it shurts. The pause, man, listen the pause. And I'm talking about the real pause, not the game pause. The real pause. The real pause is not a weakness. Man, it's not. Y'all stop man, Like I said, Man, y'all not had as much men, y'all are not had as much penis on the brain. Saluted my sister thriving glow with Joe coming. Thank you so much. I appreciate you, loved one. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. The pause is not a weakness. The pause is interruption. Okay, so we're in here and we're on this reaction loop and the pause is an interruption. The pause says I'm going to slow this moment down. Yeah. The emotion can stay. The emotion can stay, but it doesn't get to drive. You feel me. The emotion doesn't get to drive one breath, one minute, one hour, whatever the situation requires. The pause gives wisdom time to arrive. Does that make sense. That's the job of the pause. The pause gives your wisdom time to arrive. Because when we're operating out of reaction, then let's be clear, all of the wisdom is out the window. All of the wisdom is out of the window. You feel me, all love it every bit, it's all out of the window. Yeah, yeah, yeah, man. So most people, like I said earlier, they confuse speed with strength. You understand what I'm saying. And fast, I'm telling you, man, Fast isn't always strong. Fast isn't always strong, And most people confuse speed with strength. No, Sometimes speed is in security. You feel me, y'all tell me I'm lying. Sometimes speed is insecurity. Sometimes speed is ego. Sometimes speed is fear. The strongest person in the room isn't always the loudest. You feel me. One time for the for them old men, you know, One time for them old men, One time for them old gangsters that raised us. Mm hmm. Sometimes the strongest person in the room, excuse me, The strongest person in the room isn't always the loudest, You understand what I'm saying. Sometimes, a lot of the times, most of the time, it's the one who can wait. It's the one who can wait while everybody's up rushing and quick to respond, quick to react, quick to move, quick to run off. The strongest person in the room isn't always the loudest. They aren't always the quickest, quickest, They aren't always the fastest. Sometimes it's the one who can actually wait. The dad says, patient is key. That's a fact with tax. Patience is key. Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. So let's talk about emotional space. You feel me, and what you see. You see my person here standing calmly between emotion and action. You feel me, yeah, And then there's a glowing space that's between them, that glowing space that is between the emotion and the action. That's the choice. That's a choice and the choice space. You see it all illuminated and whatnot. Let me make this make sure y'all can see this. Do you see it? It's all illuminated and whatnot. Because this space changes everything. You understand what I'm saying. It changes everything. Ex chuse me? You see now, anger becomes information, Fear becomes information. You understand what I'm saying. Embarrassment becomes information instead of of commands. Your feelings deserve attention. They don't automatically deserve control. They don't automatically deserve control, y'all. They deserve your feelings deserve attention. They don't automatically deserve control. You understand what I'm saying. Let me, we working today? Should I got to give myself? Hey? We working today? We working today? Yeah, we're working, we're working. Man. Your feelings deserve your attention, but they don't automatically deserve control. You have your emotion and you have your action, and then you have that little space between that little gold illuminated space. If you're looking at the screen, salutorfor oarn snite, what's up with you? Snipe? That is your choice and it is a world of difference. My brother de Derk Kane said, he said, truth this one right on time today, big bro. Already already Bro, already, yeah, yeah, matter of fact, let me take that. Let me take that. I'm trying not to. I don't want to get in a way. You know, branding is everything. Branding is important. But I don't even want to get in the way you're just because I want you to see the graphics. Your feelings deserve attention. They don't automatically deserve control. Though they don't automatically deserve control. You gotta get that in your spirit. Yeah, you gotta get that in your spirit. You have got to get that in your spirit. So man, it's the five step pause, man, the fire step pause. And I'm just gonna walk you through it. Man. The first thing is that you notice, you notice, you notice, you feel me, You notice something something changed, You feel me something something changed. You have to take notice something changed, you feel me. Then from there you have to name it. You gotta name it. What is it that changed? You gotta name it? What am I feeling? I'm angry, I'm embarrassed, I'm defensive. That step two is name it? Notice is number one? Number two is name it? Number three is you gotta breathe. People think I'm playing man. You will never ever understand the importance of breathing. You have to breathe. You have to. And in breathing, what you're doing is you are giving your body the opportunity to settle. You feel me, You are giving your body the opportunity that it needs in order to settle down in that moment. You give your body the opportunity to settle. And I'm I'm I'm trying not to. I really want y'all. You gotta give your body the opportunity in the time to settle. Then you have to examine. You have to examine what's actually happening and what am I assuming? You feel me, what's actually happening happening and what am I assuming? Yeah? Being from there, you get the you get the you have to make a choice. Yeah, And in that choice, what you're choosing is what responds serves my values and the outcome I want, because the outcome that I want. Is supposed to be locking step with my purpose. You feel me, the outcome that I want, the outcome, the result what I want to happen in this moment, and what the outcome that I want is supposed to be locking step with my purpose. Yeah, yeah, it's a. It's a. I'm telling you man, it's a. It's an extremely powerful thing. If you are able to pause, everybody, then got quiet on me. Y'all have been quiet for a few minutes. I hope everybody's all right. I hope we ain't. I hope we're not doing too much. Yeah, I hope we not. I hope we're not doing too much. Saluting, saluted ten ounces, excuse me for four hour Snipe man coming through. A blessing that blessing the chat man, Salute to you, snipe I really truly chan. Somebody give me my theme emoji. We ain't here working today. We ain't here working today. Third game boss coming through. Somebody give me my theme emoji? We working today? All right? All right, all right, alright, alright, alright, alright, let's get back to work. Then, let's get back to work. You say were working, Let's get back to work. Every time we deal with these situations, and I can only speak for the things I've been through, and I'm talking about my life. Man, there's two stories in these instances. Man, there is what actually happened and the story I'm creating. You feel me, because I believe that every situation is three sides to every story. You feel me. The two that I'm responsible for are the ones that actually what actually happened, and what I'm creating. The three side is what the other person and it's creating. You see what I'm saying. So you got one side of the story, the other side of the story, then you got what actually happened, and that's the truth. And it's usually somewhere in the middle betwixt the betwixt the two stories that are made up by the respective parties. Three side dairy story. You feel me. So most of us react, and this is the truth. And when I say most of us, I mean your ass, I mean my ass. I mean we react, but we don't react to reality. If we could tell the truth, we would say we react, but we do not react to reality. And I wish y'all were bold enough to tell the truth and say I don't react to reality all the time. You understand what I'm saying, Dez. If Deaz is still in here, Big Daz, this week, see this is why you can't tell you gotta be careful what you tell me. You can't tell me shit because I'm here and I'm gonna remember, and I look for times such is this to bring it up. Dad said, Man, I reacted this week or last week, and I was dead wrong. I ain't even gonna lie. That's what Dad said. He said, I reacted and I was dead wrong, and he said I must be accountable, but I ain't apologize. And that's what Dad said. And if Dez is still in here, he know if I'm lying, I'm flying blinding butt naked. That's what Dad said. Sue to my sister, thriving glow with choke smoke, your chat, blessed to chat. Thank you. Yeah, what Deaz was doing was he was not reacting in reality. He just told us that he was not reacting in reality. Most people don't react to reality. We react to the story that we immediately that we immediately create. They had said. But I reacted last night and I was right, just like a just like a gen xer you just like you sow gen x Bro. You such a you, such a ah. But I reacted last night and I was right, Man, Get out of here. Bro. Were talking about when we was wrong. Yeah, we were talking about when we was wrong. We react, but not to reality. We react to the story that we immediately create. He ignored me, man, they disrespected me. They don't respect me. Man, I'm feeling. But instead we should really be asking, saluted my sister's sweet taste in the building. What's up with you, Tata? We should be asking what actually happened? You feel me? And we should be we should be moving toward what actually happened. That's awareness, and awareness is indeed power. You feel me? Yeah? All right, man, let me speak this up because I gotta go, man, I got I got I got work to do. I ain't even finna lie to you. Man. Response Bils. Leadership. Leadership isn't emotionless, man, It's not emotionless. Leadership is intentional. And remember bear in mind that when I'm talking about leadership, I'm always talking with the origin, which is leading yourself or starting with self. Leadership. Leadership is not emotionless. It is intentional. And the question is how do I make them feel what I feel? That's not the question. The question is not how do I make them feel what I feel? The question is what outcome do I want? What outcome is in step with the purpose of my individual purpose. And when you're leading and interacting with others, then the purpose of the group as a collective. You feel me, what out come do I want? And the outcome should be locked in step lined up with the purpose. That's leadership. You understand what I'm saying. That's leadership, and that is where a lot of people get it confused. You feel me. But we have to be intentional with our responses. Yeah, leadership is intentional. It is not emotional. It's very much, very much intentional, very very much intentional. All right, man, we gotta get I gotta get that. Let me get let me get it together and get out of here. So I'm gonna post this in the I'm gonna post it. I'm gonna excuse me, I'm going to post this over on the network so that y'all can, y'all can, y'all can. I was telling y'all to screenshot this live, but I don't want you to screenshot it. I don't want you to screenshot it. We're gonna post this. We're gonna post this. So you got three questions. The three questions are number one, what am I feeling? Number two? What story am I telling myself? And number three, what response protects my standards? You feel me? What response protects my standards? And that as y'all see, man, screenshot this and live by this. But I'm gonna create this image and I'm gonna doctor it up a little bit. And I'm also gonna make that mug. You feel me? That mug has been in my brain for a while. Pauls, think choose lead. Paul stink, choose lead. Pauls, think choose lead. You feel me. I'm talking about at work, I'm talking about with yourself, I'm talking about with your family, I'm talking about in your marriage. I'm talking about as a parent. Paul's think choose lead. Pauls, think choose lead. Y'all, y'all sue to my brother, Supreme Beast boxing talk what's up with you? Bro? Salute to you. Pauls, think choose lead. We go through it one more time. Number one, what am I feeling? Number two? What story am I telling myself? And number three, what response protects my standards? What response protects my standards? I'm telling y'all the pause is powerful. Sal salute to my sister thriving glow with y'all coming through man and sprinkling some more jewe ows. Yeah man, yeah man. All right, all right, all right, all right, all right, all right, all right, all right. Here's my challenge, man. And you know I always got a challenge for. The next seven days that'll put us, that will put us were next Friday, for the next seven days us Thursday. I'll put this Thursday. And for those of you all who are looking to embark on it, we'll have something at the end of this challenge. I'm really serious about this challenge. Saluting my brother the dirt game boss man coming through and blessing the blessing the challenge. Thank you. Here's my challenge, man, oh boy, man, y'all made me work today, because at the end of the day, man like, our emotions arid first, and that's all well and good, But our emotions don't get the final vote. They don't. They don't get the final vote. Mm hmm. Nah, they don't get the final vote. No way, no way, no how no way, no how So this is my challenge for the next seven days. Pause before you text, pause before where you quit. Pause, it's it's it's I really wish I could make it more complicated, or I wish it were more complicated. It's not. Before you text, pause before you quit, pause before you defend yourself, pause before you interrupt, Pause before you spend money emotionally, pause before you speak. Pause because pause and the pause, and that pause is where leadership begins. Right. The pause is where your standards get get to win. You feel me. The pause is where your self mastery becomes visible. Remember this. Your power is not measured by how quickly you react. Your power is measured by whether you can choose your response under pressure. You feel me. Your power is measure by whether you can choose your response under pressure. Yeah, and I'm gonna I'll leave you. I'm gonna leave you with this. The pause is where you reclaim your steering wheel. Emotions may enter the room first, you feel me. Your emotions may just very well into the room first, but it does not get to decide what happens next. 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