Episode 272 - The Black Coffee Club™

It's not. It's it's. It's it's. It's it's. A man, what's up with it? Family? It's a new day man, it's a new days. Man that shop feel good? Ain't ain't felt it in the wow. I ain't felt it in the wow. Man, Oh that feel good? I ain't felt it in the wow. Man, New Day, New Day. It's so I ain't gonna get that in your sperience. New Day, New Da. It's shut. Man, New Day, see her stag. It's shut. Man that show, feel good Man, New Day, New Day. It's up new man. Shout out to the family. Man, what's up with it? Man? What's up with it? What's up with it? Man? Salute to you all. Man, So let me say this man, Welcome to some and welcome back to most, to the Black Coffee Club, the most intentional morning circle on the planet. Man, salute to you all. Thank you all so much, man for taking the time to tune in, really, truly, genuinely appreciate it. Man, if I had a million times, I couldn't tell it all. I am in DJR host Junior the Truth. You can follow me everywhere via social media. I can be found with the handle Junior the truth. It's j U n I O r t h E t r U t h n that over all the social media platforms. Man, each and every one tifty two in a building. What's up with you? Love? But if you're really looking for me, man, you come over to the hub www dot Junior Thetruth dot com. That's www dot juniorthetruth dot com. Man, that is all things junior. Man, come on over there and pull up to the hub and that'll get you everywhere you need to be. Man. Salute to the family. Man, what's man? I miss I uh, I miss being in here and I miss y'all. I ain't gonna lie to you. I ain't gonna lie to you, but I'm also I'm not gonna lie to you. And I'm also not gonna play around with y'all today because I'm late. You feel me, I'm I'm definitely tardy to the party and so we gonna really get to it. Slut the big das kunkin Doll, my BCU family in the building, Man first in the chat, that's where he's at, and King Finny eighty six got his back. Salute to King Finnie, what's up with your homie? Salute to Jameson George in the building. He says, Salute to you from Atlanta. Salute to you family. What's up with it? Jameson George? Man, I ain't seeing you in a minute. Bro, I ain't seen you in a while. Man. Salute to the family. Man. Is you a cock? J Reed? Jay Reed? Is you a cop? You ain't no cop? Jay Reed? Salute the boxing and barbecue in our building. What's up with you? Salute to my sister, she heartstat Man. She says, good morning, Junior, and the chat all the way from Well. I ain't gonna tell I can't say your location. I shouldn't be doing that. You know. It's treacherous out here for sisters. You feel me. I ain't gonna say your location. But Indian Land, you feel me, far far away Indian Land. Salute to my sister she hartstat Salute the Tiffy too. What's up with you, Tiffy two? What's up with you? Laugh? Huh Man. Salute to the family. Though, thank y'all so much. Man. Man, let's get to it. Let's just get straight to it. Man. Top of the day, Top of the day, Top of the day. Once once again, Man, welcome back to the Black Coffee Club, and I am a Dija host Junior the truth and this morning, we're not gonna play with it. We're not gonna play with it, you feel me. It is the twenty second day of the sixth month of the year twenty twenty and we almost I'm talking about almost halfway through this thing. Man, My brother James and George said I had to give my life in order. Thanks for all the knowledge six months sober. Salute to the family. Man, salute, Bro salute, Bro, salute, salute, salute family. Yes, indeed, I'm glad man. Congratulations to you both. Y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all. Saluta James and George. Man, he a big deads went on and gave you that theme emoji. Man, let me, I need to get in there and give brother theme emoji. Let's get to it, man, We're not gonna play with it. We're not easing into it. We're not dressing it up, you feel me. We're going directly at the truth. The title of this morning's conversation is pressure doesn't lie. But you've been lying to yourself. You've been lying to yourself, and that might hit a little rough this morning, especially because y'all know, I ain't really been in the studio. I ain't been going live, we ain't been really dealing with the production. I've been traveling and moving around. We had the I was on vacation in Florida last week, and then this week I came back and we had the inaugural Dayton Black Rodeo. Man this week, salute to everybody man that made that happen. Also, it was my thirtieth class reunion. I said, thirtieth class reunion, So you know, I was, you know, my classmates, and we happened to be at the Black Rodeo for it, you know, so on and so forth. Man, So it was a lot going on. So I've been I've been under extreme amounts of Prussia, and Prussia doesn't lie. But you've been lying to yourself. That might hit a little rough this morning, you feel me, That might lay heavy, That might make you shift in your seat. A little bit. Good. Good, because. Sometimes the thing that makes you uncomfortable is the thing that finally tells you the truth. You see, a lot of people have been calling themselves disciplined, A lot of people have been calling themselves focused. A lot of people have been calling themselves serious. A lot of people have been saying, I'm committed, I'm ready, I'm locked in, y'all come in here and tell me all the time. I'm about to change, I'm about to get serious, I'm about to get back on track. I'm feeling, I'm feeling, I'm feinla. But then you know who shows up? Pressure? That pressure shows up. Yeah, And when pressure shows up, life gets heavy. The schedule gets crowded, the emotions get loud, the money gets funny, you feel me. The relationship gets tense. Yeah, the relationship gets tense. The body gets tired, The kids need something, the job demand more, The bills show up, the unexpected happens, and all of a sudden, the person who claimed the person who you claimed to be disappears. The person who you claim to be disappeared, disappears. The promise, the person who you promised yourself he was gonna be disappears. And now you irritated. Now you are inconsistent. Now you're making excuses, and now you're skipping. The thing you said mattered. It doesn't matter anymore. The thing that you said mattered doesn't matter anymore. And now you are breaking the promise that you made to yourself. And here's the truth. Pressure did not change you. Pressure revealed you, you feel me, the real you, not the you that we be gallivating around, bullshiting with no The pressure revealed the real you. And that is the conversation this morning. That's the conversation this morning. Because pressure does not lie, it cannot lie, does not lie. Pressure tells the truth about what you practice. Pressure tells the truth about what you value. Pressure tells the truth about what you have built. Pressure tells the truth about what you only talk about. And for some reason, pressure hurts so much. And the reason why I'm sorry, The reason why pressure hurts so much is not because pressure is lying. It's because pressure is telling the truth we've been avoiding. That's why I hurt so much, because it's telling the truth that we have been avoiding. So pour up your cup of coffee or your favorite morning beverage, lock in, because this morning we're gonna talk about standards, discipline, stress, motivation, and the real test of your self mastery. Man, I'm talking about the real test of self mastery. Let's get it. One. So I've hustled harder than the moment I'm a feast on these streets. Got a revolver I told for these niggas trying to take me off the block where I posted up daily set, Dailey's out the bottle of smoke. Yes, indeed, yes, indeed, oh man, dang even feel good to be back in here. All my settings is tot up, though. Let me see, can we tighten the settings up a little bit? Just a little bit. Let's get to it, man, let's start here. Pressure does not change who you are. Pressure exposes what you practice. That's important because a lot of people say things like, I don't know what happened. That wasn't me. I was just under pressure. I was just stressed. I was just tired, I was just overwhelmed. No, that was you under exposure. You feel me. That was you without the costume. That was you, without performance, without the performance. That was you when the conditions are no longer convenient. Now I understand stress is real. Pressure is real. Life gets heavy. Nobody is denying that, like those things are facts. It's a fact of life. You feel me, Life gets heavy. Pressure is real. Those are facts of life. But pressure does not create a brand new person out of nowhere. Pressure reveals the person who has been getting trained in private. You feel me. If you practice complaining, pressure will expose complaining. If you practice avoidance, pressure will expose avoidance. If you practice emotional reactions, pressure will expose emotional immaturity. If you practice inconsistency, pressure will expose inconsistency. If you practice discipline, pressure will expose discipline. If you practice structure, then pressure is going to expose structure. And if you practice standards, then the pressure will expose standards. You feel me. You you do not rise to the occasion. Most of the time. You fall to the level of your preparation. It's why I don't believe in luck. Luck is where opportunity meets preparation. You feel me. You create your own luck, and preparation is not just what you write down in the planner, especially the simple truth minute man, your plan It's not what you just write down in the planner. Preparation is what you repeatedly practice when nobody is clapping. What are you repeatedly practicing when nobody's clapping. See, people love the idea of discipline until discipline becomes inconvenient. You feel me. We love the language of standards until standards require sacrifice, like we love like we gonna have a real conversation. We love coming in here and talking with each other. And we and y'all love to hear me say standards, and you love to say standards, and we love to We love like we love the thought, We love the idea of standards, until standards require sacrifice. We love the identity of self mastery, until life asks you to actually master yourself. You understand what I'm saying, Life really, when life asks you to actually master yourself with no longer in love with the identity of self mastery, it is over with yeah, yeah, And that's when the truth shows up. You feel me not when everything is calm, not when everything is clean, not when you got eight hours of sleep. You feel me not when everybody is cooperating, not when the money is right, not when your emotions are settled. The truth shows up when life puts weight on you, When life leans on you, that's what we call it in Ohio. When life leans on you, you feel me. That's pressure, and pressure does not ask what did you intend to do? You feel me? Yeah. Pressure basically ask you what have you practiced enough to become? And that's why you cannot keep lying to yourself about who you are becoming because your reactions are repeating or excuse me, or reporting on your repetitions. Your reactions are reporting on your repetitions. The way you respond under pressure is not random. You feel me. Your reactions are reporting your repetitions. I think that might be a bar. It's the evidence, it's the evidence. Your attitude under pressure is evidence. May y'all kind of quiet? I think y'all scaring me. Your attitude under pressure is evidence. Your habits under pressure evidence, your language under pressure evidence, you feel me, your decisions under pressure evidence, Your discipline under pressure is evidence. And here's where it gets uncomfortable. If you already ain't uncomfortable, this is where it gets uncomfortable. Some of us do not have a pressure problem. We have a practice problem. The problem is not the pressure. The problem is the practice. Yeah, we've been practicing the wrong things, King Vonnie, we've been practicing the wrong things. What's the wrong things, Junior, what you're talking about. We've been practicing excuses, We've been practicing delay, we've been practicing emotional decisions, we've been practicing inconsistent to see, we've been practicing avoidance. We've been practicing comfort, We've been practicing quitting. Oh, we've been practicing quitting. Ooh, this generation, man, we some quitters. We some quitters. We some quitters. We ooh we gonna quit? Oh, we gonna quit. We practice quitting. Yeah, then pressure comes and we act surprised. When when? When? Those are the things that. Show up excuses, delay, emotional decisions, inconsistency, avoidance of comfort, quitting. Yeah. You cannot practice low standards all week week and expect high standards to appear under stressed. It doesn't happen. Salute the ab Yeah, you cannot practice this organization and expect structure under pressure. You feel me. You cannot practice procrastination and expect urgency under pressure. You cannot practice emotional living and expect disciplined decision making under pressure. I'm just trying to help. I don't want y'all get mad at me, man, I'm just trying to help. But if you get mad at me, focky, it is what it is. I got to tell you the truth. You cannot practice emotional living and expect disciplined decision making under pressure. Pressure exposes what you have rehearsed. Pressure exposes what you have rehearsed. One more time. Pressure exposes what you have rehearsed. So the question this morning is not how do I handle pressure? The real question is what have I been practicing That pressure keeps exposing and that is where the work starts. Like that where the real work starts. Ooh, that shit maint my eye. My eye twitch and my nerves bad. You feel me because I'm in here talking to myself. Now, let's talk about motivation, motivation. What's up with the mahar Nation Sports podcast? She harts to say, call it out. Let's talk about motivation. Yeah, motivation is cute when life is light. You understand what I'm saying. Motivation is easy when everything feels possible. You know, motivation is easy on Sunday night when you're planning for the new week. Like, motivation is easy. Motivation is easy when you bought the new planner. Simple you've men and manual Personal Planner www dot Themnimanyo dot com. Yeah, yeah, yea, yeah yeah. Motivation is easy when you bought the new planner. Motivation is easy when you posted the quote Motivation is easy when the music is playing. Another of the great What's up with your baby. Motivation is easy when the music is playing. Motivation is easy when the idea feels fresh. You feel me when the idea feels fresh. Motivation is easy. But motivation has a very short shelf life. And then after a minute that motivation, that shit stink is spoiled. You feel me. You know how quick motivation spoils that shit ages like milk. Motivation disappears when life gets heavy, and that is why you cannot build your life on motivation. Motivation is an emotional spark. I'm not saying motivation is bad. I'm saying motivation is an emotional spark. Discipline is a structural commitment. Motivation says I feel like doing it. Discipline says it needs to be done. Motivation says I'm excited. Discipline says I'm responsible. Pittsburgh, Big Dog, what's up with you, homie? Yeah yeah yah yeah yah yeah yea yeah yeah yeah. Motivation says I'm excited. Discipline says I'm responsible. Motivation says this feels good. Discipline says this is the standard. That difference matters because a lot of people keep wanting to feel the way they felt when they made the decision. You feel me. Motherfuckers want to feel this the way you felt when you made the decision. You decided to change when you were inspired, but you have to execute when you tired. You feel me. You decide to raise your standard when the idea felt powerful, but you have to live that standard when life gets inconvenient, you feel me. You decided to become disciplined when you felt clear, but you gotta maintain discipline when your emotions get noisy. Yeah, and that is the real test. Motivation will not carry you through pressure. Your standards have to. Your standards have to. And this is where a lot of people fuck that. This is where we get exposed. This is where we get exposed. We do not have standards. You got a funky ass mood. Do you hear what I said? Your mood weighs more than your standard. You don't have a standard. You have a funky ass mood. When you feel good, you show up when you feel inspired. You execute when you feel energized. You follow through when you feel supported, You stay consistent. But the minute you do not feel like it, everything f apart. You got a fucking ass move and not a standard. That's not discipline, that's emotional cooperation and in this space of mastering yourself, and you cannot depend on emotional cooperation because your emotions are not always gonna cooperate. Some of y'all got up this morning and didn't fucking feel like it. Man, I'm sorry for all the cuss words, but it's the twenty second month, I mean the twenty second day of the sixth month of the year twenty twenty six. Man, they seeing aliens and all types of shit. Man, we ain't got tame be fucking around, you, feel me. Some of y'all woke up to day and didn't feel like it. Your emotions are not gonna always cooperate. Some mornings you gonna wake up tired. Some days you're gonna be frustrated. Some weeks are just gonna be heavy, you feel me. Some seasons are gonna test the shit out of you. Some responsibilities will show up at the worst possible time. That's life, you feel me. Some of y'all raising your grandkids, that's life. And if your standard only works when your emotions agree with it, it is not a standard. If your standard only show only works when your emotions agree with it, it is not a standard. I'm gonna say it one more time. If your standard only works when your emotions agree with it, it is not a standard. That is a preference. A standard has to hold when the feeling leaves. A standard has to hold when the motivation fades, when the pressure rises, when nobody's watching, when the easy excuse is available, That's when a standard has to hold. For our slight, what's up with you? Homy, salute to you, yoh. That's when your. Standard gotta hold, when the easy excuse is available, when you're standing their holes through those things. It's important because that's where your identity is formed. Not in what you do when you hyped up you feel me, not what you do when I what you do when you hype you feel me, but when, But in what you do when you're not hyped you feel me when you're at your even kill, when you at your level, your your even level. Yeah, when you at your even level, who. Are you then? Not when you hyped up? You understand what I'm saying. It's some ship. It's some shit for uh motherfuckers that left waist right, It's some ship to go in the gym and you and you you know, you know, y'all have that song y'all got to hit you feel me to get yourself amped up, and and and you just going for that one rep. You feel me, And that's not where that you feel me. That's not where the ship is formed. The ship is formed when you go on that bitch and you listen in the Frank Sinatra and you get on the bench and you and you and you are rapping. You feel me through your workout and you're actually exercising through your workout, and then you go the next day, and then you go the next day, and you go the next day. That's when the standard is formed, not when you hyped. You feel me when you're even killed. Yeah, that's where the truth is. That's the truth is. And the fact is, man, we've been waiting to feel motivated again. Stop waiting because motivation ain't the requirement, Nella. Motivation ain't the requirement. The standard is the requirement. You don't need to feel like it to do what responsibility requires. Shee heart statu. You ain't got to do that. You ain't gotta wait. Listen to what I said. You don't have to You don't need to feel like it to do what responsibility requires. You do not need to be excited to keep your word. That's you ain't gotta be excited to keep your word. You feel me. You don't need to be in the mood to protect your future. Yeah, you don't need to be. You don't need the perfect emotional conditions to live by a higher standard. You need a decision. You need structure, You need accountability. You need to stop giving your feelings video power over your future. Did you hear what I said? You need to stop giving your feelings video power over your future. Fellas, you need to stop giving your feelings veto power over your future. Salut to my brother's storm. Me be man in the building. You said that my audio is choppy? How's my audio? Everybody said, I'm choppy? Oh no, what did I do? Oh? Let me see? Hold on, y'all give me a second. Let me. Is it good on my end? Or I'm still I'm still glitching. They don't want me, they don't hold on. Let me let me try this. You said it's been glitching for two minutes. Hold on, they don't want us chopping this good game up? Hold on, Nela, you ain't led. You ain't lying, Hey, man, you ain't lying. It's say I'm connected. Man, Am I better? Ay? Man? Dad said you got them? You said I sound like RTD two. Oh no, do I still sound like that? Oh? Man? Uh ship? No? That said you mentioned them? Folks? Hey man, test test. Can y'all hear me testing? Testing one to one two? Testing my mic one to one two? I still sound terrible. Hold on, I'm here to entertain, and this means you. I don't know what. I didn't hit the robot thing. Hold on, let me see dag Ab said, no, nah, you still messed up. Man, They didn't, they didn't. What about now? Am I do I still sound? You said it's the EV? Now I hear my EV. My EV is cool. I only want you to love. I don't want nobody else. It still that stuff? Damn UN's dawn? Oh man, I still sound like RTD too. I only want jutah love. I don't want nobody else. Now my sound is Let me let me hold on, let me listen to it on my on my on my side. I only want chut love. I don't want nobody else. Ah, I hear it. I don't know. Oh that's that's terrible. Why they want to do me like that? Y'all? Hold up? Let me see everybody dropping out. This is terrible. Mm hmm, well this is a good this is a good litmus test. Let's go and see what's going on here. Y'all bear with me, and I still I might be still terrible. I hate that, man. I guess I gotta I guess we gotta wrap this up. Dang man, I only want you the love you said. I'm clear now, I don't want no body als. Y'all can hear my ship? Now? I said, I only want you the love. I don't want nobody els. Are we back? We're back? Hey, I won't I promise, I won't be I won't mention no people's no a man, I promise. I'm on my good I'm on my best behavior. They just reminded me of the power of the you feed me. I don't I don't want no issues, So let me go. Let me go back. Listen, man, motivation is not the requirement. The standard is the requirement. You don't need to feel like it to do what responsibility requires you. Feel me, You don't need to be excited to keep your word. You don't need to be in the mood to protect your future. You don't need perfect emotional conditions to live a higher standard, you need a decision. You need structure, you need accountability. You need to stop giving your feelings the veto power over your future. Fellas, we gotta stop being so emotional, you feel me, gotta be so gotta stop being so emotional. I'm talking to myself. I'm emotional in the motherfucker, Tivy said. Tivy two said, I think you're back down. Thank you. I only want you up. I don't won't nobody edg. Man, you gotta stop giving your feelings veto power over your future. Because when life gets heavy, motivation gets quiet. And when motivation gets quiet, your standards start speaking. You feel me, yeah, the questions starts speaking. I mean, excuse me. When motivation gets quiet, your standards start speaking, and the question is do you have any. Do you have any? Now, Neela, let's go deeper. Standards must survive stress. That is the point. Standards must survive stress. That is the point. A standard that only exists when things are easy is not a standard. A standard that disappears under pressure is not a standard. A standard that gets negotiated every time life gets busy is not a standard. A standard that depends on convenience is not a standard. That shit is just ideas you like. That shit is just an idea that you like. A real standard survives stress. And this is where we have to be honest. You understand what I'm saying. A lot of people do not abandon their standards all at once. They negotiate them. You negotiate them, and you negotiate them down slowly. You feel me, You negotiate them down slowly. When I say that, what that looks like is you have a standard, and you're standing on that standard and it's up high. You feel me. And then you have all these conditions. And these things in your life and these thoughts and these ideas and people and everything, and they're trying to talk you down off your standard. You feel me, she heartstat And they're saying, here, kitty kitty, here, kitty kitty, kidd eh, you're trying to talk you down off your standard. You feel me. You're getting cat called down off your standard, big dash. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're getting cat called down off of your standard. We negotiate them down slowly, and they say, it's just one day. You feel me. I have a lot going on, m man, I'll get back to it. This week is is different? Yeah, hey, this is you know ay, you know that catill call you down off your standard. Bro, Please believe that the cat will call you down off your standard. Come here, come here, cat called down off the stand? There home. This week's different. You'll say say shit like I deserve a break. I'm under pressure. I'm doing the best I can. You feel me? Now, let me be clear, just so that we're clear. Man, let me be clear. She say you stupid. I'm telling the truth. Though, Let's be clear. Rest is real, Recovery is real, ab grace is real, Adjustment is real. You feel me, But some of what people call grace is really permission to lower the standard. You feel me, And that's really the that's the dangers of Man. I ain't trying to do this because they're gonna start messing up my stream again. But that's the that's the that's the that's the issue with some of the religious doctrine. You feel feel me because motherfuckers, are we too comfortable operating in grace? And what we're really doing is lowering the standard. You understand what I'm saying. So man, I'm wrestling with myself. Can y'all tell I'm fighting with myself, but I'm gonna just give it to y'all like I get it still seizing everything. I'm gonna just give it to you. So you know, motherfucker, be too comfortable operating in and in grace. And so what grace to do is grace to have you jumping out the church house and jumping on the dick. You feel me immediately. You feel me you just took communion. Now you're taking backshots. You feel me like we be too comfortable operating in grace because grace will lower the standard because you take it and you taking back, but you ain't taking backshots. From your husband. You feel me like we. Can get you feel me like, yeah, that grace is dangerous. Yeah, so people, you know what people call grace is really nah. I'm come on, like we gonna what trick Daddy say. Don't watch the stomach girl, watch the deed Like, come on, man, y'all go from watching the pastor to going over the over the uh Tito's house and Tito over there. You understand what I'm saying. Tito over there playing the game, drinking cut water, rolling rolling up some rolling up some of that motherfucking moon rocks. He getting raided, he getting raided. A dig down in there. You feel me and you operating from grace. You jump out the church house to jump right on the deck. But grace is really permission the Lord the standard. You feel me, she said, how do we get here? Hey, I'm just saying you feel me, like me and get herself grace. Man, I didn't have a long night. Man, I'm i'm, i'm, i'm, I'm, I'm. Oh God, oh God, the Lord Jesus, sweet Mother, Mary and Joseph. You feel me, hey, man say man? So like now I'm saying like fellas like you feel me like we call it grace, but it's a permission, the Lord of the standard. Man, you feel me, y'all going out, you meet the young lady, you finally get it to go out. Next thing, you know, brouh You going there and face first on the first night. Man, y'all eating box on the first night, Like, uh, you feel me? Grace is a really permission for you to loryer your standard. Man, stop the madness. Some people call it rest, but it's really avoidant. You ever staying in the bed to avoid some shit. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yea, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah. You ever you ever stay in the bed to avoid it's really avoidance. You standing in the bed to avoid them kids, You standing avoid in the bed to avoid decisions. Some of what people call being overwhelmed is really a lack of structure. Some of what we call pressure is really the result of decisions that we refuse to make earlier. And that's just it, And that is the part that we have to confront. Man, I gotta get out of here. I've been on here too long, playing with y'all. That's the part. That's what we gotta confront. Because stress does not always come from life attacking you. It doesn't. Sometimes stress comes from the mess you tolerated too long, the conversations you avoided, the bill you ignored, the habit, you excuse, the schedule, you refuse, the structure, the relationship you refuse to address. You feel me, the boundary you refuse to set, the responsibility that you kept delaying. Now now it's all loud at the same time, and you call that pressure. But some pressure is just accumulated neglect. Those would be self afflicted wounds. You feel me, And that's why standards matter because standards protect you before pressure gets loud. Standards give you structure before chao spreads. Standards force correction before consequences stack up. You feel me. Standards stop you from a repeatedly betraying yourself and then acting shocked when life gets heavy. It's not about perfection, it's about alignment. Can your standards hold when the day gets difficult? Can they hold when you get tired? Can they hold when you frustrated? Can they hold with somebody test your patience because you know there's always a motherfucker sitting there waiting to test your patients. Can they hold when nobody's watching? Can they hold when the excuse is actually reasonable? Yeah, I'm talking about the excuse that's actually reasonable, because that's the dangerous kind of excuse, you feel me. The reasonable excuses, the understandable excuse, the excuse that people will agree with, the excuse that nobody will challenge. But just because an excuse is understandable doesn't mean it's acceptable. That's grown man shit, right there, you feel me, that's grown man shit. Just because an excuse is understandable doesn't mean it's acceptable. At some point, you got to stop asking. Will people understand why I did not do it, and start asking will my life improve if I keep accepting that shit, if I keep accepting that explanation, will my life improve? Because people are understanding your people will understand your excuse, you feel me, people are understanding your excuse. Your future won't understand it. Your body won't, your family won't, them kids won't, your business won't, your purpose won't, your peace won't. Your results will not understand those excuses. Yeah, so. Results do not care that you had a good reason. Results reveal what you repeatedly accepted from yourself. Yeah, And when stress shows up, the question is not whether you can explain your way out of the standard. The question is whether the standard is strong enough to survive the stress. And if it's not, then the standard has to be built, not announced, not post it, not talked about, rebuilt through daily action, through structure, through through through follow through, through correction, through responsibility, through doing the thing when you do not feel like doing the thing. Because standards are not proven in calm situations, man and calm conditions, standards are proving under pressure, you feel me, standards are proving under pressure. Man, Let me bring this home because we forty six minutes, he and I gotta go. Apologies for the audio issues. Salute to everybody that's still listening and still rocking. I appreciate you all. Shout out to everybody over on the podcast that actually made it through the audio issues, man, thank you. I really truly, genuinely appreciate you all. Y'all are the real MVPs. The real test is not what you do when you feel ready. The real test is what you do when you do I feel like doing it. That's the test. Not the vision board, not the plan, not the announcement, not the intention, not the new notebook, not the fresh start, not the Sunday reset. That motherfucking test is on Tuesday morning when you're tired, when Monday kicks you in your ass, you feel me. It's Tuesday morning when you tired. The test is Wednesday, when life interrupts the plan. The test is on Thursday, when nobody checks on you. Test is on Friday when you want a coast, when it's time to coast, you feel me. The test is the weekend when your structure gets loose. You feel me, and the opportunity presents itself to get loose. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, thank you, shee hearst that I appreciate it. And happy happy Father's Day and belated Father's Day to everybody man all the father salutes to you. Yeah. The test is when the emotion is gone and responsibility is still standing there looking you in your face. And that's where you find out who you are and you find out who you become. And because anybody can make a decision when they're inspired, but identity is built. Identity is built when you keep the decision after the inspiration leaves. Man. That's discipline. Discipline is not loud, it's not flashy, it's not always exciting. It's quiet, it's repetitive, it's boring. Discipline is boring, you feel me. Discipline is doing a necessary thing when the emotional reward is not immediate. And that's difficult in this microwave society when everybody wants what they want when they want it. And the truth of the matter is that's why most people don't build it, because they want they want. People want transformation without repetition, people want results without standards. People want an identity without consistency. People want confidence without evidence. But self trust it don't come from saying you're going to do something like. Self trust don't come from just saying you're gonna do something. Self trust comes from watching yourself follow through. Excuse me, it comes from watching yourself follow through. And every time you keep your word to yourself, you build evidence. Every time you keep your word to yourself, you build evidence. Yeah, every time you break your word to yourself you build evidence too. So either way, you always training yourself. The question is what are you training yourself to believe? Are you training yourself to believe that you can be trusted or are you training yourself to believe that your word depends on your mood? With your moody ass. That matters because when you keep breaking your word to yourself, eventually your mind stops believing you. And I'm gonna tell the truth, and I'm gonna tell the truth on y'all. I'm gonna tell the truth on myself. A lot of us have hit a space where our mind does not believe us. You say some shit in your mind is like, yeah, nigga, right. Now. You can be honest with yourself, and you can be honest in here, or you can keep playing. But a lot of us have broken words and broken our word to ourselves so much that our mind no longer believes us. So when you say something and you declare something, your mind says, yeah, nigga right. And that's a rough that's a rough place to be in. Yeah, yeah, literally be in a space where your mind no longer believes you. You say I'm gonna start tomorrow. I'm gonna start tomorrow. Your mind says, no, you're not. You say I'm serious this time. Your mind says, I've heard this before. You say I'm done making excuses. Your mind says, yeah, nigga right. That's not negativity, that's evidence. Your mind has been watching your behavior. Your spirit has been watching your behavior, Your body has been watching your behavior. Your results have been watching your behavior. And pressure has been exposing your behavior. Man, y'all stop playing with me. Man, y'all, stop playing with me. I told y'all I'm back, and I'm back on my bullshit. I'm back on my bullshit because we got we gotta get better. We gotta get better. Yeah, pressure has been exposing your behavior. It hasn't been lying. You've been lying to your dog gass self. So now what. You corrected? Stop lying to yourself. Stop pretending the problem is pressure. Stop pretending the problem is motivation. Stop pretending the problem is time. You stop pretending the problem is everybody else. And you come back to the standard. What did you say matters? What did you say you value? What kind of person did you say you were becoming? What are you willing to do when you do not feel like doing it? That is where that is where the work is. Not in the field, when the work is in the follow through, she Harshta said, stop pretending the problem doesn't exist. That's a bar. Yeah, So. Pressure does not lie. Pressure tells the truth. It tells the truth about what you practice. It tells the truth about what you prioritize. It tells the truth about what you have built. It tells the truth about what you have been tolerating, especially from yourself. It tells the truth about what standards are real and what standards are just. Conversation meant let me let me translate that. You motherfuckers just be talking. You just be talking every day talking. We come in here talking, you go through your day talking, you get on the phone talking, you get opportunities to really make progress, and you just be talking. And if pressure has been exposing something in you do not waste the exposure. The exposure is information. Don't waste the exposure. Correct it, don't defend it, don't explain it away. Don't hide behind stress, don't hide behind busy, don't hide behind tire, don't hide behind motivation. Like she Harstadt said, stop pretending it doesn't exist. Correct the standard, because the pressure is not the enemy. The lie is. The lie you keep telling yourself about being serious while your behavior keeps proving something else. The lie you keep telling yourself about being committed while you're followed through keeps disappearing. The lie you keep telling yourself about being dis discipline while your standards keep getting negotiated and you keep getting talked down off your standard. Here, kitty, kitty, kitty kitty, that lie has to die and your standard has to rise. So here's your challenge for today. We're starting off on a Monday. We're gonna I'm gonna give you challenge. I'm gonna get out your hair. I can't believe I've been in here for them near are I love this shit? I guess I love ain't no, I guess I love this Felix neon as what's up with your hommy, ask yourself what one question? What did pressure expose about me that I can no longer ignore? Talk to him? She hardstat what did pressure expose about me that I can no longer ignore? Right that shit down? Tell the truth. Correct one thing today, not next month, not next week, not when life calms down. Today, because pressure does not lie. And now that you see the truth, you are responsible for what you do with it. Hey man, this is Black Coffee Club. Man, I'm junior. The truth. Raise the standard, raise the standard, Raise the standard, raise the standard. Man. Thank y'all so much for taking time to tune in and really truly genuinely appreciate it. Have absolutely no idea, man. This is brought to you by the Black Gentleman Grooming Company. We do have a line of all natural handcraft grooming products specifically with you and mind as to be sure to come check us out www dot blackgen dot com. Also brought to you by the Simple Truth Minimeo system. Man. That includes the book, the one Hour Book written by yours truly junior, the Truth. It is the Simple Truth Mini Manyo, the one hour book that will change the way you watch the clock. 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