How Is Value Determined? | A Very Selfish Convo.

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But I'm sitting with a question that you know quietly runs most people's lives, even when they don't realize it. You understand what I'm saying, and that question is how is value determined? Like how is how is value determined? Like? How is one's value determined? You know what I mean because I'm having this on going internal and it often spills into an external debate where we're always talking about value, right, and you know we're in this error now where everybody's you know, no, I know my worth, Know your worth, sister, know your worth? King, like I know my worth? And I'm sitting there like and I always come back to this conversation like who actually decides what you're worth? Like who actually decides it? Who decides what? What you what? Are your worth? What you chase? You understand what I'm saying, like what you tolerate? What you're afraid to lose? And the truth is, and most people don't want it to slow down long enough to actually face it. But here's the truth. The truth is your habits, your decisions, your stress, your comparisons, they all make sense what you understand what you believe gives you value. You understand all that stuff makes sense and life begins to make more sense once you understand what you actually believe gives you value. And a lot of us once again, we're just living on autopilot, man, Like every day like we just on autopilot, moving by habits that we never conscientiously choose, you feel me or consciously, we never consciously choose our habits. We just get to it. And a lot of us are just on autopilot living with those habits. And that's just really truly it. But the question is man like, how is value determined? Let's get it. I'm hustled harder than the moment. I'm a feast on these streets gatory volver. I told for these niggas trying to take me off the block where I posted up daily sim Dailey's out the bottle. Of smoke, hey man, salute to the family. I just realized I'm gonna do a couple of things while I'm sitting here, uh, talking to you all in real time, so y'all bear with me. I realized I haven't shared the content myself. Also, I tried to go live over on the Simple Truth Network, and I didn't like the way it made the audio sound, so I cut off the live on the Simple Truth Network. But we're gonna go over and we'll do a live this afternoon, possibly over the Simple Truth Network. We just got to see how the day shakes out for me, but salute. How's everybody's weekend? Man? What y'all anybody got any I know y'all watched a whole lot of football. I know I watched a whole lot of football. I know I watched a whole lot of football sports in general period, just football basketball. I guess my guilty confession is not so guilty. I'm a college I'm a women's college basketball nut. Saluted my brother Drew Titan in the building. I'm a I'm a women's college basketball nut. You feel me? So I've been. I was over there, you know what I mean with the with the. Uh watching women's college basketball, man, and a lot of the storylines there in. Just a lot of sports, man. And it don't stop because today you got the NBA all day, you got some college basketball, and then tonight you have the college football National Championship Game. So that's gonna be like all the way live and direct, you feel me. That's gonna be all the way live and direct. But let me go in here, man, and take the time to set this live up the right way over on YouTube. So I'm doing that now. But it's a may y'all house everybody's weekend. You feel me, I don't even Okay, y'all even hear me. Nobody's really responding. Or maybe because I really ain't talking about nothing, you feel me, I really ain't really talking about nothing. So y'all, y'all waiting on me to uh do the song and dance or something. You ain't got no song and dance coming today. You ain't got no song and dance coming today. Just a self mastered conversation. That's it, because we got to that's that's that's lined up right. Boom boom boom. I think we're straight because we gotta. We got to know. How's your value? How's value determined? You know what I'm saying, Like I'll be listening to uh be about a forest that I determined my value is eighty five. It's eighty five beans. For snow removal on my way home with a couple of hunting in my pockets. You feel me, ooh, eighty five beans for snow removal. That's that'll do it. Tiffy Tuo said, I got you nah man like because people be listening it and you know, this is a conversation, and it's a conversation that goes so many different ways, royal constrictor what's up with you, homie? Salute? Like, it goes a whole bunch of different ways, right, because people will sit there and talk about, you know, like what they willing to tolerate, what they ain't willing to tolerate, I know, my value, so on and so forth, especially you know when we start having that conversation just about romance, which I'm not gonna have that today, Like. I don't, I don't want to. We can't. We can have the conversation about romance and you know, relationships and so on and so forth. But a lot of motherfuckers, I think a lot of people over and undervalue themselves. You understand what I'm saying, because like how do you determine your value? You know what I mean? And motherfuckers will sit there and be like, have all these stipulations about what they want in a potential suitor or a potential mate or a potential woman, you know what I mean, and you just be looking at it like, yeah, you know I know what I want. I want this, I want that, you know, YadA, YadA YadA. And it's like, cuz, how you come up with that? And how do you how do you feel feel like your value because about the farms, Like you know, I'm under the old law and under the old law, like I hear you know, women say you know, I'm a I'm a I'm a I'm a wife, you know what I mean. And I hear me and say you know, I'm a king and blah blah blah. I'm like, yeah, that's cool, But how do you get there? How do you determine that? Because I'm under the old law and under the old lot of market determines your value? You feel me? The market determines your value? Man, you understand what I'm saying. I think the market is down for fifty year old party girls. You know what I'm saying. I'm talking about I think the I think that you know what I'm saying. I think the market is down for fifty year old girl trippers. You know what I'm saying. I really believe the market. I think the market is down for a fifty five year old you know, party dudes that got always the dudes that need attention. You know what I'm saying. I think the market is down for these things. So I don't know, like, how is your value? Determined. You feel me, and that's very much. That's a very selfish conversation. You know what I mean. And honestly speaking, most people's value comes from two places. It's either one of two places. It's internal is one, external is two. You know what I mean. And the imbalance between the two is where the trouble starts. Right, The imbalance between the two is where the trouble starts. External value is what the world responds to. You see what I'm saying. It's what the world responds to. The world will respond to the roles. That you hold. You know, your job, your titles, your position, your status. It'll respond to your skills and productivity. It'll it'll respond to your income and your economic contribution. It'll respond to the recognition, the praise, the likes, the attention that you might get. It'll respond to how other people treat you. Society is wired to reward output. Performance and useful and usefulness. That's not inherently that ain't evil you feel me, That's just how the system works. But here's the problem. Internal value is what you believe about yourself. You understand what I'm saying. External value is what the world responds to. But internal value is what you believe about yourself. What do you believe about you? Royal constrictors, salute to your family? What do you believe about you? That's internal value, and that's different. The world responds to external You understand what I'm saying, your positions, and you know the praises, and people you know seeing your praises, and they respond to what shit looks like. You understand what I'm saying. The image. They respond to the image. And this is a conversation, an ongoing conversation, and we often find ourselves having the world will respond to your image. And your internal value is what you believe about yourself. This is the belief deep down. You understand what I'm saying, the deep down belief about yourself. Belief, the belief that you're a worthy human being. You feel me that you deserve this and you deserve that. Before the applause, before the paycheck, before the approval, what do you believe about yourself? Before the position, before the acknowledgment, before the accolades, before the titles? What do you believe about yourself? What do you believe about you? You feel me? What do you believe about you? Yeah? Yeah, and I'm gonna be real with you. In my forty seven years, I've come to realize that when I've been in my best spaces, and I've been in my most healthiest space, and I've been in my most fulfilled space, I've realized that, you know, the healthiest life is built when internal validation is the foundation. You understand what I'm saying. And external value is just feedback. It's just feedback, external validation or not validation. External value is just feedback. But my internal value is the is the foundation. What do I believe about myself? That is my foundation? Can you imagine how how I'm trying not to curse, but can you imagine how screwed up your life would be? If your foundation is external, it's external value. And think about how many people you know in your life were their foundation is external value? What do what do people think about them? That is their foundation? So the old school winstonly nah Man like your think about how how crazy your life got to be? If your foundation is external is external feedback, it's extern excuse me, external value. Yeah, the healthiest life is built when internal value is the foundation and the external value is just the feedback. And when that gets reversed. When external reactions become your scoreboard, then your nervous system never rests. Man. When external when external reactions become the scoreboard, you feel me your score We all got a scoreboard. And when your scoreboard is based on external reactions, external value, then your nervous system is never gonna get rest. You understand what I'm saying. You see them people who have you know, certain statuses or whatever, and there's certain there are certain contributors you know in your respective community or in the. World, and they look beat the hell. They look beat the fuck up, no fucking making, you know, five hundred thousand dollars a year, and they look woe the fuck out. I'm trying not to cuss, y'all gotta excuse me. That's why you understand what I'm saying. The external value has become the scoreboard. Their external reactions has become the scoreboard. And when we're dealing with external once again, external is dealing with your image and internal is dealing with your actual identity. Who are you really? You feel me? Man? I hope I ain't going too fast. Y'all really ain't talking in the chat per usual salute to everybody. Though that's here in the live stream. Thank you all so much, man, really, truly genuinely appreciate you. Salute to everybody's catching a replay, replay game and full effect. Salute to y'all I love you like play cousins. And salute to everybody that's consuming this content via the podcast. The hashtags Junior Mafia and me Lave famili and my absolute first love when it comes to this content creation. I love a podcast community and y'all over there doing stupid numbers on the podcast man, So salute to you all. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. And I got to catch up with some episodes for you all because we got some episodes missing. But salute to you all, man, thank you. So let's talk about habits, y'all. I don't hold on before we talk about habits, don't. I'm let me revisit this for our sniper. Let me say this again because I don't want you all to miss this for our sniper. That and I'm talking about my personal life. I ain't. I ain't talking to y'all about some shit I don't heard. I'm telling you what I know. My healthiest when I'm in my healthiest space, and I am in my absolute best spaces in my life. The healthiest life is built, My healthiest life is built when internal value is the foundation. My internal value is my foundation, and my external value is just feedback. So when people say. Like, oh, cal a good dude, man Junior, thank y'all, thank you so much, man, you like, the feedback that I be getting from you all is the feedback. But that feedback is based on my internal my internal value. You understand what I'm saying, Like, I'm able to go and even with this, like I'm able to pour into you all and I'm able to share with you all and have these moments of exchange, even with the simple truth man and man, y'all, I'm able to do that because my internal value is the foundation, and so that enables me to be able to pour out to you all. So when I get the messages from you all, when I get the when y'all come and y'all support the content, y'all support the platform, y'all sending the cash apps, y'all sending the paypals, y'all coming over, buying the sweatshirt, so on and so forth. Uh, y'all sharing on social media that y'all got the book, and YadA YadA, YadA, YadA YadA. That is external value, and that is the feedback from what I feel is a very healthy internal environment that I've established for myself. You see what I'm saying. That is that is it? But when, but when that gets reversed and external reactions become the scoreboard, then your nervous system never gets gets never gets rest. And so a lot of us are in these spaces in our life where the external scoreboard has become in important, more important than who you are internally. And that's why, that's why, that's why you are having these bouts of anxiety. You feel me like motherfuckers who get prescriptions and medications for anxiety. No, you don't have to medicate yourself with anxiety. You gotta look at your scoreboard, you feel me. Gotta look at your scoreboard. How are you actually validating yourself? Where is your value coming from? You gotta look at your value, you feel me. And one of the key ways for us to look at our values is we gotta look at our habits. H A B B I T S. You understand what I'm saying. Gotta look at our habits we gotta talk about our habits because this is where value beliefs turn into daily behavior. So this is my core, This is my core idea about when it comes to our habits. Habits are automatic expressions of what you believe matters. Saluted Joe Delaney over on the Facebook. Thank you, Joe. I appreciate you for showing that love, Joe. Habits are your automatic expressions of what of what you believe, what you believe matters. You understand what I'm saying. So an example would be going over to social media and checking the likes or or asking do they approve? You understand what I'm saying. Overworking yourself? Overworking? Or I need to earn my rest people pleasing is you know my value depends on being needed avoiding rest. I can't stop or ill far beyond hustle, hustle, hustle, hustle. These habits aren't random, They're not random. You understand what I'm saying, and I just gave y'all four habits checking likes, overworking, people pleasing, avoiding rest. These habits aren't random, They're rehearsed responses to how you think value is assigned. It's think about that like I'm this is literally our rehearsed responses to how you think value is a sign being sitting at that job and working tirelessly. You understand what I'm saying, sitting up on the computer to the week hours of the morning doing work, not getting rest. You feel me working through the night, so on and so forth. These are habits that are responses to how you think value is a sign to your life. Once again, look at the scoreboard. Look at the scoreboard. That is very much an external that is very much an external reactions becoming the scoreboard, and your nervous system gets no rest anxieties that are all time high, Joe. If you're feeling anxious and you're feeling anxiety, you gotta. Look at your scoreboard. Look at your scoreboard. But anyway, so. I'm gonna introduce a concept to you all. Y'all know, I'll be going in my mind, I'll just be coming out with this. I'll be coming up with this stuff. I read this, I read that, I pull it all. I kind of pull it all together, and I try to present it in a in a manner that's palatable based on my own experience, my lived experience. Habit blindness. Habit blindness is when something runs your life but feels invisible because you've done it for so long. What have you done habitually for so long that you're just numb to it? Seven O Folk, Joe, what's up with your homies? Salute to you? What have you done in your life for so long that you're just blind to it? She hartstat what's up with you? Love? Salute to you, Love? What have you done in your life for so long that you're just blind to it? Habit blindness is when something runs your life, but it feels invisible because you've done it for so long. I got one, and this is gonna sound bad because of the very show that we're on. When I get up, I go and get and I make that first that first cup of Joe that more than coffee. The majority, well, it's like fifty to fifty now, But it used to be. I get in these spaces where usually it's tea. The first thing I drink is a glass of water. Then I'll get some tea. But then other times it'll be especially when I'm vacationing or I'm chilling, or like you know, I'm in my holidays seas a lot of times it'll be coffee. First thing I'll get is coffee, But it's coffee, it's automatic. Habit blindness is when something runs your life but feels invisible because you've done. It for so long. You understand what I'm saying. You don't question habits that feel normal even when they're draining you. You understand what I'm saying, even when they're draining you. You don't question habits that feel normal even when you drink and when they're draining you. Some of you are habitually get up and you make that telephone call to talk to a person first thing in an am and you know they're gonna zap your energy, but you've done it for so long, and it might be I'm about to step on some of y'all told you. I might be calling y'all mama first thing in the morning. You might call your mama just to hear her shit respectfully. And you know when you're done talking to your mama, you're gonna be draining. You know you're gonna be drained. You understand what I'm saying. Tiffy two with a cup of coffee, you know you're gonna be drained. Habit blindness. Habit blindness is when you when something runs your life but feels invisible because you've done it for so long. Yeah, so here's the pivots. I know, I stay on my pivot. Awareness interrupts automation. That's what the whole thing we've been talking about. I didn't even think to tap in with you all about your seven day awareness window from last week. Hopefully you all did it. If you didn't do it, do it this week. Go download the free tool. It's available at the Truth Shop w b W dot truth Shop dot com or Junior Truth dot com and get you there. Go over there, get the download and download the free of a minute Manual max M a T. That's Matrix and Awareness tool. Go get that and you can follow the instructions and get that snapshot of yourself, your life roles, and how you're spending your time. Awareness interrupts automation. Awareness is the moment you pause and you and you pause and you ask why am I doing this? Who am I doing this for? What do I think this proves about me? And this pause breaks the spell? And an example of awareness and my posting is to share or to be seen, and my posting is to share or to be seen. Am I saying yes because it aligns or because I'm afraid to disappoint them? Am I working because it matters? Or because rest feels unsafe? You feel me. Awareness doesn't judge the habit right. Awareness doesn't judge a habit. It exposes the belief underneath it. It exposes the belief. And that's what you gotta do. You got to get to the exposure of the belief and your belief system. And once you see the belief, you get choice back, like you get back the ability to choose. You feel me. I've really, like I've told you why I'm not shared with you. I've been in a special place in my life where I've been literally assessing everything, like everything is up for assessment. All of my relationships. And when I say all my relationships, I mean each and every relationship up for assessment. All of my activities, things that I do, things I spend my time doing, places that I've been different, communities that I support, so on and so forth. Everything is up for assessment. And I am in need of complete, absolute reciprocity and positive energy. You feel me, And if I'm not feeling the reciprocity. If there's not positive energy so on and so forth, then I had to fade the black and I gotta just kind of chill out because this year twenty twenty six for me, is literally about peace being paramount, and it's about execution, and I'm trying to kill shit this year. I'm trying to get it rolling. You feel me, and so I don't really I'm really assessing everything, but I'm operating in starting out the year operating in complete awareness, and awareness exposes the belief underneath you feel me. And the thing that I believe about myself is I believe that I am so valuable Sheetthard stat that I just can't be anywhere. You understand what I'm saying. I am so valuable that there is. A need for complete and immediate reciprocity, Like I need utter incomplete reciprocity. I need reciprocity of resources. I need reci procity of energy, I need reciprocity of emotional sentiments and expressions like I need complete reciprocity. And if reciprocity is not present, then I have to remove myself from said relationship or said a community or said whatever. Yeah, So anyway, it's all about awareness. Month of January is intentional awareness as it relates to the self mastery blueprint. Hopefully y'all got your book and you got a planner and you're working through it. If you haven't done so, you can go over to the minute Manual dot com Www dot the minutemanu dot com. I don't know what you're waiting for. The work ain't gonna work unless you work it. But anyway, so, habits run your daily life because they save energy. Right, we operate in habits, and we operate habitually because it's saved energy. Your brain loves efficiency, like your brain is gonna automatically go to default mode. You feel me, and your brain does you do several things for the mere fact that your brain loves efficiency, and so once it learns this behavior gets approval, this behavior avoids discomfort, this behavior gets a reward, then. It repeats it. You feel me. Once you start to learn that certain behavior gets approval or this behavior avoids discomfort, or this behavior of gets a reward. Once you learn that in your brain, then you're gonna it's just gonna be. It's gonna be repeated. Yeah, if external validation is your reward system. Your habits will orbit external reactions. Your if your if external validation is your reward system, then your habits will orbit external reactions. Like your habits are gonna work around external reactions. You're going to always be in a space of performative action period. That's what you're gonna be doing. Yeah, that's what you're gonna be doing. Jay Vonnie says reciprocity. You put the definition in there for us, so Luther King Vonnie man He says, reciprocity is the practice of exchanging things with others for mutual benefit, especially privileges granted by one country or organization to another reciprocity. We have to operate with reciprocity. So when you go over to Joe Delaney's content and you see Joe Delaney share a post of something I said, or she's sharing a live stream over on that's reciprocity. When you come to my content and I've shared, Hey, let's go check out Joe drive and glow with Joe, that's reciprocity. You feel me, it's reciprocity, and I need reciprocity and eat in every relationship. Like if you're coming in here and we're getting this content. Then with regard to reciprocity, then I expect that you have smashed the light button. At least that has to at least be customary that you share the light button, hit the light button. If it's sixteen people watching, I should have sixteen likes, you feel me. I don't do enough numbers to not have each and everybody locked in you feel me. That's reciprocity. And I think that if you go places where there is no reciprocity, then you should not be spending time there. Feel me, you should not be spending time here. I don't have people of where I'm going. I'm actively engaging in their communities and they're not here actively engaging in mind. I don't do that anymore. You understand what I'm saying. I'm not helping you build up your platform and then you don't come over here anything like man like, that's over with you. See what I'm saying. It's reciprocity. That's the order of the day for me. But anyway, if external validation is your reward system, your habits or a bit external reactions, but it's gonna cost you. You understand what I'm saying. The mood swings that are tied to feedback, meaning when you don't get the feedback that you want, it's gonna have a negative impact on your move You understand what I'm saying. The anxiety that you feed you feel when approval is missing. If somebody don't approve of something that you do, you're gonna be anxious. Donna feel anxiety. You understand what I'm saying. You're gonna have the potential for comparison fatigue because you're gonna be looking at other people and judging what you do based on what other people do, and then you're gonna also have resentment and burnout. And a prime example for this for me would be like the Minute Manual, the m at so writing a book and the planner was one thing those having. Associated costs, okay, cool, But. To create a free tool for you all to be able to help you all with this self mastery content that we talk about, and for it to be like sixteen seventeen people in here right now. It's like, fifteen is the correct number right now, but it ain't just fifteen of y'all. By the time we have circled the globe and this evening, you're talking about thousands of people who have consumed this content, you feel me, and for there to be less than twenty people who have went and downloaded that tool you feel me is weird to me. But that's not a that's it's not something that I I'm not searching for external validation from you all. You understand, because if I was searching for external validation based on your you guys response to that free tool that's up there, then I would have a I would start, I would shut down, you feel me, I have a I'd have a meltdown. I'd stop coming in here every day and doing this content. But this content is coming from a place of of of a foundation of internal value. You understand what I'm saying. I value the internal. But anyway, that's just an example. If you go over and you're not in those likes saint there, or if you go to work and you don't have positive you don't have positive feedback from the people that you know you're doing the work for, you gotta be careful because the mood swings, the anxiety, the comparison, the resentment that burnout. When your value is outsourced, then your piece is rented. That's a bar I probably should put that on the I probably should put that on the T shirt. When your value is out source, then your piece is rented. Your value has to be internal. Man, When your value is outsourced, your piece is rented. That's a bar, all right, man, I gotta get ready, get it. I gotta get read to get that the hell out of here. Plus you type just went live. This is where self master comes in. I always talk about this self mastery. Hopefully y'all still rocking with me, y'all, don't goin't get super quiet on me. This is where self master comes in, shifting from external to internal value. It don't happen by accident. It's a practice. Like this is a practice, meaning you have to actively engage in this. You understand what I'm saying. You have to actively engage in this. Tivy two says external validation is exhausting. That's a fact. It's a practice. Let's walk through it. Let's walk through a conversation. I gotta give y'all some news you can use. First and foremost, Number one, you got to build awareness of validation habits. Start noticing where you look outwork first, those places of your life where you look outwork first, build awareness of your validation habits, start noticing where you look outwork first, and you can just It's a simple check. When you go to do something, ask yourself, who am I doing this for? Who am I doing this for? Who am I doing this for? Like? What in the hell who am I doing this for? And it's crazy as hell for me because I'm a person that, like one of my love languages is deeds and services, right, So, like I do stuff and you might be in a situation where you know I'm doing something and it might look as if people will think, like, you know, you're doing this for you know, so that you can you know, get approval or you know whatever, And it's like, nah, I'm actually doing this for me. You understand what I'm saying. I'm doing this for me because I might see something that I don't that I hate looking at, you know what I mean. It could be my wife's truck is dirty. I hate looking at that. Let me clean that up. You understand what I'm saying. I could go to my I could go to my aunt's house and she got some litter in the yard. I'm not picking the litter up in my aunt's yard. Because I want my aunt to make me a sweet potato pie and tell me how I'm her favorite nephew and so on and so forth. I'm doing that because I know that there's litter in my aunt's yard and it shouldn't be liter there. You feel me like it's it's you really have to stop and you check in and you ask yourself, who am I doing this for? I gotta I might have a friend who. Has a flat tire, you know what I mean, and doesn't know how to change the tire. I'm gonna go help my friend with the flat tire. Who am I doing this for? I just help t few. I'm getting personal now. My brother, t F. You just bought a new house, a wonder a beautiful house. Helping him move into his new house, or go up there and help him move me him and my son, and I'm helping him move. That's not an internal validation, internal external validation, like I want t F You to think I'm the man because I came up there to know that's my brother and my brother has to move his family. You feel me he has to move in order. And I know what it's like because I've been in those spaces before where I've had to move. You feel me, and I know what it's like to be alone trying to figure that stuff out. And I know the work that falls on a man when he's trying to move and handle those things. So I know I'm going to help because I understand what that feels like. You feel me. But anyway, who am I doing this for. It's simple check in which your self build awareness around of validation. Habits Number two is practice deliberate self validation. Practice deliberate self validation. You have to validate your motherfuck yourself. Practice that. Name your own effort before you ask for any feedback. You name your own effort before you ask for any feedback. You gotta practice a deliberate self validation. Validate yourself. You feel me, like I told you. Like for me, I can go to the mat tool like that is I validate. I live literally validated myself because I felt like that tool is a bad motherfucker, So I can validate me putting it up there myself, not asking nobody for their feedback. I'm telling you that that tool is there, and if you get it and you work it and you actually apply it to your life, you will be able to shake some shit up the first month of the of twenty twenty six, and you will be able to set yourself apart from twenty twenty five and literally shake some shit up and put yourself in a position to improve and have a hell of a year. Number three, you gotta anchor, anchor your decisions and values. You understand what I'm saying, and you just ask yourself, did I honor my values. Instead of did they like it? Everything that you do each and every day should be tied to your values. You gotta have your internal value system, and if it doesn't align with your values. Then you shouldn't be You shouldn't be doing it. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, sevenfold Joe says. He says, teaching your son to change a tire the other day. Respect, yes and deed, respect, love, salute family. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. It's an incredible moment, man, an incredible moment. It is incredible, all right. Number four I gotta get out of here is you gotta practice self compassion. Talk to yourself like someone you respect, not someone you're trying to shame into something. You gotta talk to yourself like somebody you respect. Think of the person that you have the utmost respect for right and then talk to yourself like that. You understand what I'm saying. Don't talk to yourself like somebody you're trying to shame into something. I'm really bad about that. That's I'm admittedly I'm guilty about that. Like I talk to myself like, man, you ain't no shit. Man, you ain't this. Man, you ain't that. Naw. You gotta talk to yourself like somebody you truly respect. You know what I mean. And I've really focused on it, and I know what I'm on because I talk to myself like I'm a bad l mess. You understand what I'm saying, like I'm like, I'm like I'm bad, Like no one man should have all this power. And I talk to myself like that. Yeah, and number five is just you got to reward your reward system. You understand what I'm saying. Privately, log your wins, celebrate your alignment quietly. You understand what I'm saying. Let let. Mean be a doper mean not the applause, Let meaning be a dopamine. You feel me, let your when you solid, let that be your dopamine. Like that's my dopamin my dope, mean is when I do some shit and I'm solid. You feel me when things are aligned, when everything checks out. I love when that shit check out. You understand when I'm that's my doper mean. I love when it check out. When I'm saying, nah man, I'm I'm I'm about my kids. You feel me? And then you pull up on me and I'm coaching my kids basketball game. You feel tell me. I'll tell you now, I'm about my family, like, I love that. That's my doper mean, my alignment is my doper mean, you feel me. I was telling y'all the story and I'll share this. I'll share the picture on social media for those that follow me. But I told you the story about my son and how he was going crazy on the sidelines at my brother's basketball game. My brother is a coach for college's college basketball coach and uh we were there at the game and I told you all, my son was on the sidelines going crazy. You feel me. My brother sent me the picture the other day somebody in the program. I think the photographer, the program photographer. I think he got a picture of my son. My son is over here on the sidelines on his bullshit. I seen I seen that. My brother sent me that I seen it this morning, and I couldn't stop laughing because I love that shit. And I'm sitting next to him. You can't really see me because the camera zoom down on him. But my brother's over there in it. I mean, my brother, excuse me, my son is over there locked in He's in it. Man. That shit is hilarious to me, like I love when this. I love when when everything checks out, I love it. That's my dopamin, it's my meaning. And when everything lines up and what I and I am who I tell you I am, and the proof shows up, I love that. That's my doper mean. Internal value grows when you repeatedly choose alignment over performance. Internal value grows when you repeatedly choose alignment over performance. That's the bar of the day. You gotta choose alignment over performance. And when you do that repeatedly, then your eternal value is gonna grow. So here's the truth I want to I want you to sit with on this Monday, on this mlkday. You feel me. Your habits are automatic until you notice. Them, and once you notice them, you get to decide, right who determines my value? What am I living to prove? What do my daily habits say I believe about myself? Yeah? Your habits are automatic? They automatic. Go bicker with somebody else, y'all, go argue. With your mama. Your habits are automatic until you notice them. And you have to make a conscientious effort and a decision to notice your habits. And then once you notice something, you get to decide. Who determines my value? What am I living approve? What do my daily habits say I believe about myself? Yeah? You don't really change your life by forcing new habits. You change your life by changing what you believe makes you worthy. Yeah, how is value determined? That's how? Salute to you all, man, Thank you all so much. Man, I really truly genuinely appreciate you are. This is junior truth. Signed all hold on. Shout out to everybody that shows love to the Black Gentleman Grooming Company. Man, we do have a line of all natural, alluh all natural handcrafted grooming products specifically with you in mind, so be sure to come check us out www dot the Black Gint dot com. That's www dot the Black Gint dot com. I got fumbled up because I'm looking at Tiffy Two's message. She says, Man, awareness is life change. Yes, ma'am, indeed it is. Blesseds do YouTube King Vonney, salute to y'all. Thank y'all so much man for taking the time to tune in. Really truly genuinely appreciate you all. Man. Man, if I had a million tons, I couldn't tell it. Y'all be sure to go get the minute manyo Www dot the Minutemanual dot Com. Y'all, go get the book, go get the planner. Y'all pull up on me. Man. You can catch me over at the hub Junior Truth dot Com. Also, the network is still up and available. I'm gonna put a link to the network over on the hub so y'all can come over there. Y'all want to continue this conversation with more than welcome to over at the Simple Truth Network. But salute to you all, man. I really truly genuely appreciate you all. Man I do. This is Junior the Truth sanded off. Man, give me a daily reminder to view your life like a pair of dice, and y'all be sure to hit the light button. Man, y'all can be sure to hit the light button and y'all be sure to share the content. Man, be sure to share this. This is junior truth sanding off. 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