Negotiation Has Killed Your Discipline.

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Let's let's let's let's just get to it. Man, you feel me, Let's just get to it today. Man, this am We're gonna be dealing with one of the quietest killers of discipline, period, point blank, end of discussion. One of the most one of the quietest killers of discipline. Yeah, yeah, thrive and glow with Joe. What's up with you, Joe. It's not laziness. It is not a lack of motivation, it's not a lack of information. It's negotiation. Of course, the conversation is titled Negotiation has killed your discipline. Negotiation has killed your discipline? You feel me? By by show a hands man. How many of y'all actually read the titles before you come in? You probably don't. I really appreciate that too. You just come in. You don't even read the title. You just come in because, truthfully, if you've been here, the title really ain't for you. You family, You feel me? The title the title is is for other folks who have no idea what they getting theirself into. You feel me, Yeah, negotiation has killed your discipline? M h. Every time you negotiate with a standard, you teach yourself that your standards are optional. Every time you negotiate with a standard, you teach yourself that your standards are optional. And that's the truth. We're sitting with today. That's the truth were sitting with today. The fact is, some of us are not not undisciplined because we don't know what to do. You feel me, We are not undisciplined because we do not know what to do. We're undisciplined because we keep giving ourselves a way out. I felt like, I feel like I probably should have just shut the show down right there. We are undisciplined because we keep giving ourselves a way out. We keep debating with standards that are supposed to be settled, like it's already supposed to be settled, It's already supposed to be decided. Why are we debating? We keep reopening decisions that should already be closed. We keep treating commitment like a suggestion. And then we wonder why discipline never becomes our identity? Then we wonder why discipline never becomes our identity? Man? Mm m mmmm, so poor your cup of coffee. Man, I'm on some tea this morning. I got my tea this morning. But pull pour your cup of coffee or your your your favorite morning beverage, because this morning we are talking about negotiation, excuses, non negotiables, and the discipline that get destroyed, destroyed every time you leave yourself to many options. Did you, I just I really want that to sit with you. We're talking about negotiation excuses, non negotiables, and the discipline that gets destroyed every time you leave yourself to many options. Let's get it one. So I'm hustled harder than the moment. I'm a feast on these streets. Got a revolver. I told for these niggas trying to take me off the block where I pointed up daily sit Bailey's out the bottles smoke. Ay man, same man, ay man, say man. So if we're gonna pick a place to start, let's start here. Negotiation weekends, discipline, negotiation weekends. Discipline. Now, I am not talking about thoughtful adjustment. I'm not talking about wisdom. I'm not talking about responding to real emergencies. I am talking about the internal debate that you keep having with yourself when you already know what the standard is. You said you were gonna get up. Then the alarm clock goes off and negotiation starts. Just five more minutes, man, I need I need more rest. You can start tomorrow. One day won't get hurt. I mean one day won't hurt. You got a lot going on. You deserve a break. You said you were gonna eat better. Then the craving shows up and negotiation starts. You've been doing good. It's not that serious. You'll get back on track on Monday. Yeah, you said you were gonna control your attitude. You feel me. Then somebody frustrates you, somebody piss you off, and the negotiation starts. You deserve that. They deserve that response. They made you mad, Yet they made you mad. You had a right to say it like that. You had a right to say it like that. Salute to my sister, thrive and glow with Joe in the superses, showing your love. Salute to you, Joe, thank you, thank you so much. Joe. I really truly genuinely appreciate him. Man, thank you, thank you, thank you. She says, appreciate you. I appreciate you more. Thank you. Yeah, you had a right to say it like that. And that's how discipline dies, not always through a big collapse, like your discipline doesn't. It's not going to die through a big collapse, but through repeated negotiations that you are having, those internal negotiations that are on repeat. Every time you negotiate with the standard, you make your standard weaker. You feel me. Think about that. Think about those of us that have children or have raised children. Think about it. Think about all those times when you have to negotiate with a child. You feel me. I was I told my daughter she couldn't have something yesterday last night, and she sat there for a while. She sat with it, and then she asked me why not, And I was sitting here thinking about it. I just stood there and looked at her. I didn't say nothing, just looked at her and I thought about it. And in that moment I probably should have grabbed something and hit her in the head with it. You feel me, I probably should have grabbed something and hit her in the head with it. You know that when you negotiate with your children, that weakens your position, you feel me. If you say no, or then you say maybe, okay, yeah, you weaken your position when you negotiate with children. Children are terrorists, you feel me, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, And you negotiate when you negotiate with your children, you're creating terrorists who are gonna have an inability to deal with life and live with life, live life on life term, Salute the philis new news. What's up with you? Brow? Salute my brother, boxing and barbecue and a building? What's up with you? Brow? Yeah, it's the same thing. Every time you negotiate with a standard, you make the standard weaker. You teach yourself this is optional. This can be moved, this can be delayed, this can be excused, This does not really have to hold. And the truth of the matter is, you know, similar to children, once your mind learns that the standard is negotiable, it will keep testing the boundary. You feel me. Do you see what I just did there? Just like children, once your mind learns that the standard is negotiable, it will keep testing the boundary. And this is why a lot of us can't stay consistent. And I'm talking to myself, this is why we can't stay consistent. We have not built discipline, you feel me. We have built loopholes. And loopholes will always defeat standards if you keep leaving the loopholes open. Loopholes will always defeat the standards if you keep leaving the loopholes open. Mm hm mm hmm. All right, y'all quiet on me, you feel me? Salute to everybody tuning in Live. Thank you all so much. Shout out to the Replay Game Man, Replay Gang, Adult Bang, what's happening with y'all? And salute to the Salute to my first love that me lie for me lea hashtag Junior Mafia, the podcast Family. Salute to you all. Man, y'all got the podcast going nuts. Man, you feel me? Yeah yeah. King Bonnie said I'd show videos of the dark side of fun like the STV videos. I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what you're talking about, Bro, you're talking about showing the kids the videos of the dark side of fun. I'm lost, Yeah, I'm lost. Loopo's will always defeat standards if you keep leaving them open. Man. Yeah yeah yeah. Jelly Bean running off, the running off, the bot dealing, that's on my soul. We don't need no stinking box. We need people committed to doing the work. You feel me. That's why we got a skeleton crew, because everybody, everybody he ain't committed to doing the work. You feel me, So here we go. Excuses become agreements, man, Excuses become agreements. The excuse you keep using is not just an explanation. It's becoming an agreement between you and your lower standard. Man, did I say that the explanation? The excuses you keep using is an agreement between you and your lower standard. You say I'm tired, and eventually tired becomes an agreement that you do not have to follow through because you tired. You feel me. You say I'm busy, and eventually busy becomes an agreement that your priorities can keep getting neglected because you're busy. Feel You say I'm stressed, and eventually stress becomes an agreement that your attitude, your habits, and your emotional control can fall apart because you stressed. Yeah, you say I'll do it later, and eventually later becomes an agreement that the standard does not have to happen today. Procrastination wins, and that's the danger. That's the danger. The first time you use the excuse, it feels small. You feel me, It feels small. But if you keep repeating it, then the excuse becomes a part of your operating system. It becomes normal, It becomes familiar. It becomes the script that your mind reaches for every time discipline is required. You feel me, Yeah, y'all use it all the time. You use it in your personal life, use it in your professional life, you feel you use it in your romantic life. Think about when you don't do something, When you don't, when you fail to do something that you're supposed to do, and you reach for I got busy. It's slipped my mind. I forgot. I got a whole lot going on. You always reach for that. You understand what I'm saying. And I'm in a space in my life I'm just gonna keep it a brick that I forgot. Shit don't really work for me. You know what I'm saying, Especially if it's something that I'm depending on. You understand, because I forgot communicates that I'm not a priority, and what I need it done is not a priority. And if, and especially if it's on repeat, if you repeatedly forget, then you haven't forgot at all. You've made a conscientious decision that I'm not a priority, that this is not a priority. And if you keep repeating the excuse, it becomes a part of your operating system. It becomes normal, it becomes familiar, It becomes the script that your mind reaches to every time discipline is required. So you don't have to employ discipline. You just reach for the excuse, and this is where you have to tell yourself the truth. Some of your excuses aren't random. Most of your excuses aren't random. They're rehearsed. There rehearsed. You have used them so many times that your mind knows exactly where to go. Damn y'all quiet in the chat? Your mind knows exactly where to go. Y'all can at least give me my theme emoji? You feel me? At least give me the theme emoji? A damn it, man, You have used your excuses so many times that your times that your mind knows exactly where to go. The moment responsibility shows up, the excuse is already waiting. It's already locked and loaded. It's already in the chamber. You already got the excuse in the chain where you locked and loaded. You feel me. Jenny Bean said, I got two ears in one mouth for a reason. I'm a sponge today, be a reflective one. Bro, I'm a sponge too. We're gonna be a reflective one today. The moment responsibility shows up, the excuse is already ready, and it's already waiting. It's already locked and loaded. You feel me already by two two five? Box a talk? What's up with you, hommy? I'm not sure. Did I speak to you earlier? He said? Gott to stop making agreements? Bro got to got too. Yeah, And what that means is when that when the excuse is already locked and loaded, that means it's been trained. It's been trained, and whatever you train gets stronger. Joe, did you hear what I said? That was a shit, That was a bar. That was what your excuse? When responsibility shows up, you already got an excuse waitings. The excuse is already locked and loaded and it's waiting, And that means the excuse has been trained. And whatever you train gets stronger. Did you hear what I said? Whatever you train gets stronger if you train excuses, excuses get stronger. If you train discipline, discipline gets stronger, if you train follow through, follow through gets stronger. If you train negotiation, though, negotiation gets stronger. So the question is not just what excuse am I using? That's not the question. The deeper question is what agreement have I made with that excuse? You feel me? What agreement have I made with that excuse? Have you agreed that your health can wait. Have you agreed that your word to yourself it don't matter. Have you agreed that your attitude can be controlled by stress or other people? You feel me. Have you agreed that your purpose can keep getting delayed? Have you agreed that your standards only apply when life is easy? Because if the excuse keeps winning, then it's no longer just in it. It's no longer just an excuse. If the excuse keeps winning, it's no longer just an excuse. It's an agreement, and that agreement has to be broken, you feel me. If excuses keep winning, it's no longer just an excuse. It's an agreement. And in order for you to get what you need to get out of this thing, order for you to get to where you're trying to get in life, you feel me, in order for you to get to a space of really mastering yourself, that agreement has to be broken. You feel me. Joe said, I didn't get to five to five hundred and twenty five pounds without training. I had to unlearn the training and retrain myself. Yes, indeed, salute to Joe, Salute to Joe. Yeah, Yeah, that agreement has to be broken, Joe had to break that agreement. You feel me, it has to be broken. All right, let's move the correction. Let's move to correction. Standards require non negotiables. If everything is up for debate, then you don't have standards. If everything is up for debate, you don't have standards. You have preferences. You prefer to be disciplined. You prefer to be healthy, You prefer to be focused. You prefer to be consistent. You feel me, You prefer to be calmfer to be structured. Salute the days. What's up with you, homie? But a preference can be moved by mood. That's a that's a that's a bar, or a T shirt or something. A preference can be moved by mood. A standard has to be stronger than mood. That is why every disciplined life has non negotiables. A non negotiable says, this does not get debated, This does not depend on how I feel. This does not change because life got inconvenient. This does not disappear because I'm tired. This does not get sacrificed every time something else gets loud. Now, your non negotiables do not have to be dramatic. They don't have to be dramatic. They do not have to impress anybody. You feel me. The fact of the matter is a lot of my neegotiables nobody knows about. Nobody knows about. They don't have to impress anybody. They just have to be real. A non negotiable might be I move my body every day, I do not speak disrespectfully in my home. I review my money every week. I keep one promise to myself daily. I protect my first hour. I do not start my day in chaos. I do not let stress control my mouth. I do not abandon the standard just because the day got hard. Those all might be non negotiables, and that's how identity changes, not through hype, but through non negotiables. You have to set your non negotiables because non negotiables remove the daily argument. You feel me, You do not waste energy debating what has already been decided. What the fuck is we talking about? It's already decided. And that's why discipline requires decision. You have to decide before the moment gets hard. You have to decide before the craving hits. You have to decide before the stress rises. You have to you have to decide before the schedule gets crowded. You have to decide before the excuse shows up, because if you wait until, if you wait until the moment of pressure to decide whether the standard matters, then the excuse already has an advantage. Like you're giving your excuses the advantage, because keep in mind they already locked and loaded. The standard has to be decided in the event in advance. The standard has to be decided in the in advance. That is the only way it survives. That is the absolute only way your standard is gonna survive. Yeah, all right, let me get my ass out of here. Some of us, some of us, some of you me. We we keep giving ourselves escape routes, man, and correction begins with removing options, because we keep giving ourselves too many escape routes. It's too many exits, there's too many loopholes, there's too many just in case excuses. It's too many ways to back out. And then we call it freedom. No no, no, no, no, no no no. Sometimes the fact of the matter is freedom requires fewer options because the wrong options keep pulling you back into the same life or worse you feel. Me, if the option to quit is always available, then quitting will keep becoming easier, becomes easier to quit. If the option to delay is available, then delay will keep becoming normal. If the option to disrespect the standard is always available, then the standard will never, ever ever become your identity. So correction begins when you remove the option. Remove the option to start your day in chaos. You feel me, Remove the option to argue with the alarm. Remove the option to keep reacting emotionally. Remove the option to keep spending without awareness. Remove the option to keep saying yes to things that destroy your order. I got that bad. You feel me too, too, fab Box, you said too many escape routes for real. Start removing the options, bro, Stop removing the options. Remove the options, the option to keep saying yes to things that destroy your order, Like I'm literally in this space and I'm talking about and I realized this in the last two weeks last week, where anything, if it impacts my order, I can't do it and I have to stand on that. Remove the option to keep calling your excuses reasonable. It's not about being harsh with yourself. It's about being honest with yourself. You always know, like, excuse me, you already know where you keep negotiating, you feel me, You already know the standard that that that that keeps getting debated. You already know the area where discipline keeps losing. So stop pretending that. Stop pretending that the problem is information. You don't need more information. The problem is access. Yeah, your lower standard still has access to the decision, and that's why it keeps keeps winning. You need to remove the access from the lower standard. You need to make the standard clear. You need to you need to make the structure simple. You need to make your decision early. You need to make the excuses unavailable. That's correction, Like, that's the correction that you need. That's the correction that we need. Because discipline grows when negotiation dies. Discipline grows only when negotiation dies. Yeah, So I got a challenge for you. Here's my challenge for today. What standard in your life needs to become non negotiable immediately? Not next month, not next week, not when life slows down, immediately, like I'm talking about like right now, not even today. I'm talking about right now, in this instant. What standard needs to become non negotiable immediately? What standard have you have? You been debating for too long? You feel me, your attitude, your schedule, your finances, your health, your focus, your family, presence, your spiritual life, your work ethic, your self respect. What standard keeps getting weakened because you're negotiating with it. You gotta name it. Name it. You ain't got to tell me you feel me, And if you want to share it with me, then bring your ass over to the Simple Truth Network and you can connect with me and share it. You feel me, but name it. Then remove that option today. Remove one excuse you feel me, Remove one one loophole, Remove that escape route. Remove it. It's an excuse, it's a loophole, it's an escape route. Remove it because every time you negotiate with a standard, you teach yourself that the standard is optional. And if the standard is optional, the result is gonna be optional too. You feel me, So you wonder why these things that you have, the desires of your heart, you're not able to accrue them, and you can't acquire them because it's optional. You only gonna require some shit when it's not optional. And I'm talking about the desires of your heart, your goals, you feel me, your ambitions, the things that you want to build, the things that you want to accomplish in your life. It is only going to come to pass when you stop negotiating with yourself. You have to stop negotiating. The result is going to be optional if the standard is optional. So today, stop debating what needs what needs to be decided, Stop debating. Just raise the standard, make the standard non negotiable. And then then I need you to live like your word to yourself matters. Live like your word to yourself actually matters. Hey, man, this is the Black Coffee Club. Man, I'm Junior the Truth. Raise the standard, man, raise the standard. Thank you all so much for take getting time to tune in, really truly genuinely appreciate it. Man. This show is brought to you by the Black Gentlemen Grooming Company. We do have a line of all natural, handcrafted groomer products specifically with you in mind, so be sure to come check us out www dot the blackgent dot com. That's www dot the blackgen dot Com. 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