☕ The ACCEPTANCE Life Hack | The Black Coffee Club Live #selfmastery

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But salute to the family, man, I really truly genuinely appreciate you. While man, nothing like ushering in the spirit of the ancestors for me man on a on a on a Friday, One time man for uh the ancestors. Man, one time for the holiday season, one time for us, you know, continuing to press man and continuing to make our way through. A salute to you all. Thank you all so much man for taking the time to tune in. I really truly genuinely appreciate you. I couldn't wait to get in here today, man, I could not wait to get in here today. So top of the day, top of the day, Top of the day. Salute to everybody. Man, Salute to everybody, and we go back to the top, big walk. What's up with you family? Saluted my beautiful beautiful sister Shower in the building. What's up with you Shower. Salute to my beautiful beautiful sister Tatat the real Queen of MLA and combat talk hashtag in wye ce baby in the building. What's up what you take Man? Salute to Macadosha's Maack of the South in the building. My brother ab is in the building, Man, Salute to you. Salute to my brother Cono Loco Sports is in the building. Shout out today LDBC Man. Salute to the dirt game boss in the building, saluting my brother Thomas, you senior in the building. We're gonna cook today, Bro, I started to call you this morning. Man. We're gonna cook. Bro. We about to we about to cook one time for the fun time. We about to cook. Let me see, did I get everybody? Salute to my BCU family. Big Dasmond come doll in the building, man, he said Jim, And as usual, yes, Lord, salute the big days man in the building. Man. Man, um. Man, I'm gonna try to I'm not gonna lie. Man, I'm a i'm a I'm on my real life pisces uh uh man six person, just full, just all out man energy. Man. I am ultra emotional. This is the holiday season. Man. I am very very much in love with the ancestors. Man, I'm in love with all things from the creator. Man. I'm just I'm just I'm just I'm just full of just gratitude man. And I am continuing to press and persevere and do the best I can with what it is that I have. So i'm a i'm A. We're gonna get through this one though. Man, We're definitely gonna get through through this one. So for me, Man, today we're gonna be tapping into this life hacking. This is life hack that I have. Okay, salute to my brother kind of local sports. I see you today. We're gonna we're gonna we're going to tap into We're going to tap into one of my my life hacks, man, and I'm gonna ask you this. I'm gonna ask you this. Well, let me tell you, let me let me preface this all. But I'm going to for those of you all who are gonna endure and gonna go, you know, be through this and make your way through this live stream and through this episode, be prepared to to just be prepared. You know what I'm saying. Be prepared. You may be offended, You may feel challenged, you may feel you may may feel inspired, you may be angry, you may want to curse. Uh, some of y'all might want to fight me. You know what I'm saying. Uh did I say? Did I say? You might be offended? Be prepared for all of those things. But at the end of the day, man, we're just gonna continue to press. And it wouldn't be me if I didn't, if I didn't bring this to you, just like I get it. Have you ever wondered why certain areas of your life you seem stuck, You seem you seem stagnant. Maybe you might feel like you going in circles you never not, you know, you feel like you're not hitting that next level. I want you to buckle up, because this conversation, man, it just might be the wake up call that you need. You understand what I'm saying, the wake up call that you need. And I'm talking about acceptance. And I know that I've talked to you all before, and we've talked about acceptance and we view acceptances you know, a thing that that that you know, it's just a part of our lives and we have to move into, you know, acceptance. But what if I was to actually tell you that acceptance is a trap, it's a judge, it's excuse me, a drug, It's a tool of mediocrity, you feel me, And if you're not careful every aspect of your life, your personal life, professional life, your spiritual life, man, it will be tremendously impacted by it. And that sounds heavy. I know it does, man, I know it sounds like you know, some of y'all are like, man, what in the world. Is he talking about you? Feel me? But acceptance? Man, I said it, and I'm gonna say it again. It's actually a trap. It's a drug. It's a tool of mediocrity, and if you're not careful, it will negatively impact every aspect of your life. Let's get it one. So I'm hustled harder than the most. I'm a feast on these streets. Got a revolver for these niggas trying to take me off the block where I points up daily sit, Bailey's out the bottles, moke hey man, say Man, yes, yes, indeed, Man, I'm so glad you're here. And once again, man, I'm an I guess introduced to some reintroduce to others. The Black Coffee Club live man. Here is a place where we dive into self mastery, personal development, community empowerment, and many many trending cultural conversations that matter to us. We have a very diverse community, a very diverse uh hashpot you know what I'm saying, if you will, of varying ideas, varying experiences, and we all look to come here to grow and to build with one another. And that's it, man, And today I'm going to challenge our mindsets and help kind of uplift us and get us locked and loaded and getting ready to move into the year of twenty twenty five. Man. And the title of this episode is the Acceptance Life Hack, because there's a misconception, you know what I'm saying, And that misconception is that acceptance is always a good thing, Like acceptance is a good thing, is always a good thing. And I think that it's important for us to accept our reality in the sense of recognizing where we are right. But I think that it's a slippery slope. It's a very very slippery slope, and it is very possible that you could move into acceptance and you could literally put your life in a place of constant, consistent, permanent stagnation through acceptance and viewing acceptance as a good thing. So I'm gonna tell you this, like a few years back, I've told this story several times. I'm gonna tell it again. Some of y'all might not have heard it. Saluted my sister, Shade girl. I see you in the building. What's up with it? Meet me? Salute the happy hour conversations with Tamika in the building. I see you, Tamika in my professional realm and my former life. I had a position and I just kind of how can I say this? Man? I was stuck. Man, I was stuck, and I was in the position that I was stuck. I was my for whatever reason, is my opportunity to move forward at the university were stagnated. It had got so bad with me that they would have opportunities for me too that I'm more than qualified for that were levels level up or a level up from what it was that I was doing, and I wouldn't even get the opportunities to pursue to pursue, uh, those greater situations and instances. And so I just got to a place where I was just kind of like, all right, man, I got a job. I'm cool. A job is better than than than you know, no job, you know, so on and so forth. And then one day it just hit me, like a ton of bricks that I was comfortable in my discomfort, Like it literally hit me, and everything in my life kind of just flashed before my eyes. You know what I'm saying. Everything in my life flashed before my eyes. And so I'm want to challenge you with just one particular concept, in one statement. Sea would listen to me everything. At that point, everything in my life looked like what I was willing to accept. Today the twenty third of December twenty twenty four, everything in my life looks like what I'm willing to accept. T f you, Bro, Everything in your life today looks like what you're willing to accept, Bro, Like everything in our lives looks like dirt gang boss. Everything in your life, it looks like what you're willing to accept. Like, everything in our lives looks like what we are willing to accept. Your life looks like what you accept. And that's in every facet of your life, my body and soul. That's personal, professional, spiritual. Everything in your life looks like what you're willing to accept. To accept everything, everything, your health, your weight, your relationships, the way you actually look like your physical appearance. Everything looks like what you are willing to accept. Where you live, what you drive like, everything looks like what you are willing to accept. What did I say? I said acceptance was an acceptance? What did we say? We said it was an acceptance? Was a drug? Or excuse me, it's a trap. It's a drug. It's a tool of mediocrity and everything in your life looks exactly like what you're willing to accept. Baby don't act right. You can't get you and baby y'all can't see out of eye, y'all can't get on the same. It looks exactly why, like you're willing to accept. That woman acts exactly how you have accepted her acting. That man acts like exactly what you've accepted. Your children, they act exactly like what you've accepted. The people at your job, they treat you and they act just like what you've accepted. I'm really about to just turn this shit off, man, for real, I'm really about to just gone and turn this off, gone about my business, and you know, wish you all a merry Christmas. You feel me for those of y'all, for those of your happy holiday season, man, so on and so forth, Like that's really where I'm at with it, Like I should just unplug this and gone and get to the rest of my day. Your life looks exactly like what you've accepted, period. That ain't nothing else to it. And this goes back I'm talking about, this goes back to elementary, like this is so elementary, this is so this is so elementary, and so fundamental and so foundational with regard to your life. Like I'm gonna put y'all blast coach sixty seven sports TV. I see in the building. What's up with a coach? And coach sixty seven Sports TV. I think you're a school teacher by trade. But this is how foundational this is. Remember back in the first grade, and we were really starting to put the rubber with the with the road, and we were really learning how to read and how to write and how to spell, and so on and so forth. Remember Remember remember when somebody just decided, or remember you might have been decided, let's talk about you. Let's stop making this shit up. Let's talk about you. Remember when you decided you just wasn't gonna be good at math. Remember remember you decided that, Man, I just math just ain't my thing. I just don't like math. Remember when you decided that. Remember when you decided you didn't like reading and you just didn't want to read no books. Remember when you decided just spelling, Like I just can't spell. I can't spell for shit, and I'm just not gonna spell, and that's just gonna be it. Like I like to work with my hands, I don't want to do school work. Remember when you just decided that you didn't like school and you just accepted the fact that you wasn't gonna do well and excel in school and do the things that you needed to do to excel in school, because that's just what you accepted, that you just wasn't gonna be good in school. I should just put a plug on the show and gone about my business. Yeah, that's how fundamental that shit. That's how fundamental this is. I gotta stop off this cursing. That's how fundamental it is. That you can go back, you can pinpoint to a space in your life, and I'm talking about you and you. I'm not talking about nobody else right now. I'm talking about you and you. You can go back into your life and you can pinpoint a moment when you just folded and you said, you know what, Like, I just I'm accepting from myself that I'm not gonna be good at math. Never mind practicing, never mind studying, never mind repetition, never mind trying to get help, never mind tutoring, never mind getting around people who actually loved math and hanging out with them, never mind all of the stuff that will absolutely one hundred percent guarantee your success within the realm of math. Y'all stop commenting. I must have y'all stopped. Y'all, don't stop commenting on me. I must to what's up, Joe Delaney? I see you all on Instagram. Salute to my sister Joe Delaney. I must have. I must have ruffled some of y'all feathers. I told y'all at the beginning of the show, you might possibly get offended, but you quit on yourself. You quit on yourself, and you accepted. You accepted, in that specific instance, you accepted a level of failure. You accepted that you weren't going to be willing to do the things that you needed to do to be to be to be successful in that area. And I'm talking elementary school because I'm talking about first grade, second grade, some of us kindergarten. You opted to realize and to accept that you were not gonna be good at that, and you chose to fail. That's how fundamental, That's how fundamental acceptance is, and that's how bad and how heavy and how tricky acceptance will be. Tiv usaid, you chose failure, face palm, We chose failure Bro, Remember when the math got too hard and we didn't study, and we just said, man, itself is stupid, and we just conceded that we wouldn't. You're just not gonna be good at it, you feel me. We went to we went to school, Broen, we was kids, t Field and I and I can speak to t Fel because we grew We grew up together. I'm talking second, first, second, third grade. To feel. We were supposed to be engineers. Bro, We're supposed to be engineers. And when it got when it got time to clock in and go do what we were supposed to do to be those nah ah nah, we settled for something else, like we made it. We accepted that. Nah, I'm just not finna do this, Bro, I'm about to change my major. I'm nah no, I'm gonna go do some social work, Nigga. I'm gonna go do some soft skills. I'm gonna go do some now I'm gonna go do something different. Yeah, Bro, we chose felt like we chose it. That's how fundamental that principle is. And I'm telling you that today, as a functional adult in my in my mid forties, approaching my late forties, i am of the This is like an epiphany and this is my this is a life hack, and this is how I live my life now where I'm like, hey man, your life looks like what you are willing to accept. Yeah, your life looks like what you are willing to set willing to accept to Mika says. She says, or we say we want this in real life we get when we get older. I can't. I don't know me. We want we want this in real life we get older. I think you got I think you get autocorrect. I can't understand that meet. You know, I'm from you know, hey man, you know I can't read good tief. You said, man, messed all that up, gave up a full riding school of engineering. That's what I did. You feel me? Yeah, I'm trying to tell you. Joe Delaney over there in Instagram, she said, when we ignore all the red flags, we are accepting bad relationships. Truth. We're gonna get to that. We're gonna get to that. We're gonna get to that. Yeah, Because I'm gonna tell you, like, even with that, like you know what I'm saying, like ignoring the red flags, Joe, and I'm gonna keep it real with you. Even when we say stuff like ignoring the red flags or whatever, we're we're one stepping ourselves away from accountability, right. We are one stepping ourselves away from accountability, right instead of totally immersing ourselves into accountability because of what the accountability says is what is it about you that? What is it about you that a person would even be comfortable to bring certain things in your presence? You feel me like, there are things that it even you should you have to be presenting something at a certain level that let me stop. I I present things at a certain level with myself that you're not even comfortable having a conversation with me, Like, if you're not on an up and up, you're not even comfortable coming and having a conversation with me, right, Because ultimately, at the end of the day, what you present is what you're gonna attract. You feel me like, what you're gonna present is what you're gonna attract. So if those if those red flags are presented to you, then what have we done to attract those red flags? Salute to my saluting my brother, kind of local sports pulling double duty. I see you family, Salute to you, Yeah, uh to Mika says, we used to say we will not use this in real life as we get older talking about math. Okay, I got you. Yeah, we used to say we will not use this in real life. The hell with that math. I'm not using it in real life. The hell with algebra, trigonometry, geometry, so going, and so forth, and totally negate and the fact of what it really does, because what it really does for you, in my opinion as an educator and as a part it what it does for me anyway, is it teaches me how to think, how to think abstractly? How do I think in an abstractedly in an extract way? How do I salute the Mahmie Dirk game boss pulling double duty? How do I think in an extract form? How do I think outside of the box? You feel me? How do I problem solve TF you? How do I think outside of the box? You feel me? How do I take a formula and take a formula and apply this formula and plug in different numbers, different numerals, different integers, different whatever into this formula and get the proper answer. Can I follow this formula? Can I follow this instruction and take this formula and apply it in every instance in order to get the result. But we just decided, nah, man, I ain't finna do none of that. I'm just not gonna be good at this period. I'm just not gonna be good at this salute box and barbecue, he says. Engineering just teaches you how to think a certain way, how to think, how to construct you feel me, how to how to problem solve, how to implement, how to innovate. It's a lot, and it's the stuff that you do in your real life, in your regular life. You're engineering stuff in your regular life. But the fact of the matter is, acceptance is a trap. Man, It's a trap. Acceptance is a trap. It's a drug. It's a tool of mediocrity, and you have to be very very very careful with it. So, all right, so acceptance in your personal life, right, So in your personal life, you know, health, relationships, finances, everything will mirror what you've decided is good enough. So your life looks like what you decided is good enough for you. If you if you accept unhealthy eating habits, it's gonna reflect if you've if you've accepted uh uh, toxic friendships, toxic relationships, it's going to reflect. It's going to reflect if you if you've accepted negative financial habits, it's going to it's going to reflect. So it's all about the RECOGNI the recognition of your standards. Like you have to recognize what are your standards? And if you missed the show last week where we talked about values, go back to that, because your your standards should be indicative of your values. What do you value? Your values should be reflected in your standards. Your standards should reflect and be a direct reflection and be and have a direct correlation to your values, period point blank in the discussion. And if you don't, if you're not uncertain what your what your what your values is, what your values are, then accept And it's like you know that show, that's shit, That's what it is. Yeah, what do you value? Right? I was in the I was in home depot the other day. I've had this happen to me several times too, especially as of Blake. Now I'm about to fence some people. It's cool, y'all, Just y'all hanging there with me, man and y'all come on around. But I walked past this dude and he was in there with his uh with his woman, and he smelled like a pound of skunk weed. Smell like a pound of skunk weed, right, and I'm looking at him. It's early in the morning too, It's early and I'm looking and so this just puts me, always puts me in this space. If you've accepted in your life that you have to get high in order to function, I want you to think about that, like you've accepted in your life that you have to get high to be regular, you have to enduld in a minor mood altering chemical in order to get high, I mean, in order to be regular. If you're addicted to cigarettes, if you have to, if your nerves ain't ain't ain't good and you have to smoke a cigarette, you start tweaking. If you ain't had a cigarette, you gotta go smoke a square. Salute to Tim TV two one two man in the building, he said, Bronx on deck. Salute to you, homie. Is you Is you a cop jay? Read? I ain't seen you in forever, Tim TV two one two? Is you a cop jay? Red? Speaking of which, I heard somebody on the internet saying that the other day one of one of the one of the somebody in the sport of boxing. Somebody's cover covers boxing said that is you a cop Jay Red? Man? Y'all be borrowing heavy from the kid? Y'all be borrowing heavy? But is you a cop Jay Red? But anyway, if you got to drink liquor, you understand what I'm saying. You got to drink drink liquor to cope like you've accepted something from yourself. You've accepted something from yourself. The key to this, though, once again, is you have to recognize your standards and make sure your your standards align with your values. How do you do that? You first got to make sure that you have your values in place. Like I told you, I have four that I at the end of the day, I'm gonna live by a I'm aa die bound. When I search my soul, that's what I see is my four values. The trap of comfort. Comfort can be the biggest enemy of progress. Right. Let me pause there for a second, because do y'all understand that when we look at life and we look at life as a journey, right, And what is it when we look at life and we look at life as a journey and meaning that there's a start point and then there's a destination and the storyline, the sweetness, the magic, everything happens in the journey. But there is a journey, and what is the journey. The journey is that we're moving from this point to that point. Right, So moving from here to there means that there has to be progression, like we have to be moving forward. We should be moving from here to there. There should be progression. Comfort is the biggest enemy of progression. Right, You get comfortable in your bullshit, and that slows down, stagnates, or completely stops your progression. But life is one day after the other, and each and every day we're supposed to be progressing to something. We're supposed to be headed somewhere. You feel me. We accept certain situations simply because it's familiar, because it's easy. Even though it could be draining us, it could be devaluing us, he could be killing us. We will accept it because it's familiar, because it's because it's cool, because we've been here, and we end up stuck in that, in that area between dissatisfaction and complacency, and that's our that's where comfort resides, and so we stay in our comfort. But comfort is a trap, man. Comfort is a trap. And it is also once again, it is a It is a it is a component of acceptance. Acceptance. And when you talk about your your professional life right and you're talking about hitting a career, a career ceiling, you see what I'm saying, or being in a certain position or whatever. Your career looks like what you're willing to accept. You don't like your job, you don't like the organization, you don't like the company, you don't like the way that they treat you. But you get up and you go there every day. You don't they don't pay us nothing here. Ah, they don't do this. Yeah, But you get up and you go because you have accepted it. And I just told you the story about me. Man, I got at least I got a job. This is cool. I look at other jobs I've had, look at careers, look at the amount of money I make, look at whatever I have to tell myself in order to stay in this space of acceptance in my professional life. But your life, but your professional life looks like what you've accepted. I'm not here to poopoo on nobody's professional life. I'm not here to poopo on anybody's career. I'm not. I'm not here to do anything other than to tell you the exact facts that if you're tired of the of the bs that goes on with your in your in your with your organ within your organization, you're sick of the things that go on with your job and so on and so forth, that is what you've accepted. Period. Man, If you accept underpaying roles, that's what you're gonna have. If you accept the lack of promotions, that's what you're gonna have. You if you accept a toxic work environment, that's what you're gonna have. Period. That's exactly what you're going to keep getting if you decide. But also on the flip side, if you decide that you want more and you have a desire for something different, then you'll seek those different opportunities that align with whatether it is that you want. People and I have to tell myself this as a business owner, right, people will people will, people will try to place their value on you and what it is that you do. Right, So, people will visualize or see what you do and then they'll try to place their value on it, and they'll treat you as such. If you accept it, If you accept it, they'll treat you as such. But for me, I'm in this space where like I don't accept people's values on what it is that I do. You know what I mean. I might do something and I might make it look easy, And because I make it look easy, you think that it's less valuable, even though it's something you can't do yourself, you feel me. So I do something, I make it look easy. You think it's less valuable, but you can't do it yourself. So you have to be careful with that stuff. And it's the same thing with these organizations in these jobs. Right, you go to work, you do your job, you make your job look effortless or make it look easy, so on and so forth. The powers that be they don't value what it is that you do, but they can't do it. The people that run where you work, the people that run it, they can't do your job. They cannot do especially those of you all who are customer facing, or those of you all who are hands on, those of you all who are the builders, those of you are who are the producers, the manufacturers, whatever the case may be, they can't do what it is that you do. A lot of you are people who drive trucks, right Shawa. People who drive trucks, the people who are running the boards, the people who are booking the lows, the people who are factoring the payments, the people who are dispatching, and so on and so forth. They can't do what you do, and they'll try to devalue you and devalue what it is that you bring to the table, but they cannot do what it is that you do. You feel me, it's a cold game, but it's only it's only you. Only it's only a cold game for you if you actually accepted. I made a decision for myself that I was gonna go out and I was gonna blow my own dice before I tossed them. I was gonna go out here and I was gonna eat what I killed. I was literally going to go out and I was gonna depend all on myself. I was gonna take all my chips and push them motherfuckers to the middle of the table. And this was gonna be what it was gonna be. That's what I did with my life. That's what I did with my life. It was it was a choice, it was an absolute choice. But you have to be you have to be very, very careful in your professional life because acceptance is a trap, it's a drug. It is a tool of mediocrity. And we often also often professionally, we say we want a better job, we want to start our own business, but we afraid to rock the boat. We afraid what people gonna think. You're afraid to go in there and listen to what baby gonna say when you say, nigg I need this, are my own thing. I'm trying to do this. I'm trying to do that. You understand what I'm saying. But uh uh, it's you have to be careful, man, You have to be careful. Acceptance is that drug. It numbs, It numbs us into thinking that it's not that bad. You feel me, But you gotta ask yourself, is not that bad? Is that good enough for you to give your life to? Is it's not that bad? Is that good enough for you to give your life to and dedicate any portion of your life too? Because I told you we got an expiration date, like we on the clock. So are you going to operate in it's not that bad? It is that that that good enough for you? Is that sufficient for you for any part of your life? Man? All right, So, so now I gotta talk. I gotta go. It's now spiritually. You feel me spiritually, and this is the stuff that we don't really want to talk about. Man, and acceptance in your spiritual growth, like spiritual, spiritual, spiritually Man. All right, man, I'm just gonna give it to you. If you accept that shallow if you accept that shallow connection spiritually, then that's what it's gonna be. You feel me, And I'm gonna be real with you. Some of you stump down, holy ghosts, Bible thumpers, you know what I mean. Are some of the most spiritually shallow people that there are. You are some of the most spiritually stagnant folks that there are, you feel me. I'm talking about the people that are judgmental, the people that are gonna shout you down, the people that got something to say to you about what it is that you do and you being this age and single, or you having babies out of well log and blah blah blah. The only time that they're operating and their spiritual capacity is on Sundays when they're at church. You feel me, I really should just unplug the the bored and gone by My business people will people will shout you down and and and Jesus thus says the Lord you to death. You feel me and their connection is so very shallow spiritually, but they accept that if you accept going to church and having to have a preacher there who has to tell you that God came to him to reach you, because you don't have access to that God. God only accesses him and he has to come to you. And if you accept that, acceptance is a trap, it's a drug, it's a tool of mediocrity. You feel me, and that's rather it's prayer, like you know, you go in and you gotta and you gotta. Motherfucker, you asked somebody to pray for you because you don't have a connection enough to pray for your dog ass self. I was trying not to curse like this. You ask somebody to pray for you. I want you to think about conceptually. Think about that conceptually. Think about going to somebody and asking them to pray for you. And this is somebody that you don't have any connection to. This is not an elder of yours. This is nobody that you're connected to by blood, none of you go to somebody and you ask them to pray for you because of your shallow connection spiritually, and that's prayer meditation. Any of your faith based practices. Are you going through the motions? Are you getting up, putting on your suit, going to try church on Sundays? Leaving there, going to the brothel? And you feel me because I'm I'm in my former life, I had one of them. Shower, bear with me, shower, ma'am, shower, cover your ears. I had one of them. And she was in church, she was in the choir, she was, she was dancing around, meet me, cover your ears, girl, and she was, and she was, you know, all active in the church. Church every Sunday. She drove an hour to her church. Blah blah blah blah blah. You feel me, and so i'm I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm I'm who I am. And so I would be like, all right, she go to church one o'clock, come around, all right, church over with? I text her, Hey, what's happening to you? Out of church? Yeah, I'm out of church brown three o'clock. I always send it a customary weekly text because she had a back. In them days, I had a Monday, and I had Tuesday, and I had a Wednesday, and I had a Thursday, and Thursday better than I call on Monday. So her day was Sunday, me cover your ears. So I text her around three o'clock. It said, girl, you still got the Holy spirit? Madam hell, you still got the Holy Spirit? And she'd be like, nah, it's the war off. Where are you at? You feel me? Yeah? Yeah? So are you going through the motions or are you really having this deep the connection? You understand what I'm saying, because for me, three o'clock, the spirit that wore off. It's time for us to get nasty. Teef. You you remember, man, you tea Tea didn't been there for the whole play by play. You remember a man? Look at queen? She said, Wow, the devil busy this morning. A queen, I'm just telling you the truth. Three o'clock on Sunday, A girl that's trying to get nasty. We in between the football games. The first football game is wearing all before the second game start. I need you to come over here and do something, do something peculiar. You feel me, Thus says the Lord. I'm just telling y'all the truth. Man. You know, I wish I could tell y'all something different, But I can only speak for the things that I've been through in my Luther Vandross voice. Yeah, I'm telling y'all the truth. You understand, girl, that helped that Holy spirit them? Then war off, come over here, let me bend you over like I was on that type of time. Now I'm gonna get off of that now because I've been trying to clean up my image in these streets. YouTube say I got a harmful content, and I believe that that's that. But what I am saying is, are you really going through the motions and what it is that you're doing or are you seeking a growth and an understanding spiritually? So now I'm now unless everybody, let's all get ready to cry. Let's get ready to cry real quick. So a lot of us are dealing with the transition of our loved ones. You feel me. This is the holidays and every a lot of us. Our lives don't look like how they looked when we grew up. Grandma and them gone, pappau and them gone. You got aunties and them gone, Mama gone, Daddy gone, you feel me? Or if they ain't gone, they might be on the way out. Let's have a real conversation today. They on the way out. And so we're sitting here and we and we and we we we we we're in this space right and so if you accept that, like and this is powerful for me, man Like I don't accept that my daddy did like I don't accept that. I don't accept that my nanny my grandma is dead. I don't accept that my baby's dead. I don't accept that she's no longer with me. I don't accept that my paupa is that. I don't accept that. I understand that they have transitioned into the spiritual realm. You feel me not a power for me, And I'm talking about and I'm talking about my spiritual connection. I'm talking about the way that I'm wired and how I deal with the Creator and how the Creator deals with me, and how I operate in this world spiritually. I don't accept that they're gone. I don't accept that they're not with me, you feel me. I understand that they've transitioned into the spiritual realm, that energy has has left, like their soul has left their body in the physical manifestation. So no, I can't physically hug them. I can't physically, go kiss my grandmama. You feel me. But they've transitioned into this spiritual realm, and there they have become my ancestral and spirit guys. And so now I have total one hundred access to them. You understand what I'm saying. I have the ability to go into my mind and connect with my father and I'll say, all right, my daddy will or I'll be doing something, and this is on my soul, queen, queen, on my soul. I'll be doing something and I'll be fucking it up or halfway doing it, and I will hear my goddamn daddy say something to me. I will hear my father say something to me while I'm doing what it is that I'm doing. I will hear my daddy's voice. I have not accepted death. I haven't accepted it. It's a transition. My son did something yesterday that I have never done. I have never done this to my son, TIFU, I have never done this. My daddy used to lick his thumb and wipe crust out the corner of my mouth or off my face. I hated that shit. My father used to do that. Come here, boy, I hated it. I at salute hated it. Yesterday we were eating. We were eating. I took my kids out to go eat. I let them go do their holiday shopping, and then we went and sat down and ate, and so we eating chicken, and my son gets some barbecue sauce on his face and stuff. So I'm looking at my son and my son that I just told you I have access to my father my son. I've never done this a day in my life. My son licks his thumb and starts wiping, and I seen him do it, and I didn't say nothing. The first time. He did it about three times and I stopped him and said, man, what are you doing? Bro? And I'm laughing because this came directly from my father to him. You understand when to circumvented me because I don't do the shit. This came from my father directly to my son. That's where I'm at spiritually. I don't accept that my father's not here. I don't accept that my children don't have a relationship with their with their with their grandparents. You feel me, their their their Their maternal grandmothers passed away before they got here, their maternal grandfather passed away before they got here, and before they were you know, born, and I don't accept that they don't have these relationships. It's the wildest thing, man, it's the wildest thing. But anyway, spiritually your acceptance. Are you spiritually are you operating in the space to have deeper growth in a deeper understanding or are you just going through the motions When you decide that you want a closer spiritual connection, then you start putting in the work. You understand what I'm saying, and you stop just accepting what somebody tells you can't know how somebody gonna tell you who your God is? I want you to think about that. Howard salute to a card card Evan salute to hommy, the Carnivan salu hommy. How can somebody tell you who your God is? For yourself? And then that's just it. You don't push back, you don't accept it, you don't explore it, you don't flip it up, you don't look, you don't nah, It's just it. This is God wonderful. This is where you go. Huh. And if you're trying to move into a purpose and not going into acceptance in the spiritual realm of your life, because what did I say acceptance is a trap, it's a drug, it's a tool of mediocrity. Then you're gonna have that, and that is where you're going to be immersed in whatever spirit of religious doctrine that you're operating in, and you're gonna have a very You're gonna have a very, very extremely uh surface level uh uh surface surface level experience. I gotta get ready to go. I just I got a meeting that I just signed up for and it's about to start in ten minutes. I totally forgot about it. Queen said, I need more coffee. I need more coffee. Anyway, let me say this to y'all because I gotta go. I'm gonna wrap this up and then I gotta leave. Every aspect of your life looks like exactly what you're willing to accept. Soleu, mister okay, mister TD, I see your family. Every aspect of your life looks exactly like what you're willing to accept. You understand what I'm saying. If you accept that people in your life have passed and they gone and they dead, and that's it, you know what I mean, They're not transitioning, they're not ancestral, they're not in the ancestral a realm, you don't have access to them, then that's what it's gonna be. If you accept that, you know, that woman just gonna act the way she acts and so on and so forth, and you accept it, then that's what your life is gonna look like. If you accept that that man is just who he is, and you're gonna deal with you know, those red flags and deal with how he acts and how he talks to you and whatever, then that's just what it's gonna be. If you accept how people treat you right and how people act towards you, and you just accept it, then that's what it's gonna be. Your life is going to one hundred percent look like what you are willing to accept. Period. Now. I told y'all I was gonna challenge all to day. I was gonna challenge the way you think. If you accept smallness, you're gonna stay small. If you accept disrespect, you're gonna keep getting disrespected. You feel me. If you demand excellence, then you gonna have excellence. But it's gonna start with yourself. Like you gotta start with you. You have to literally start with yourself. It don't And that's what I was saying to my sister Joe Delaney, it's not even about nobody else, It's about you. And if I'm demanding excellence of myself, then how dare you bring mediocrity to me? You can't come around me with no mediocre conversation and I'm demanding excellence of myself. Motherfuck? Are you crazy? Like I think so highly of myself. You can't bring no bullshit to me. You understand what I'm saying. That's how I think so highly of myself. You can't come around me and have no bullshit conversation. If you coming to me to have a conversation, it just better be a conversation where we're trying to build something together and we're trying to improve and we're trying to master some shit starting with ourselves. All Right, I gotta go, man. If you found value in today's show, be sure to subscribe. Hit the like button. Y'all can always hit the cash app because the YouTube channel is not monetized. The cash app is money. Signed Junior the Truth j U n I R R t h E t R U t H. Man. I'm challenging y'all, man, be done accepting less than you deserve. Be done with it. Set boundaries. You understand what I'm saying, and be done like be done with accepting stuff that's lesser than what you want. Be done with it like, be done with it. Man, stop the madness, raise your standards, all right, I gotta go. Salute to the family. Thank y'all so much, man for taking time tuning and really truly genuinely appreciate it. 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