Who Are You Really Responsible To?

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And the things that we're doing with the content, man, the things that we're doing with the platform. So super excited for it. But once again welcoming you back to the Black Coffee Club. Thank you so much. Man. I cannot tell you enough that you are the most intentional Morning Circle on the planet man, and I really truly genuinely appreciate you all. Man, if I had a million tones, I couldn't tell it all. You all are so dope, and you you you let me just give you a and you just inspire me to just keep going. Man, you inspire me to just keep going because this self mastery conversation is not an easy conversation to have on an ongoing basis, and we've dedicated this entire platform to us mastering ourselves in hopes to actually get better and to change the dynamic for us and our families. Man. So I'm I'm I'm gonna come out. I'm I'm I'm coming in with a question today that it's gonna sound simple, man, but it will expose your life if you answer it honestly. Saluth to my brother Stormy B Man, I see you in a building. Salute to everybody, I see all y'all in here. I'm coming in with a very simp y'all be sure to hit the like button please, But this question will change your life if you answer it honestly. Who are you really responsible to? That's the question. Who are you really responsible to? King Vonnie? Who are you really responsible to? That's it. Who are you really responsible to? Not who you're trying to impress, not who you're afraid to disappoint, not even who's the loudest in your life, None of that. I'm talking about real responsibility. I'm talking about real, true to life responsibility because a lot of us are exhausted, not from doing too much, but from being responsible to the wrong things. Man being responsible to the wrong things. Who are you really responsible to? I was talking. I called Stormy be Man a couple of weeks ago, and I caught him and he was he was It was we were in the middle of a snowstorm or snowstorm was coming, and uh, Stormy b Man was actually out handling his responsibilities. I don't know if he's still in here, but he was out handling his responsibilities and he was getting supplies for his his his his uh daughter. I believe it is and his grandchildren because of the snowstorm was coming up. So Stormy b Man was out getting supplies for his for his for his his daughter and his grand babies. And he was like, Man, I'm getting ready to go over here and drop y'all know how Stormy talked. Hey, man, I'm getting over here, getting ready to go drop this stuff off. Man over here for my grand babies. Man, you feel me, Stormy's responsible. He has a sense of responsibility to the grand babies. You feel me. That's such a beautiful thing, of sense of responsibility to the grand babies. Who are you really responsible to? Once again, not who you're trying to impress, not who you're afraid to disappoint, not even who's the loudest in your life. I'm talking about the real responsibility. A lot of us are exhausted, not from doing too much, but from being responsible to the wrong things. We're responsible to the wrong things. Who are you responsible to? And that's very much an individual question. That's not a blanket question. That's a very and I see some of y'all answering it in a blanket fashion, and that's cool, but that's a very I'm talking about you because Stormy's responsibilities, right, are not my responsibilities. King Vonnie's who he's responsible to. It's not who I'm responsible to. You understand what I'm saying, and so we have to That's a very This is a very like even coming in here, I have a strong sense of responsibility to you all. You feel me. I have a responsibility to you all as a part of my community, right in this community that I've architect and built and I'm trying to cultivate. Right, But Phoenix Nunez doesn't have the same responsibility to this community. You see what I'm saying. So that is a very strong and individual question. And the truth of the matter is, Man, if we're gonna talk about self mastery, we got to talk about our roles. We gotta talk about our roles because self mastery without clarity, Like listen to me, man, self mastery without clarity is just chaos with good intentions. Self mastery without role clarity is just chaos with good intentions. Let's get it one. I'm hustled harder than the moment. I'm a feast on these streets. Gotta revolver. I talked for these niggas trying to take me off the block, way out points up daily sit Bailey's out the bottle of smoke. Smoke, Yes, indeed, yes, indeed, Dirt game Boss in the building. What's up with you, bro? Salute to you. My sister. Lakiah Allen is in the building. What's up with you, sister. I don't know if you're still here. I've seen you. Was in in the city this weekend. You can't. I know you was in and out like a robbery. I ain't. I ain't bothering you. I ain't doing nothing. Too tough, too tough. Next time you hear it, though, or I'm in Dallas. I gotta we gotta connect, man, I need you. We gotta man. I gotta if nothing else, I gotta see you so I can hug your neck. You can hug my neck, but I gotta. I gotta be intentional. And I started to pull up up on you. You know what I'm saying, because I know y'all was moving around and I started to pull up. But I you know, I don't that night life, man, I don't. Ain't no way, ain't no way. I gotta stay out the night life because them bright lights turned me into a monster. Saluting my sister kid out in the brother's UK in the building, putting some of that international flavoring the situation. Salute to my brother Mjay's total health and wellness at Richmond in a building. What's up with you? Brough? Salute to you? Old school Winston Lee is in the building. What's up with you? Old school in Winston Lee Man, Salute to you family. Kevin Dunbar the scholar is in a building. What's up with you? Brough? Salute to you. My brother A b is in the building, he said, were back on the self? Mastery, Yes, lord, it ain't no other way. What's up with you? Bro? Salute to the good sister Tiffy two in a building? Tiffy two, what's handing it there? What's up with the good sister, Tiffy two? Salute to my brother the dirt dirt game boss, I got you already, but I you know, doubling ain't at doubling up ain't no problem, he say, hashtagged out Mastery. Yes, indeed, boxing the barbecue other than slid up in here, man, saluting my brother boxing and barbecue. What's up with it? My brother Stormy b Man A Sis say it's in the building. Salute to my brother Stormy b Man. What's up with you? Broke? King Vonnie eighty six is in the building. What's up with you? King Vonney eighty six Man, Salute to you. Felix Neona is junior the artist. The artist is in the building. What's up which you broke? Salute to you? Seven O four? Joe is in the building. What's up with you? Broke? Salute to you man before our snipers in the building. What's up with you? Made me? What's up with the four ol snipers? Salute to you? Thriving glow with Joe is in the building. Thriving glow with Joe? What's up with you? Joe? Salute to you and Joe and Joe. Joe bilingual too? Ain't you bilingual? Joe? I think you bilingual? Or you might be trilingual? You know what I'm saying. I think you might be. You know, you an overachiever anyway, just by nature, you feel me. I think you might be bilingual or trilingual or something like that. Yeah, salute the thrive and glow with Joe. I have some ignorant to say about you being a bi lingual, but I forgot what it was, so I just gotta let it. I just gotta let it flow. Yeah, I just gotta let it flow. The kids said, absolutely, Yeah, it ain't no question. It ain't no question. I probably, but I know you turning, y'all turning around and coming back up here. I might be down there before y'all get up here, but we'll see. We'll see. Also, man, I want y'all let me put this on y'all. Let me put this on y'all radar, because I am not playing. I said this before, but I want you to know that I'm not joking. I am serious about us having a retreat and getting together in twenty and twenty six, and I'm thinking it's gonna be either June or July. I gotta look at my calendar and see. But I am not I'm not joking. We are going to sit down and we are going to do a minute manual self mastery retreat, and we're gonna go probably from Friday to Sunday morning, you know what I'm saying. And we are literally going to get in here and we're gonna get active. And I am not joking. And right now I'm trying to figure out where's the best place to have it and what I'm trying to and what it is I'm trying to accomplish. But I will get the information out to you as soon as I get it done. I'm gonna try to get everything kind of sketched out, probably by the end of February, so that gives you enough time to have to make your arrangements and whatnot. We'll have a host, hotel, blah blah blah blah blah. Anyway, I don't want to talk about that too much, but I JUSTI was sitting here thinking about because I said, Kiya hugging her neck, and I was thinking about it, and I was talking about Dallas because Dallas is one of the places I might want to do it. Possibly, we'll see, but I just thought about it. So I wanted to say that I'm trying not to hold on to nothing, and I want you all to put that on your radar for either June or July somewhere at that me and your point, we're going to do a retreat, all right. So let's get to it, man, Let's get to it. So let's define something most people live inside of but they never name, you know what I mean. We're gonna define something that most people live inside of but they never name, and that's life roles. Life roles. Do you understand that your life is really just a series of roles? We probably never really looked at it like that, but you realize that your life is a is just a series of of of of it's not. It's just compiled of roles that you play in your life. And they're called life roles. And a life role is one of the hats that you wear with responsibilities, expectations, and energy, energy demands. Okay, life roles is a life role is one of the hats air quotes that you wear that comes with responsibilities, expectations, and energy demands. You might be a parent, You might be a spouse or a partner. You might be a professional. You might be a leader. You might be a friend. You might be a son, you might be a daughter. You might be a creator. You might be a student. You might be a caretaker. You might be an individual with your own needs and healing. And here's why the roles actually matter, because your life roles actually shape how you show up in the world even when you don't realize it. You feel me even when you don't realize it. And if you don't define your roles, life will define them for you. You understand, do you understand this life? And how? If you don't actively engage in life, life will fuck you up. Like if you don't actively engage in life and you're not taking a bull by the horns, per se, and you don't actively engage in life, life will fuck you up. Like I wish I had something different to tell y'all, but you gotta actively engage. And so this is another instance where if you don't define your life roles clearly, then life will define them for you. Undefined roles create unspoken expectations. You understand what I'm saying, like undefined roles create unspoken expectations. You know, romantically, if you're talking when you're talking to old boy right where you're talking to old girl and y'all ain't really made an official tissue, so y'all ain't official like the ref with the whistle, but it's kind of like y'all just kind of like in this space where y'all just like, uh, y'all just kind of like, you know, we cooling, but there's no real definition. You understand what I'm saying, but then you've created unspoken expectations like I really truly expect you to be with me, and I'm with you, but it's kind of unex You feel me, but we haven't defined shit. Nah, you gotta define your roles. If you don't define your roles, life will define them for you. And undefined roles create unspoken expectations, and unspoken expect patients become silent pressure. You feel me, Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, King Vonney said, AKA Purgatory Fancy ninety six. So FOREI in a building, I think that's my auntie. What's up with you, Fancy? I think that's my auntie, she says, take your role seriously. No one is perfect and all deserve the right to be loved. That's a fact. You be confused, and the unspoken expectations become silent, silent pressure. You feel me. And so I'm gonna talk about myself. I just remember a season in my life where I was trying to be everything at once. You feel me, y'all see the image on the screen. Stop carrying everything, right? But I was trying to be everything at once, trying to be a provider, trying to be a leader, trying to be a builder, a father, a husband, a motivator, a mentor, a a nephew. You know what I'm saying, the rock of my family. And and I never stopped to ask what was realistic? You feel me, like, what was realistic? The roles are not the problem, like the life roles that you're gonna have. That's the roles aren't the problem. So we could just be clear about anything. The roles are not the problem. The role confusion is, you feel me. The role confusion is the problem, not the roles. So let's talk about these hats. Man Sarvin Glow with Joe. Let's talk about these hats. So I want to talk about them because each hat has a different version of you attached to it, you feel me. So you got to parent you. You have, the professional you, you got, the romantic you, you got, the friend you, you got, the public you, you got the private you. And if you aren't conscious of which role you're in, then you're start bleeding one role into another. You feel me. Let me, let me, let me put a pause here. So this is one of the things that I tell you all about, and I go crazy about with regard to work, for instance, because a lot of us have immersed ourselves and worked so much that work becomes a part of your personal life. You feel me, and so I'm always it is a huge turnoff for me for people who spend personal time in work environments. You understand what I'm saying, and I'm also I'm also turned off by people who have friends in their life that they made from work. You understand what I'm saying, and you spend time with your your work friends outside of work hours and shit like that. You know what I mean. Because I'm a person that I try to compartmentalize everything. For the most part, I have a very few set of exceptions of people who are worked with and we were co workers and we became friends. The majority of my friends and the people who are my friends, i've had the same friends. I'm from the sandbox with. You know what i mean. I'm talking five, I got the same like tif you and I. Thomas fud Senior and I have been thinking thieves since second grade. I'm in the second here and the first You feel me. We've been thinking thieves since then. Yeah yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. It's it's wild, man. But I'm a person who I don't really believe in bleeding stuff. You understand what I'm saying. I'm just I'm just weird like that. But you gotta talk about once again, if you're not conscious, then you will lose track of which role you're actually in, and so you start bringing work stress into parenting. You feel me, bring your relationship conflict into the workplace, trying to be the strong one with your for your friends while secretly drowning in your own stuff. You understand what I'm saying, being everybody's therapist but never having your own support. Like you have to be careful and you have to be mindful of these things. I had a person I used to work. I used to work and I used to report to I forgot, I'm in my office and I can move around, I'm on my wireless mic. But I used to report to her, and you know her relationship. You know she was in a tumultuous relationship at the time or whatnot. And I remember just times where she would bring a relationship stress and pass it on to me at work. You feel me, and in a lot of instances, if I'm being honest, she used to treat me and talk to me and interact with me like I was her man. You understand, and I'm like, oh, I ain't your man. You feel me like I ain't your I'm not your man. I'm a coworker, I'm your colleague. I'm not your man. But it's very easy for those those rods to get bled if you're or to bleed if you're not careful. You understand what I'm saying. And once again, role bleed. That's that's called role bleed. That's real. So when you're taking work stress into the house, and when you're taking house stress into the workplace, and you're taking your relationship conflict, you feel me into your meetings at work. You understand what I'm saying. Or when you're you're trying to be a therapist to your friends, you feel me and you take that friendship stress and you bringing into your home. You understand what I'm saying, especially because because women, folks, y'all real, y'all real bad about that. This is respectfully, you know what I mean. This is no judgment, but respectfully, y'all real bad about that. Like you know, your homegirl would be going through something with her man and then you come and then you you you start looking at your man sideways because of the stuff that your homegirl dealing with with her band or fellas. You know, you got a homeboy and and his and his woman taking him through it, and you be sitting there like, man, ain't no way in and the hell I'm gonna be dealing with this from this brawl, you know what I mean? And you become you be at you be at home, and you be on point, and you just be looking for reasons to spass out. You feel me, because ain't no way you're finna deal with what your homeboy be dealing with. Yeah, role bleed is real. That's role bleed. That is role belied. That is you not taking account for what role you're actually in and acted in accordings to that. And role bleed is one of the biggest sources of emotional conflict in us. You feel me. It is one of the biggest. It is one of the biggest. It is one of the uh the biggest sources of emotional conflict within us, because you're stuck at what's going on with work, right, you stuck at what's going on with work, and you're coming into your house and now your house is falling apart. You feel me, Yeah, it's it's I'm telling you, it's real. It's real. Top of the top of the day. To my auntie, what's up with you? Man? Thank you for falling through here. I appreciate you, Dirk Gay said, all his friends from the sandbox. Felix knew that I said I shouldn't so I shouldn't fragnize with my coworkers. I wouldn't, bro I wouldn't. I wouldn't. You know what I'm saying. I me personally, I wouldn't. Didn't never did well, no, no, I won't say never I did. And then I ended up in some in some less than desirable situations, and then I just realized, like, nah, it's it's they already work already gets enough of you. You understand what I'm saying. So to give them personal access? Nah, because this is all about access, you know what I mean. And the more we start to take ourselves seriously, the more we understand or excuse me, the more we start to master ourselves, the more we understand the importance of access. This is about access, and everybody doesn't deserve access. You feel me like, what is your what is the barrier entry to access to you? The fact that y'all work together gives them access into your personal life. Never. Never I had a salutor carry bay in the building. What's up with you? Brought salute to my BCU family. I had a coworker I got into it with, and I told this story to y'all a million times. But we got into it because she wanted to see pictures of my children, and I wouldn't show her pictures of my children. Like you're crazy, you feel me, I'm not FeelA. Show you think I'm gonna show you pictures of mine? You could be a pervert. Why show you pictures of my children? And then you go off and touch yourself in impure manners or something like get the hell out of me? Why you want to see my children? Like why you want to see? Why? For? You want to see my children so bad? Get away from me. I just want to see pictures of your kids. Nah, ain't no way. You're weird though you know what I'm saying. But anyway, so role bleed, That's something I want you all to keep in mind, Like row bleed, I miss something. I must have missed something, Joe said. Let me see what. Let me go back to what Joe. Joe said, we're not about confusion and not acceptance of confusion. Tifty two said facts Joe confusion comment was to acknowledge what not knowing your life role and responsibilities are. No confusion on the content in the direction where we're going here. I'm lost. I'm lost. Now, I'm really lost. Hold on, let me see, let me see if I do I need to clear anything up? Okay, okay, boom boom, I think we okay, okay, let's yeah. I'm I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm I'm lost. Ab said that, he said, that is weird. Nah man, she used to want to see pictures of my kids and I wouldn't known that at all. But all right, So when you don't define your life roles, like when you just go through life and you don't define your life roles, right, three three things are gonna happen. Three things gonna happen. The first thing is you're gonna become reactive. You feel me, You're going to become reactive. You're always responding to whoever needs you. Next, the squeaky oil will always get to grease. When you do not define your roles, you just become reactive. And so you get pulled in fifty million different directions. You're always responding to whoever needs you next. That's the first thing. The second second thing is you live by other people's expectations. Like you always live by other people's expectations. You understand, you understand, period point blank. You live by other people's expectations. Some people are responsible to guilt. Some people are responsible to appearances. Some people are responsible to being liked. Does that make sense? Hopefully that makes sense. You always will live by other people's expectations. So that might look like you being responsible to guilt, right, And you might be guilt because you have a friend who everything in life bad always happens to them and nobody else with them, and you feel guilty, you understand what I'm saying. Or you might be responsible to how things look, keeping up this facade, you feel me keeping up your image, keeping up an image, you're responsible to that image. You have to appear like you always have it together. You have to be the one that's always put together. You gotta show and you gotta keep a good face. Some people are responsible to that. Can you imagine a life of being responsible to other people's appearances? To I mean excuse me to appearance based on other people's expectations because people expect you to look a certain way, So you are responsible to appearance. Man, this is a cold game, and this is deep, Felix. Felix said, Damn, that's deep. It's deep, bro, when you really sit down and think about it. Also, you might be responsible to being liked some of us. It's about it's about being liked, like we want to be liked. That's one of the things that I really truly am. I'm really on my son about because he has that wants to be liked. You feel me, and I understand. He's young, he's different, he's in a lot of spaces where he's the only person that looks like him. You feel me. He's he's he's he's tall, he's handsome, he has gorgeous hair like my son is beautiful. You feel me. So people's default mode is gonna be to dislike him, similar to myself when I walk into a room. If you don't know me and we don't have this relationship, your default mode is gonna be to not like me. Because I'm gonna walk in the room and you're gonna say, who this motherfucker? Think he is you feel me, And that's mostly men. Women y'all gonna y'all gonn like me. Women, y'all gonna like me, but to me and y'all gonna be like, man, who is this motherfucker? You feel me? That's gonna be a default mode. And so a lot of people have feel the responsibility to being like. But that's the Number one is you become reactive. Number two is you live by other people's expectations. Felix, watch this. And number three is you lose the sense of yourself. If you do not define your roles, you will lose the sense of yourself. You will lose your sense of self because when everyone's voice matters more than your own, you disappear. When everybody else's voice matters more than your own, you disappear. You will lose your sense of self. Keith Body said, I think I made in the image of God, and your reaction is appropriate. Talk that talk, then listen to me. Number three, you lose sense of your You lose your sense of self. You will lose your sense of self. Yeah, so some of y'all, some of us don't even know who we are outside of service. Some of us don't know who we are outside of serving other people, and that is not noble. That shit is dangerous. You don't know who you are outside of serving other people. That's not noble. That's dangerous. My brother be about a farm stays. I see so many of my friends children in groups where they're the only ones that look like them. We didn't grow up with this element in our environments growing up. That's a fact, man, that's a fact. Yep, that's a fact. And in this day and age, I know for me, I have to be intentional to get my children around people that actually look like them. Have to be intentional. Yeah, all right, So role confusion it's gonna create stress. Like that's we just know that role confusion is gonna create stress because your mind can't prioritize what isn't clear. You feel me always pushing towards clarity, and your mind cannot prioritize what isn't clear. You can't allocate your energy property right, You can't say no cleanly. You feel me, and you can't rest without guilt. You can't rest without guilt. And when your roles are blurred, you feel like you're falling. You're feeling everywhere at the same time, like you feel like you're feeling everywhere at the same time, when you have not defined your roles and your roles are not clear. So let me ask y'all, have you ever tried to meet everybody's expectations at once, then looked up and realized you lost your peace? Have you ever tried to meet everybody's expectation at once then you looked up and realized that you lost your peace? You did not have peace. Ab said, yeah, kids said, that's dangerous as fuck. You tried to meet everybody's expectation all at once, and you looked up and realized that you have lost your peace. That's what happens when you're responsible to everything and centered in nothing. You feel me like we're responsible in every to everything, but we're centered on nothing. That's what happens life role confusion. That is life roll confusion. All right now, we didn't get all dark because a lot of us, to be real, were swimming in it. Right now, we're coming off the holidays, it's the beginning of the new year. We have all these expectations. We then made these resolutions and goals or whatever the case may be. I don't know who y'all think, y'all kid, And I know exactly what time it is. A lot of us are smack dab in the middle of row confusion, smack dab in the middle of our life role confusion. And I'm gonna tell you something else. Your smack dab in the middle of your life role confusion. And you didn't take yourself over there and download that minute manual mat to help you figure out this stuff. You haven't done that, a free tool. You haven't taken two minutes to go over and download and look at and start using in order to help figure this stuff out. That's the other thing I do know. So first thing I know is that we are smack dab in the middle of a role of roll confusion and needing to piece this stuff out, figure this thing out, and make this shit clear. I know that that's one. And also the second thing I know is that in twenty twenty six, you have not taken the time to actively start this process. Y'all. Just still a lot of us still be coming in here, just looking at me and listening. But you're not being active, you feel me. You are not being active. And this this ain't a passive situation like I'm not here to appease anybody. I'm here because I'm literally working on myself, and I'm here sharing the work that I'm doing on myself with you all to help you all get better so that we can get better, because we have to get better. Yeah. Yeah, being responsible to everything is centered than nothing. Man, it's crazy, all right, But let me give you some good news. Now that I done jumped all up and down on your head, let me give you some good news. Roll awareness brings balance. You understand what I'm saying. Role awareness brings balance. What's the theme of the what's the theme of January? For those of us that are following the self Mastery blueprint, what's the theme of January. I'm gonna let me ask, y'all, Let's see who really working. What is the theme of January? Let me see? Oh, let me see. Look at Joe. I hear I ran Joe, and I ran the car and the Joe she said, I didn't download it, Junior, you got me. I didn't download it. We'll go over there and download it. It's free, go over there and download it. I didn't that, or it didn't download or you didn't download it. You gotta tell me if you went over there and tried to download it and it download and that's an error on my part. I gotta fix. But I didn't see I didn't see you over there. I didn't see your information over it. I didn't see you over there trying to download it. What's the thing for January with regard to our self mastery? What are we working on itself with January? Nobody's talking. Y'all got me, y'all got me puzzled. Y'all got me puzzled. Keing Vonnie said, the toughest step is the first one. Let's get it. Yeah, And the first step is you gotta decide. You gotta make a decision. You understand. Don't just come in here and just sit around and just look. You gotta make a decision every day. You gotta make a decision, like you make the decision as to who you gonna be. That's just the fact you make the decision. We can come in here and we can work on ourselves, or we can do like everybody else and we can get on some messy shit and we can just get in here and be messy. I'm looking at my city right now. My city is just messy. Everybody just running around just being messy. We just like messiness. You understand what I'm saying. Ah, So we're gonna be messy or we're gonna work on ourselves and work at getting better so that we can raise our social economic status. Because'm gonna tell you what don't work. Being distracted and messy don't raise our social economic status. Being a messy and distracted is not gonna help these babies get better. Kia said, awareness we are working on and it's twofold, but I'll take awareness from the school teacher in the building. We are working on intentional awareness in the month of January. The first concept of our self Mastery blueprint is intentional awareness. We cannot fix what we don't see. Yeah, so all right, here's the good news. Row awareness brings balance. Roll awareness brings balance. Not because your life gets easier, but because your life gets clearer and the more clear you make things, the easier things are. When you know your roles, you can set boundaries without guilt. You can prioritize your energy. You can define success by alignment, not apply. You feel me. The more aligned I am, the more successful I am. You feel me. I don't give a fuck who's clapping. I don't give a fuck who saluting, and I don't give a fuck about none of that. I appreciate the claps, I appreciate the salutes. I appreciate your intentional energy and participation. But I know I'm on point because everything is in alignment. You feel me. Everything is in alignment. My values are in aligned with my standards, which are in aligned with my thoughts, which are in aligned with my words, which are in aligned with my actions, the way I carry myself, you feel me. It's all in alignment. So that's how that's my success. Not the applause. Yeah, but when you know your roles, you can define your success and you can be present where you are instead of mentally split. You feel me, there's no way you should be sitting here with me and working on this while you split somewhere else. You feel me, there's no way. That's not going to be effective. It's not going to be effective. Balance isn't doing everything. Balance is doing what matters on purpose, you feel me. Balance is doing what you have decided, and you have made the conscientious decision of doing what matters, and you're doing it on purpose. You feel me. That is balance. When you see people who and they have these and they have life balance, and they not frazzled about stuff, and they just like, hey man, it is what it is, and they just cool. You feel me in the middle of the storm, and they just cool. They have balance because they have made the decision of doing what truly matters and they're doing it on purpose. Yeah, so so, rebel ro, what's going on with you? They're doing it on purpose? All right? Balance looks like this because people gonna ask what does balance look like? I heard y'all asking it. What does balance look like? Balance looks like this. You can show up fully where you are. You show up fully where you are. You stop apologizing for having limits. You understand what I'm saying, like you gonna have limits. You stop apologizing for having limits. You stop being controlled by guilt and urgency. You understand what I'm saying. You don't be controlled by guilt and urgency. You stop letting people's expectations write your schedule. So one of the things I despise about the modern landscape of work all y'all have is meetings, meetings, meetings, meetings, meetings. You get pulled into this meeting, pulled into that meeting, just the whole concept of being pulled into a meeting. I hate that, you feel me, I hate that. And the workforce, the modern workforce has become one of the most unproductive places on the planet. Like all these meanings that we're not producing shit and that's the truth. Yeah yeah, but you stop letting people's expectations write your schedule. So let me say this and let me help. You are responsible first to your values. Then you're responsible to your commitments, then your people, and most importantly, you have to put yourself on that list of people, because you have to be the main character in your own story. So I just kind of decoded it for you. You are responsible, You are response possible first to your values, then to your commitments, then your people, and you have to put yourself on that people list because if you don't, you will resent the people you love. You will resent the people you love. Say it one more time, because the question I feel like peopleeds play hours the question of the day. The question of that hour was who are you really responsible to? Probably should say what. You are responsible first to your values, you are responsible to your commitments, then you're responsible to your people. And you have to put you atop that list, because if you don't put you a top that list, you're going to resent the people you love. So family, I'm gonna say this, clarify your roles, define your responsibilities, set your boundaries, because peace doesn't come from doing less. Peace comes from doing what you're truly responsible to do. And the key is to figure out what you are truly responsible to. Stop trying to do everything, stop trying to carry everything. Your roles are your responsibility, and you have to figure out what you are truly responsible to. Y'all can watch go over. If you didn't catch it, you can go over yesterday and you can watch the live stream where I said the m AT is live. The mat is live. I do the walk through of the MAT so you can see how it can help you with your roles and helping figure out your responsibilities. But that's it. And in today's question, once again, who are you really responsible to? And once you answer that, your life gets a whole lot more clear. Man, salute to y'all. Thank y'all so much man for taking the time to tune in. I really truly genuinely appreciate it. 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Man, And once again, I know y'all gonna have to replay this one. This was what This was worthy of a replay. This was also worthy of a shared We want to work today, but salute to you all, man, thank you all so much for taking the time to tune in, really truly genuinely appreciate you. This is Junior the Truth signing off, giving you your daily reminder of you your life like a pair of dice until your life looks like a pair of ice. Man, I'm a how born player made if you don't know anything else about me. At the end of the day, I gotta keep pushing baby. We off of the best grooming cutters for you for you just sung that you and we want a healthy swag swag and stop class and luxury luxury. There you got pub self made for you the top quality. Yea's again to start with black black yah. You swag us out glass, luxury and luxury, Black gentlemen, I'm blacky talking you swag that flag, got out glass, sluctury, get luxury. Located at www dot the Black gent dot com one. 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