You Play Too Many Roles In Your Life (And It Shows)

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We are not back in the studio yet. Honestly speaking, I haven't done anything to move us forward to getting back into the studio. So I'm gonna have a long weekend ahead of me, man, but thank you. Hopefully we can be back in on Monday like never before. I can't wait. Thank you for your patience though I really truly genuinely appreciate you. I'm a DJ host, Junior the Truth Man. You can follow me everywhere via social media. I could be found with the handle Junior The Truth is j U N I O R T A t R U t H. And that's over all the social media platforms, man, each and every one. Let me make sure y'all can hear me, man, Let me make sure y'all can hear me. Salute to Seleute my sister Selena. What's up with your Selena? Salute to you? I ain't seen you in the minute. What's up with your Selena? Is you a cop? J Reed? You thought I won't go give you none? Is you a cop? Salute to my sister Tiffy two? What's up with you? Tiffy two? Salute to your top of the A M two you. Kevin Dunbar to Skylar in a building, Salute to my family, Kevin Dunbar the Skylar in the building. What's up with you? Broke? AJ Montgomery in a building? What's call? I said? Your whole government, my fall family. AJ Man saluted my little brother AJ Mint in the building, Man, what's up with your family? Salute to you, Broke. Old school winstantly Man, Old school Winstanly is in the building day drinking. Salute to the homie, Old school Winston le Man. What's up with you man? Salute to you? Hey man, So what was I saying? Apologies for my extra extra extra tarty start. Apologies of the brevity of this, of this, of this show, this episode. I had a long night, late night last night. Man, My uh, my little brother had a basketball game, man. So and he had a late game, man. So my family we went and was in there supporting little bro Man and whooh lord, it was a late one. You know what I'm saying. It was a late one. So, but we're here and we're gonna get to it. And I am I'm trying to get back to I don't know, man, just really truly getting back to but not just back too, man, just really submitting myself to just awareness. You understand what I'm saying. As y'all know, Oh, once again the simple truth self mastery blueprint for the entire year month the month of January is all about intentional awareness and it's just it. And so I'm just really submitting to this salute to my sister Lukia Allen in the building. What's up with you? Says, and so I'm really looking at it. And that's funny. Well I shouldn't say that. I shouldn't be giving up y'all geographic locations, So I ain't gonna stop. But it's funny Texas being really in here messing with me, Like it's like a few of y'all in here. This from Texas, Texas mess with me more than day in Ohio. You feel me the west side of the day Ohio, to be exact, and I'm saudy with the west side. But anyway, man, so I just want to just I'm really truly trying to submit myself and submitting to just awareness and really truly being aware, you know what I mean. I'm about to step on this. I'm about to step on a few toes. Imagine that thriving glow with Joe and building another I shouldn't be saying where you're from Texas, really mess with me though, I'm gonna say that thriving glow with Joe, salute to my sister, and thrive and glow with Joe and uh Selena didn't pulled up on each other before and kicked it. You know what I'm saying. Craziness, man with without me, craziness. But listen to me. I'm gonna try to help. Some of us are experiencing burn out. Sleut to my brother Drew Titan LLC in a building. What's up with you, broke? A lot of us are experiencing burnout. Hell, most of us are experiencing burnout. Were tired with stressed, go all this stuff going on, and I'm gonna step on your toes real quick. I'm gonna step on your toes. But it's all right, It's all right. It's all right because the title says it plain like the title says it play. You play too many roles in your life and it shows. Salute my little brother a b ab. I sent you an email yesterday, man, I sent you. You had downloaded. You didn't get the download, you know what I mean? So I sent you, I re sent you to download. Check your email let me know you got it. If not, I need to send it to you again. You play too many roles in your life and it shows. And it's not because you're weak. It ain't because you lazy, it ain't because you like discipline. But it's because you are carrying responsibilities that were never clearly defined and never prioritized. This is the same soup, it's just reheated, and the roles that you're playing were never meant to be held all at once. You was not supposed to go be a school teacher, kid alan and be somebody's parent, somebody's surrogate. Is that how you say it, substitute parent, somebody's counselor. You wasn't supposed to go be the administrative leadership of your building. You weren't supposed to be security. You was not supposed to play all the roles, not all at once. You wasn't supposed to do that. You feel it wasn't designed that way. Think about y'all when y'all go into these workplaces and y'all enter into these buildings, think about how many hats you wear? You feel me, Think about how many hats you wear. Think about how many hats you wear? Drew when you step when you step into that work world and you step into that building at work, think about how many hats you wear, and you were never supposed to wear all that all at once. And when you do that long enough, when you go through that life living like that, and you do these things long enough, right, something happens. Something's gonna happen to your family, Something's gonna happen. It's gotta happen. It's gotta happen. Your energy is gonna drain, your focus is gonna break, your piece, That shit gone. And then you call it being burnt out. You experience burnout. You feel me, You experience burnout. And that's why we here, That's why we here. I realized something, and I was thinking about it, man, anymore, like any in these days, I find myself reminiscent, and I really find myself, and I go back to my childhood a lot, because I'm trying to gauge the job that I'm doing, you know, with my children and the experience that they have, and I gauge it to my experience, and I go back to my childhood a lot, like I spend a lot of time referencing my childhood. You understand what I'm saying old school whinstan Lisa, I'm every young person's don't at work and they bring you and when you are unk, man, they're gonna bring you stuff and want your wise counsel, especially a lot of them that don't have wise counsel anywhere outside of you. Salute to the homie for our sniper in the building to kill Vibes. What's stood with your homie? Kill Vibes? Ain't seen you in a while? Bro? Is you a cop? J Reed? You a cop? I realized. Do you realize for those of us that grew up around our grandparents? If you my age forty, I'm forty seven. Oh, I'm fan too. I'm forty seven, right, and I'm handsome and I'm charismatic, I'm a player and it was all pourtant to me by the man that raised me. Right, Do you realize how simple them dudes was, the dudes that raised If you anywhere near my age, do you realize how simple those dudes were that raised us? You feel me? Do you realize how simple the men that raised us, how clearly defined their roles were in life, like like my paupa was. His life was so. It was complex, but it was a simple at the same damn town, and his roles were very clearly defined, didn't do a whole lot. You understand what I'm saying. And now fast forward to twenty twenty six and we're here on the individual, on our individual basis, is trying to be everything to everybody all at the same time. Yeah, yeah, yeah, King Vodie. It was simples and it wasn't complicated, but there were a lot of complexities that were built in. You feel me, But his roles were clear, his life was clearly defined, and it was simple. So we're gonna start with the real problem, which is too many roles with no awareness. Same superheated. You understand what I'm saying. Adults were playing parents, providers, professionals, partner, friend, leader, caretaker, motivator, fixer. Some of us are an emotional support system. You understand what I'm saying. Some of us are inclined to be emotional support systems for everybody all the time. Okay, Joe says, you said, I keep going to different platforms to see why I can't hear you. So you can't hear me? Can everybody hear me? Let me see here? Boom boom boom. It looks like my audio is good over here, so let me pause here. Can y'all hear me? Can everybody hear me? Ther Ab said he can hear me. For our sniper said he can hear me loud and clear. Joe Delaney, you gotta stop listening to me on that Obama phone baby. That's that Obama phone baby. Selena, Selena, Selena say, I can hear you. Everybody say it's all good, Joe, Joe, that's that Obama phone baby. Tippy two said, I got you instead of about third game boss, what's up with your homies? Salute to you family? All right? So and uh, I stopped that emotional support system like you know what I mean? Where everybody's emotional support system all at the same time. And nobody ever sat down and said, these roles have different responsibilities, different energy costs, different seasons. You feel me like you ain't supposed to be the same role all seasons. I mean in each and every season. Rolls have seasons. Did you ever think about that, the fact that you have a life roles like. Life roles have seasons. Salute to my player partner from the DG five, Gay, what's up with youm salute to you, bro. Your life roles have seasons, right, You ain't supposed to be the same motherfucker twenty four seven, three sixty fives different seasons. You understand what I'm saying. So when those roles aren't defined, everything feels urgent, and it's impossible to be in to live life where everything in your life is urgent without something breaking. Man, You understand what I'm saying, period. And the crazy thing about it is when you're in that space like right now, like if I hit you and I say, ay ab, what do you need homie, you don't even know how to answer. You don't even know how to answer. And the reason why you don't know how to answer is just what we're talking about, the mere fact that your life roles and all of these roles that you've taken on are not clearly defined. The responsibilities aren't come from art, aren't clearly defined, The energy costs or not have not been established. You have absolutely no idea how to answer that. When was the last time I ask you this? When was the last time you actually chose which role deserves your energy that day? Like, when's the last time you sat down? I'm talking to myself. Now, when's the. Last time you sat down and said, this role deserves my energy today? Like this role, like this role deserves my energy today. This role deserves my energy today. So let me hurry up so I can get out of here. We're gonna talk about burnout real quick. We talking about burnout to you real quick. And I think that the thing. About burnout is people salution my brother five O three line, Man, what's up with you? He said, what's up with it? He said, what's good? Professor self master, Hey, bro, we gotta get it in. Bro, Let me explain burnout though five O three line. Listen to this, little bro. We misunderstand it all the time. Burnout is not it's not just being tired. You understand what I'm saying. It's not just being tired. Burnout is like it's it's if I had to diagnose that I diagnose to this chronic energy misalignment. You feel me, it is the It is chronic energy misalignment. Given energy to roles that don't feed you, you feel me, giving your energy to roles that don't feed you, carrying responsibilities without boundaries, like that's dangerous, being on like that, having to be on all the time, never fully resting. You understand what I'm saying, never fully resting because you feel guilty when you take moments to rest. You feel guilty, like I'm gonna sit here and rest and I'm gonna watch TV, but I really should be doing this, Like you feel guilty. I'm guilty of that, Like I don't even and I wear like a badge of honor I talk about, Man, I don't even watch TV, but I don't even know how y'all take time watch TV, Like that's a badge of honor. Like that shits so stupid. That ain't no badge of honor that I'm not taking time to relax and unwind and unplugged. Yeah, yeah, but that's but that's that's that's what burnout is. It's chronic energy misalignment, you feel me. And burnout isn't from doing too much though, it's not from doing too much. It's from it's from doing too much of what doesn't align. This is all about alignment, you feel me. This is everything is all about alignment. Some of y'all, y'all ain't even burned. Y'all ain't burnt out from work, like y'all not burnt out from work, You're burnt out from being everything to everyone, you feel me And the scariest part, you start resenting the very people you love. I said that earlier in the Weeken, and I don't think y'all got it. You start resenting the people. That you love. It's dangerous. It's dangerous, and you resent them. It ain't because they did something wrong. Is because you never defined your limits. You never defined your boundaries, you feel me. Ab says, it eas at my soul when I'm not working, when I'm not working on my comic outside of a predetermined rest time, Yeah, he said, I am f this job? Uh five or three line set? Does that come from a mental aspect? Man? I mean, honestly speaking, Bruh, to be honest with you, for me as a man, and I'm engaging this from the perspective of a man, bro, And for you, I can engage it, you know what I mean. I got a nice little handle on you, little bro. And so from for us, right, it is us setting out to be the best possible men that we can be. Right. You want to be the best possible man that you can be. You want to be the best husband you can be. You want to be the best father you can be. You want to be the best friends you can be. You want to be the best son, You want to be the best uncle. Like you want to be the best everything that you can be. But you set out to be the best thing that you can be without defining it. Like all of this. Shit comes down to clearly defining stuff, right. You can't get in alignment with shit you haven't defined. You understand what I'm saying. No, it comes from It comes from us having that pressure of wanting to be the best that we can, especially those of us who come from lack. You feel me, Those of us who maybe didn't have a father. You understand what I'm saying. Those of us who had an absent mother, those of us who didn't have the best relationships with our family, and we want to be over the top great as parents or any particular role, and so we feel the need to want to be everything to everybody. Tippy two says facts on all the time. Finding those joys that restore energy is a hard one for me. Yeah, you gotta find those little it could be simple stuff watching TV. You understand what I'm saying. Reading a book, sitting sitting down writing you know what I'm saying anything it could be just you know, I'm a for me. I love dope conversations, and I love I also love thought provoking conversations, which is why I love doing this every day. This is some thought provoking shit. And in order for me to either come in here, y'all gonna tell y'all the truth, like I gotta even provoke my thoughts to even come in here, and the shit that we talk about, like y'all don't even understand, and I wish y'all understood, like this is like this is this is this is. It for me? Like this is so fulfilling, you feel me? But finding those things, man, finding those things for us to restore ourselves. It's important because if you don't, you're gonna get experienced the burnout and the resentment. You understand what I'm saying, So I gotta hurry up. Man. Let's talk about energy, because time management is overrated if your energy is broken. Like we got this blook, we got the Simple Truth Mini Manual, we got the Planner, We got all this shit right. The Simple Truth Self Mastery Blueprint for twenty twenty six. Is in it. It's dope everything, but none of it. Matten is none of it, it matters. It's all overrated. If your energy is broken. Energy is like currency, like you gotta look at you gotta look at energy, which is why I don't really play with energy, right, you gotta look at energy. Energy is like the universe's currency, you feel me. Energy is the currency of the universe. Like, think about that. That's profound. I should put that on the T shirt or sweatshirt. Energy is the currency of the universe, you feel me, and every role that you play costs you a piece of your currency. Unders Stand what I'm saying. And some of the most common ways we drain it is emotional labor, decision fatigue, I'm big, I'm big, I get this, get that bad, constant availability, mental switching, and the guilt driven yes like you say yes to shit just because you feel guilty if you don't. And when you don't align your energy intentionally, it gets spent impulsively, like like, how many of y'all are are And I'm talking to y'all for real, how many of y'all are impulsive energy spenders? Like you know you can admit to it, say, I'm gonna wait on y'all in the chat, say ai, motherfucker or yes me? Are you an impulsive energy spender? Like do you just impulsively spend your energy? I'm raising my hand. I am an impulsive energy spender, like I spend my energy. I posted in the motherfucker on my soul. I'm guilty of that. For our sniper said unfortunately, Yes, yeah, man, I spend my energy impulsive. I could be like I'm this impulsive, y'all. I could be driving on my way to the post office. And I'll ride by Ali's and I say, y'all know Ali's the discount store, And I say, Ali's is. That an allis er? And I go to I am an a polsive energy spender man impulsively bro. And this is critical because unmanaged energy, it creates chaos. Even with a good schedule, like you can have a good schedule, you can have a to do list, you can have your planner filled out. And if you are. Unmanaged, if you unmanage your energy, if you unmanage your energy. That creates chaos. Man. Yeah, my sister shag girl said, that's me I with Ali's. I love Ali's. I love Ali's I. Ran out of time. I was trying to go yesterday, I ran out of time. My player part of g fact, Gay said, real talk is me and we naturally try to fix things and find solutions. That's a fact. Bro. I call myself a resolutionist yesterday. Bro, I literally called myself a resolutionist yesterday in here on the in the show, you're one man, yourself too much overload of everyone issues around you, and you. Are also adding yours. Uh, you will burn you out. That's a fact. That's a fact, which is why we have to have boundaries. You understand what I'm saying. We have to have boundaries. We have to have. Predetermined roles and responsibilities. We gotta figure that shut out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And this is why that unmanaged energy, that's why when you sit your ass down to work, you can't concentrate. Your energy is unmanaged. Your energy is split across all the roles that you haven't put boundaries around. Yeah, and that's the that's the truth. Man. I gotta get out of here, all right. So let me give you some news you can use. Selena says, sometimes I can be too. I can be too sometimes. Get that sometimes out of here, girl, you are too. You are too. Said, sometimes you know I can do it. Sometimes you do it all the time, girl, Stop playing with us. Stop playing with us. You do it all the time because it's it's it's it's it's impulsive. Man like, we do it on the internet. You understand what I'm saying. We do it on the internet. Think about it. We do it on the internet. You gotta check your email. Next thing, you know, you on Facebook commenting on some bullshit. All right, here's the shift that changes everything. Let me give you this practical application so I can get on with my day. And this is the shift that changed everything. Awareness restores balance, not discipline. Awareness restores balance balance. Discipline doesn't restore balance. Awareness restores balance. Awareness says, here are the roles that I'm actually playing. Here's what they cost. Here's what I can realistically GFI gave, but I can realistically carry right now, This is what I can realistically carry. Right now in my space, in my life. Right now. I don't have time for bullshit conversations respect for me. I don't have time. I'm not able to help you build out your business blueprint right now. I'm not able to help you build your website right now, Like at this space where I'm at right now, with what I'm doing right now, I cannot do that. I'm not able to carry those things. You feel me. That's awareness. This is what I can realistically carry right now. Awareness is leadership over your own life. And like I tell you all all the time, everybody's a leader. We all are leaders. People don't identify themselves as leader, we're all leaders. And awareness is leadership over your own life. You feel me, it's over your own life. And awareness allows you to say no without guilt. It allows you to rest without explaining. It allows you to show up fully instead of halfway. It allows you to show up fully, and it allows you to stop overperforming in roles that aren't yours. Y'all be overperforming and shit that don't even belong to you. You're stay what I'm saying, like you showing up in roles that don't even belong to you. I'm trying to tell you, man, I'm trying to tell y'all something good. Like you do you you want to over compensate for that woman. That woman got daddy issues. You can't be her daddy. You understand what I'm saying. My brother Drew Titan said, protect your peace. Understand the reciprocity facts. You can't be her daddy like y'all, y'all, y'all women dealing with these being folk, they got daddy issues. You can't step in there and overcompet over compensate his daddy issues with your mammy. You can't put your titty in his mouth. And and and nestle him and nestle his ass into doing the shit he's supposed to do as a man. Nah man, you gotta stop overperforming. Them ros ain't yours. Nah them ros ain't yours. Stop overperforming, Stop overperforming. You didn't do that to her, You didn't do that to him. Stop overperforming in those roles. That's the roles that aren't yours. You understand what I'm saying. And balance is the balance, like the balance. It's not about equal effort. It's not about equal effort. Balance, it's not equal You understand what I'm saying. It's about aligned effort. It's about alignment. Balance is about alignment, not equal effort. It's about alignment. Slew to the brothers uk I see in the building. Family all right, So I'm gonna tell you the true family. If your life feels loud, Like it feels loud. Your mind is cluttered, you know what I'm saying. You might feel tired, your energy feels drained. It's not because you're feeling like you're not feeling at life. It's not because you're feeling It's because you're playing too many roles without awareness. It's a recipe for disaster. You're playing too many roles in your life without a awareness. The show says you play too many roles in your life, and it shows you feel me. You gotta reflect, man, and you gotta sit down. And I really wish y'all would download The Simple Truth of Matt l at the free Matt is Free, Free f r EE, the shit is free. Go to the shop and download the free tool and take a capture of your life, roles and the responsibilities of your roles so you can start to figure this shit out and unclutter your mind. You gotta ask yourself shit like, which roles truly matter in this season? Which roles in your life truly matter in this season? Which roles are draining you? Silently? You understand what I'm saying, Which responsibilities are assumed but never agreed to? I'm gonna give y'all. I'm gonna give y'all. I'm gonna get y'all a I'm a I'm a pewest. I'm gonna give y'all a piece of me real quick. Because I believe in operating in authenticity. I know I'm an authentic dude. So one of my life roles that is of the utmost importance and at the top of my list in this season of my life, my little brother we just lost. She's my step mother. We just lost. We just we just uh laid the rest my step mother. It's my my baby brother's mother. You and my and my father's wife. So my late father, his wife passed away in this you know, it's been a few weeks. And in this season I realized that me being a brother and an older big brother, I'm I'm my my little brother is twelve years my junior. So in this season, being a big brother to my little brother has it. I can't explain to you how important that is to my life in this season, and that superseds down near everything. It just superseds down near everything. It goes right past a lot of things. That is the top of my list. You understand what I'm saying, and I'm able to assess because I'm able to look at my life for roles and I'm able to assess things, and I say, Okay, this is a top my list. You understand what I'm saying, No different than the content for those of y'all look at the content my brother five or three lines, I'll be the self mastery, a professor of self mastery. That is the top my list in this season. Hence, you don't find me having a bunch of boxing conversations. You understand what I'm saying. You don't have me. You don't find me having a lot of the entertainment conversations right now, because this is the top my list. This trump's my content. Other niches the content, which roles truly matter in this season? Saluting my brother the new fab boy fitish court right, what's up with your homie? Man? I gotta get out of here. Also, you gotta ask yourself which roles are silently draining you, Which roles are draining you silently, which roles do you feel depleted from? And which responsibilities are assumed and never agreed too, Like you just took some responsibilities on and never formally agreed to him. Man, y'all gotta look at your life, Rose, because at the end of the day, you're playing too many of them in your life and it shows. Thank y'all so much, man for taking the time to tuney in. Really truly genuinely appreciate you. Man, I'm telling you, Man, we gotta stop. We gotta stop. Man. We don't glorify exhaustion. We masterself. We're not glorifying exhaustion. Man, were working the master self. Salute to y'all. Man, Thank y'all so much, really truly genuinely appreciate you. Be sure to hit the light button subscribe to the channel if you haven't done so. Man, y'all come over to the hub www dot Juniortruth dot com. Man, we can continue this conversation on you know, you more than welcome to come over to the Simple Troup Network. Man, we can continue to have these conversations. Of course, as you all know. Salute to everybody that's over there. I owe y'all a huge apology because I've been building out and I've been working, and i have not been doing a lot of posting and working in the Simple Truth Network. But I'm going to get back on it. I'm back and we're gonna get that together. We're also I also am designing a couple of classes to get live over there for you all. So it's go time, man, It's go time, and I'm locked in. But salute to you all. Thank you also. And that is the Simple Truth Network dot Com www dot Simple Troop Network dot Com. I'm also going to connect it to the hubs so you can just go over to Junior Truth dot com and then access it. But salute to you all. I'm losing my voice between last night and this morning messing with y'all. I gotta go. I absolutely love y'all, man, and it ain't nothing you can do about it. This is Junior the Truth signing off. Give me your daily reminded of you your life like a pair of dice, until your life looks like a pair of dice. 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