Your Identity is Defined By Your Worst Moments.

It's an. It it it. Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey man, it's a new dang. King forty eighty six person in the chat. That's where it's at. What's up with it? And Jellyban forty two uh for two eight oh one got his back? What's up with you? Salute the thrid glow with Joe in the building? What's up with you? Joe Man black attacking the building? What's up with the family? Salute to you. Big days, kunkin Dog, a whole lot of BCU ship with them engines at in the building. What's up with you? Ned New Day? It's shut. Now get 'em shiny, get 'em shiny, New Day, New Day. It's like, get 'up shiny. Man, New Day, New Day. It's shut. No New Day, New Day. It's shut. New Man, New Day, New Day. It shuck new Man. Man, Salute to the family. Man Man, So so I want to officially welcome for the first time to to some and welcome back to most to the Black Coffee Club hosted by yours truly, Junior the Truth Man, the most intentional Morning circle on the planet. Man, Salute to you all. Thank you all so much for taking the time to tune in really, truly, genuinely appreciate you. Man. If I had a million tongues, I could not possibly tell it all. Like if I had a million tongues, I could not possibly tell it all. Man, Oh, Man, I couldn't. I couldn't tell it. Man, I couldn't tell it. But salute to you all. I'm indeed your host, Junior the Truth. You can follow me everywhere via social media. I can be found with the handle Junior the Truth is j u n I O r t H E t r u t h. And it's over all the social media platforms man, each and everyone. But if you're really looking for me, you can catch. Me off at the hub www Dot juniordtruth dot com. That's all things Junior to Truth www dot juniordtruth dot com. That is indeed the hub. Man, pull up on me. Then salute to you all. Man. Let's get to it. Man, I don't want to play around with it today, on this Wednesday. Man, can y'all believe it's the It is the what I do want to play around with it now I think about it. It's the twenty fourth day of the sixth month of the year twenty twenty six. Are y'all tracking, Like, are y'all tracking? Because my real question is are you still bullshitting? You feel me? Are you still bullshitting? Yeah? That's what I really want to know. Man, hopefully we ain't still bullshitting. Hey, but I'm gonna tell you who's bullshitting everybody? Like everybody, do you understand? Are y'all paying attention to the quality of the services that. You all are paying for? Like? Are you paying attention to, like, the quality of everything? Are you paying it attention to the quality of the stores, the quality of the different service industries, the quality of man, just the quality of everything? Are you paying attention? Because everywhere I go to, quality is the restaurant quality, grocery store quality, retail shop quality. I'm like, man, are you bullshitting saluted for our sniper? What's up with a snipe? Like? Man, the quality of everything is plummeted. Hey, y'all, And I'm gonna tell you the truth. Okay, to tell you the truth. I took my vehicle to get an oil change yesterday to the dealership because you're supposed to the dealership is supposed to give you the better service you're supposed to be. You feel me the the dealership. You're supposed to go to the dealership. You play top dollar at the dealership in order to in order to have the you know, proline, the prolonged the life of your car, and everything's documented and that you know, and you know it increases the retail value of your car, and the and prolongs the life of your car. When you go to the dealership, you feel me and everything is documented and you keep up with the maintenance. So I got an oil change, an oil change, and they needed to change the. Oil plug and rotate my tires. Because when I left out of the oil change, I drove down and I heard aloud and then my car just started making a. Sound. I'm leaving the dealership. Car I drive every day, never had any problems. I pull over. First thing I do is I call the dealership so we can get this on wax. The dealership, their cars are recorded, yahd YadA, YadA YadA. So I called a dealership so we can get this on WAX. Hey, man, I just pulled out of there and my car's fucked up. I'm on the way back. I'm not sure I need to be driving it back. They put me back in contact with my service technician. My service tech didn't answer the phone, so I go back to the dealership. When I get there, one of the service members is waiving me to drive because you got to drive inside the garage. So he's waving me to come inside, and he says something to me like, yeah, they forgot to put the bottom of your the bottom of your the seal the seal pain or seal bottom back on your car. So I pulled back in. I said what. I'm still unclear, like what, Yeah, they didn't put the So the more of the story is, these motherfuckers changed my oil and didn't put the bottom, didn't secure and fasten and put the bottom of. My car back together. Man at the dealership. Where they're supposed to have all these processes and these inspections, and they're supposed to make the list and check it twice, Yeah, they forgot to put the bottom of my car back on there, man. And then the supervisor ended up having to do it. Then he comes back and he says, man, I apologize. Man, I guess my staff was just ready to get to just rushing to get the lunch. Like that's supposed to be acceptable to me? You feel me? I didn't do the fool. I didn't do a big enough fool. I didn't do the big enough fool yesterday. So I think I'm gonna go back up there today and do the food. But the quality of everything is plummeting, Like, the quality of everything is plummeting, And I think that for me, I'm really mindful about where I spend my money now because I'm not paying for sub park quality because people give you some part quality and then look at you like you're going crazy because you didn't. You didn't accept it like you want accept it. Yeah, welcome back, man to the Black Coffee Club hosted by yours truly jow me the truth the most intentional morning circle on the planet. Man. This morning, I want to get straight into into a hard truth. Man. The title of the conversation is your identity is defined by your worst moments. You feel me now, I know that sounds heavy, y'all, Like I know I know that sounds heavy because we want our we want our identity to be defined by our intentions. You feel me like, we want our identity to be to be defined by our intentions. We want to be judged by who we say we are. And that's most people, not just us. I'm not just talking about the Black Coffee Club. But I try to refrain from saying from talking in generalities because this message is very personal and I'm very much talking about your ass. You feel me, And so when I say most people, then they kind of, you know, y'all kind of like to get out of the way. You feel me, nah. And that's why I say us or you or me or us, you feel me or we? We we want to be judged by who we say we are. We want to be measured by what we meant to do. You feel me, and we want we want credit for the version of ourselves that shows up when life is calm, when the schedule is clean, when the money is right, when the house is quiet and clean and nobody or nothing is testing us, you feel me. We want credit for that version of ourselves. But this is what I'm open with. Who you are under pressure is closer to the truth than who you claim to be when everything is easy. I'm gonna say it again because I know Nella ain't in here. Oh I don't think Nella in here yet, but I know that was a bar. Who you are under pressure is closer to the truth than who you claim to be when everything is easy. Yeah, Yeah, that's the conversation this morning. Because pressure exposes identity, stress, it reveals emotional discipline, habits show up before your intentions, and self mastery requires emotional control. It requires emotional control. Yeah, pour your coffee, lock in, because this morning we are talking about the version of you that shows up when life gets loud. Let's get it. One. I'm hustled harder than the moment. I'm a feast on these streets, got a revolver. I talk for these niggas trying to take me off the block where I posts up daily sit Bailey's out the bottles. Smoke once again, one time for the Black Coffee Club. Man, the most intentional morning circle on the planet. Man, let's start here. Let's start here. Pressure exposes your identity. You feel me, Vonnie. Shout out to everybody catching the live stream. Man, Shout out to the replay Gang, Replay Gang of Don't Bang. Salute to your family, and shout out to the podcast family. Me Lie Familia, Man, the most intentional podcast family on the planet. Salute to you, man, I love you. Ain't nothing you could do about it. Pressure exposes your identity. Pressure does not ask who you posted about becoming Pressure don't ask who you posted about becoming man. It doesn't ask that you feel me. It doesn't ask who you posted about being about becoming Nah, Pressure, It don't ask what you wrote in your journal. You feel me, Yeah, Pressure, Pressure didn't ask about that that vision board, Joe. Nah, it don't, it don't. It doesn't ask what you said during the calm season. You feel me? Yeah. Pressure asks one question and one question along. Yeah, who are you when the weight shows up? Who are you when the weight shows up? With that boy Andre three thousand said the weight of the world on my shoulder pads. Who are you when the weight shows up? It's a cold game. It's a cold game. And that is why pressure is so revealing. You feel me Because when life is easy, everybody can sound discipline, everybody's on top of it when life is When life is easy, everybody can sound mature. When life is easy. Everybody can sound focused, responsible, productive, everybody can talk about standards when life is easy. But when pressure comes, the real identity starts showing you feel me. Your real identity starts showing you want to know your a motherfucker is real identity. A person's real identity shows up when money gets tight. You feel me when money gets tight, when the relationship gets tense, when the kids are testing your patience. You feel me when the job is demanding more and you're depleted, you don't have anything to give. Job is demanding more when your body is tired, When the when, when when? When the schedule breaks, You feel me when the plan falls absolutely apart. Snipe, snipe. When the plan falls apart, you feel me. That's when the truth starts talking. And I don't mean junior pulling into intended. That's when the truth starts talking. And for many people, pressure exposes a version of themselves that they do not want to admit exists. You don't want to even admit that it exists to yourself, let alone other people to see it. You feel me? Yeah, Yeah, pressure exposes a version of of of you that you don't want. To admit exists. Yeah. The angry version, the the avoid the avoidant version. Let me go back to angry because anger. The anger angry version is real, because because y'all motherfuckers, y'all y'all be getting so mad that you start crying, just like kids. You feel me, you get so mad, you start crying. That's me. I'm a i'm a i'm a, i'm a A. I get crying mad, I get crying mad. The avoiding version. You just put that shit up, You just put it off. You understand what I'm saying. The inconsistent version, shaluta a royal constrict in the building. What's up with it, y'all? The blaming version. Some of us are still blaming our parents. We still talk about mamaem never told us what to do with money. That we never had financial conversations in our household. Now I'm a fifty year old adult with terrible spending habits because we never talked about money. We never talked about finances. All we knew was the pay bills and to go to work, go to work, pay bills. We never knew, we never knew. Yeah, the blaming version. The quitting version, Yeah, some of us will quit some shit in a minute. The excuse making version, Yeah, the version that disappears when accountability shows up. You understand, somebody says something to you about something you did, and instead of holding yourself accountable, you say. Well you did this when you did that, Well, what about when you? What about when you? What about when you I didn't say nothing? When you yeah? Yeah? Yeah. That version of you is not random. That version of you has been trained, it's been practiced, you feel me, it's actually been tolerated. So when when when pressure reveals it, don't you dare say that's not me? Don't say that. The question that you better ask yourself is why does that version to me keep showing up? Because you know it's there. Because pressure does not create your identity. It does not create your identity. Pressure exposes the identity you have been building. Yeah, Pressure exposes the identity you have been building. That's the truth. Yeah, Jay, Fannie said, you ain't lying, Joe said, he sounded like my ex the what about you? What about you? What about when you? I didn't say it? When you? Yeah? Yeah. Pressure exposes the identity you've been building. Because you've been building your identity day by day, break by brick, day by day break by brick. Stress. Stress reveals emotional discipline or like there of you feel me. It is easy to be calm when nothing is challenging you. It's easy to be patient when nobody's frustrating you. It's easy to be thoughtful when nothing is pulling on you. It's easy to be controlled when you're comfortable. But emotional discipline is not proven in comfort. Does that make sense? Your emotional Your emotional discipline is unproven in comfort. It is only proven understress. You understand. So the question is not can I stay calm when life is easy? The question is can I govern myself when life is loud? Can I govern myself when life is loud? Can? Can you control your tone? You understand what I'm saying? Can you control your reactions? Can you control your decisions? Yeah? Can you control your mouth? Can you control your attitude? Can you control your impulses? Yeah? Can you? Can you control your need to blame somebody else? Yeah? Because if stress can take over your whole identity, the stress is in charge, not you, And y'all know in twenty twenty six, we are dealing with some stressful situations. Every every turn you feel me every turn there we're dealing with stressful situations. Yeah. Yeah, And if stress can take over your whole identity and there's stress is in charge, not you. And I'm not saying that you ain't gonna feel emotions. You understand what I'm saying. I'm not saying that. That is absolutely not my point. I am not saying that you're not gonna feel emotions. You're human, you feel me. You're gonna feel frustration, you're gonna feel disappointment, you're gonna feel anger, you're gonna feel fear, you're gonna feel fatigued like you're going to feel these things. But feeling an emotion and being ruled by emotion are not the same thing. You understand what I'm saying. And we are moving into a space of mastering ourselves. And it doesn't mean that that that you're gonna feel nothing. That does not mean that it means your feelings don't get the final vote. You feel me mastering yourself means your feelings don't get the final vote. Vote. Yeah. Stress, Stress will reveal whether you have emotional discipline or emotional habits. This is the part where you're supposed to be You're supposed to be checking yourself because it just says something to you. You're supposed to be checking yourself, like do you huh do you have emotional discipline or emotional habits? You're supposed to be checking your checking your pockets like you're supposed to be. Damn. Where is that emotional discipline? Or do I have emotional habits? That's something for you to ponder. Do you have emotional discipline or emotional habits? Because the majority of us don't have emotional discipline, we have emotional habits. What are emotional habits? You say? Funny, you should ask. We always snap, we always shut down, we always blame, we always avoid, we always overreact. You feel me, and we always make things somebody else's fault. Yeah, And it's not just a reaction, it's a pattern. It's a pattern. And I'm gonna tell you something. A pattern or patterns. Reveal your identity. And that's why I see the world in pattern I look at I literally look at the world in patterns. That's why I don't have a lot of people around me because a lot of people's patterns. Suggest that me personally. I'm not in a space where I have a lot of people around me because I don't. People's patterns show me and they warm me and their red flags as to why I shouldn't have you around me. Yeah, yeah, Joe said. So it's necessary to go through stretch and pressure because that's when we find out how much true growth we've made. It makes sense. That's a bar, Joe, that's a bar. The ship is forged in fire. You understand what I'm saying. It's forged in fire. Like we can put all this. I mean, it's no different than we can build it. We can build a chair. You feel me. We sit down and we put together a chair. We build a chair. You feel me, and we get you know. We put it, the legs on it, we put the seed on it, put. The back on it. We screw every everything in, make sure it's tight, make sure everything fits. Until somebody sit in it, it ain't a chair. It looks like a chair, you feel me. Looks like a chair, gives the appearance of a chair. But until somebody sit in that motherfucker, it ain't a chair. The shit is forged in fire. Yeah, So you gotta go through stress because stress is a part of life. You gotta go through stress. We gotta go through pressure. We gotta go through loud times in life in order for this for us to the proven ground for this identity that we say we have. You feel me, And untimately, do we have emotional discipline or do we have emotional habits. Do we snap? You feel me? When somebody snap at you? Do we snap? Or when something happens stressful situations? Do you snap? Do you blame? Do you avoid? Do you overreact? Do you make it somebody else's fault? Yeah? Because that is not just a reaction, that's a pattern, and pattern reveals identity. Motherfucker, you are what you do repeatedly? Yeah, Yeah, salute the coach sixty seven Sports TV in the building. What's up with it? Yeah? Coach says, if a wife leaves her husband during tough tough times, is she really a wife? Well? Is she really his wife? Is the question? You feel me? Is it really? You know? Is it really? Is she really his wife? And ultimately, what has been the pattern of behavior? You understand what I'm saying. When the man, when when that said man goes through the tough times throughout life, is she right there with them? You feel me? Is she there with them supporting? Is she helping them figure those things out? Is she is she pushing him to be better? Is she doing her part to help shoulder the load? Or is she just sitting there watching him? You feel me? Is she just sitting there watching him? Yeah, because a woman that will just sit there and watch it's easy for them to leave during tough time for shit show, so she definitely probably is not his wife. Yeah. Yeah, here's the part we gotta sit with. Your habits show up before intentions. Yeah. You may intend to be patient, right. You may intend to be patient, but if your habit is anger, anger will show up first. Man, Joe, did you hear what I said? Snike? Did you hear what I said? Your habits show up before your intentions. You may intend to be patient, but if your habit is anger, then anger is gonna show up first. You might intend to be disciplined, but if your habit is procrastination, delay is gonna show up first. Seven o'folk, Joe, what's up with you, homie? Yeah? Yeah, you intend to be disciplined, but your habit is procrastination, delay is gonna show up first. You may tend to be accountable. You may intend to be accountable. I'm hold myself accountable, but if blame is your habit, then blame is gonna show up first. You feel me. You may intend to stay focused night. You may intend to stay focused, but if your habit is distraction, distraction, is gonna show up before the focus. I'm about to cuss. And that's why your intentions is not enough. Intentions are not enough. Intentions sound good, but your habits tell the truth, you feel me. Your intentions sound good to anybody that are listening. Your intentions sound good, but your habits tell the truth. Under pressure, you usually do not rise to your intentions. You fall back into your training, and your training you're trained by your habits. So the question is not what did I mean to do? The question is what if I trained myself to do automatically? You feel me? Coach sixty seven Sports TV said, I'm definitely a procrastinator, but I get everything done before the deadline. Yeah. Yeah, I'm a procrastinator like a champion. And then I sit there and I respond and I put unnecessary pressure on myself. Coach sixty seven Sports TV, I'm a procrastinator, bro. Yeah. I gave myself to the end of the month to get another issue of A Punch Junkie magazine done and now it's the twenty fourth day and I'm not doning yet, and there's so many things that are happening in the sport. Yeah, I'm a procrastinator. Bro. Yeah, So the question is not what did I mean to do? The question is what if I trained myself to do automatically? Because when pressure hits, your habits move faster than your explanations. Does that make sense? When pressure hits, your habits move faster than your explanations before you dress it up, your pattern shows before you can justify it. The reaction shows you feel me. That's why you do something. And then you got to go back and apologize like, I'm sorry, I just thought I intended to do well, but I did. Nah. Your habits are going to show up first before you can explain it. Your training shows. And that is why your worst moments matter. Not because one bad moment defines your entire life, because it doesn't, but because your worst moments reveal what still needs discipline. It gives you information awareness, You feel me. They reveal what still needs correction, correction, They reveal what still needs structure. They reveal what standard has not been built deep enough yet. So instead of denying your worst moments, you gotta study them. You got to study them. You feel me? What keeps showing up? What do you? What do you do when you feel concerned? What do you do when you are tired? What do you do when you're embarrassed? What do you do when you feel disrespected? What do you do when you do not get your way? Yeah? Did you hear what I said? I just rolled out most some of the worst moments that you can experience as a fully functional adult. You understand what I'm saying. Yeah, feeling concerned when you're tired, when you're embarrassed, when you feel disrespected, when you don't get your way, that version of you is trying to teach you something. And it's not for you to shame yourself at all. You understand what I'm saying. It's for you to be able to correct yourself because awareness without correction is just observation. You feel me, It's just observation. And we are not here to just observe patterns. We are here literally to raise our standard. That's why you got up here, That's why you come in here every day to the Black Coffee Club. The whole objective is for us to raise our standards. Yeah, yeah, all right, let's go. Self mastery requires emotional control. It's not only emotional control, but it requires emotional control. That's required. That's a requirement that's a prerequisite. You cannot claim to have mastered yourself while your emotions keep driving the car. You feel me, cannot claim discipline why your reactions keep destroying the room. You cannot claim standards while stress keeps lowering your standards. You can't claim maturity while pressure keeps turning you into somebody you later have to apologize for. Did you hear what I said? You can't claim maturity while pressure keeps turning you into somebody that you have to later apologize for. Yeah, at some point your standard has to become I don't let pressure make me lose myself, not losing myself. And it does not mean you become fake. It means you become governed. It means you stop giving stress permission to downgrade your character, you feel me. It means you stop using pressure as an excuse for poor behavior. Yeah, it means you stop saying this is just how I am. No, it's not how you are. That's how you have practiced being. It's not who you are. And what has been practiced can be corrected, you feel me, What has been practiced can be corrected. I gotta go to the gym with my daughter of today, we got a lot of stuff we need to correct. You feel me. Were back in the gym today, got a lot of stuff that we need to correct. You feel me. What has been practiced can be corrected. But correction. This is the thing about correction, Joe. It's the funny thing about it. Funny funny thing about it. Correction requires honesty, and that's more than most people get themselves. Most of us are not willing to be honest. Yeah, correction requires honesty. You have to be honest about the version of you that shows up when life gets loud. You feel me, Your life gets loud and you leave your house a wreck, everything's a wreck. Told y'all, my office has been a wreck. You feel me. My life has been loud and I have not cleaned up my office. I'm ashamed of myself. La la D. Yeah. Yeah, requires honesty. You have to be honest about the version of you that shows up when life gets loud. You have to stop defending it. You have to stop excusing it. You have to stop blaming everybody else for it. And you have to ask, what standard do I need before pressure shows up? Yep? What structure do I need before the stress hits? What boundary do I need before I get overwhelmed and shout out the cod sixty seven sports TV. You feel me, and that's why I stand by the Simple Truth Minute Manual, the one hour book that will change the way you watch the clock, written by yours truly Junior, the truth as well as the planner that accompanies it. That planner is a motherfucker man. Excuse my language. Yeah. Coach sixty seventh for sports TV says the Minute Manual has been a huge benefit. Salute to my brother. Yeah, man, what boundary do I need before I get overwhelmed? What happened? Do I need to train before the next test? Because the time to build emotional discipline is not when you are already exploding. La ladi Ooh, that sounded dirty. The time to build emotional discipline is not when you are already exploding. The time to build emotional discipline is before the pressure arrives. That's a fact. You train yourself in the small moments. You pause before you respond. You tell the truth first before you blame somebody. You correct the tone before it becomes disrespect. You keep your word when nobody's watching. Start with keeping your word to yourself. You practice structure when when life is quiet, you build a standard before the test. That is how your identity changes, not through one declaration, but through repeated discipline, through repeated action. Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah. So here's my challenge to you today. Man, you already know how we do it, and I'm already. I'm already. It's thirty seven. I gotta go. I supposed to. I'm supposed to be out of here in twenty five minutes, but I got to talking too much. What version of you shows up when life gets loud? Not the version you post, not the version you claim you feel me, Not the version that you hope people see. The version that shows up under pressure, when stress hits, when inconvenience, shows up when somebody disappoints you, when your schedule breaks. You feel me when you're tired, when you don't get your way? Who shows up? Who shows up? La La? I said, where's Della the Great? I think Neella's schedule changed. She'd be catching the replays. I think her schedule change. Replay Ganga don bang? Who shows up? And most importantly is that the version aligned with the person that you claim you're becoming remembers two buckets, the person you are and the person you becoming. Every action, every action, salute to tatat sweet Tatae in the building. What's up with you? Say, take every action, every decision. You're putting a vote and casting a vote in one of those buckets. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah. And is that the person? Is that the version aligned with the person who you claim you're becoming. If not, then do not defend it. Correct it. You understand what I'm saying because pressure is not lying. Stress is not lying. Your habits are not lying. They are reporting the truth. Now you have to decide what you're gonna do with it. The standard today is simple. Stop letting your worst moments keep defining you without correcting you. Stop letting your worst moments keep defining you without correcting. You, study the pattern, tell the truth on yourself, raise your standard, and build emotional discipline. Because who you are under pressure is closer to the truth than who you claim to be. When everything is easy. Who you are under pressure is closer than the truth, to the truth than who you're on these social media streets. Pretending to be. Who you are under pressure is closer than to the truth than who you are when you fire up these microphones and you talk to people and try to present is if you have it all together, you feel me, who you are under pressure is closer than the truth then that person that you put that tie on, that you put that blouse on, and you show up to that office and you sit down in front of those people and pretend to have the shit together, you pretend to be on top of it. Know who you are under pressure is closer to the truth, and it's closer than the truth, to the truth than who you claim to be when everything is easy. Salute to my brother. Can't underscore what's up with you, bro? This is the Black Coffee Club. Man. I am your host, Junior. The truth raise the standard, you feel me and the fact of the matter is Man, until we meet tomorrow, Man, I need you to absolutely one hundred percent live in your truth. Salute to you all man, Thank God so much for taking the time to tune in. 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