Uncovering the Biggest Threat to the Black Family | Episode.4 Part.3

And they got that home in them, and it is what it is, like, it's just it just is what it is. It is what it is, and I just really believe that, you know, when it's all set and when it's all said and done, Like, man, these dudes, is they poking on somebody? Say, brother, let's go ahead and say what it is. Brother, Say they got that friendly pussy, Bro, they got that friendly as pussy, Brother. Pussy pussy is a way of life, Bro, It's a I'm talking about bruh we I don't even know who coined that, bro. Did I coin at or did you coin it? I don't know. It came up in the conversation though I. Came in that ship came up eons ago. It was a conversation though. Go back to them college days. It's the wild time. Mm hmmmmmm. But them motherfucker's got that friendly And so I'm looking at it like, man, I'm trying to tell you, man, like, when it's all set and done, man, like this ship is just it's crazy and it's out of control, and all of it has negatively impacted the family. By negatively impacted And then I think the thing because you have to look at what is really happening, right, So we are all preoccupied with this stuff. Like I said, we're preoccupied on our individuality. We are preoccupied with the being at odds with one another. Right. And now our kids aren't covered. Our kids have never been this uncovered. Bro. Like, they're uncovered. And what we're dealing with is this space where our kids are uncovered. They're ill equipped, that they're ill prepared. They are in a very vulnerable space, bro. And it's all because of us, you know what I'm saying. It's all because of us. And we have children who are coming you know what I'm saying into adulthood and first thing they doing is getting on psychotropic medications and ship bro. Like it's crazy, bro Like, it's crazy stressed out, you know what I'm saying. Can't they can't cope with life, bro like this And we are so distracted and we're so the kids are uncovered. Like that's the crazy thing. I And with that being said, I saw this. I don't know if you've seen this, but uh, Barack Obama went on Michelle Obama and her brother's podcast and he talked about black boys and this is where we're at in the world right, and this is and and why people can't see this for what it is? I don't know. But he was talking about black boys, and he talked about he feels that black boys need a gay male in there. Like you, didn't hear nothing. I heard a sound bite, but I didn't listen to the whole. I didn't listen to the conversation. I wasn't I didn't even get where the context was coming from. But I heard the sound bite. Yeah, he said that black that black males, black black boys need to have a relationship with gay men, and what and what and what was this reason behind this and and and in order and I'm trying not to in order for them to get Okay, okay, okay, I'm a I'm a hold on. I don't even want to speak for him. Hold on, since you did you did this, bro, we're gonna say that you did this. Hold up. You decided you wanted to come in here and put some paint where it ain't so hold on, hold on, hold up, the blunt saint rolled up? Hold up where we at? Boom? Can we get on here? One? Two? One? Two? Yes, Lord, hold on, let me get back here. Boom. You but I think a lot of times boys need is not just exposure to one. Guy one dad. No matter how good the dad, he can't be everything. And then that that boy may need somebody to give give the boys some perspective on the dad. One of the most valuable things I learned as as a guy was I had a gay professor in college at a time when openly gay folks still weren't out who became one of my favorite professors and was a great guy and would call me out when I started saying stuff that was ignorant. You need that to show empathy and kindness. And by the way, you need that person in your friend group so that if you then have a boy. Who is who's who's who's. There or non bin, they have it. They have somebody that they can go Okay, I'm not alone in this. So so I'm still trying to understand why why specifically black boys need this. Mm hmm. Hey man, it's so much to unpack. Bro with that and I've been cool on it, and I waited till such a time as this to really talk about it. Bro on his platform, he said empathy. He said that you need that, it need a relationship with a gay man to learn empathy and kindness. So only a gay man can teach you empathy and kindness. That's something that's something that's a straight man your father can never teach you. Like or how about this your mother, yeah. Or anybody else in your circle. Why does it have to be a gay man that has to teach you empathy and kindness? Your grandmother, your aunties, uncles. And he said that, and what he said was and it's a lot that it's a lot to unpack, man, And I ain't trying to, you know, I know how, I know how, And this is something for the cultures. I know how the culture is about about Obama at the time when he was in college. Bro, You we understand where the world was at that time. Mm hm. You understand that there was a lot of people who were gay and you didn't know that they were gay, and it was only one way to know that they was gay. Tea. It's only one way to know that they were gay. Bro. Absolutely, there's only one way. Absolutely, there's only one way. You talking about the sixty seventies, there's only when you when people were running around and they were gay, it was only one way for you to know that they were gay. Bro, birds of a feather flocked together. And he even said it. He even said it that it wasn't really a good time for them to be out. So how did you know he was gay? M hm? And he was your professor and you had what kind of relationship with him? Yeah, And he even said that, you know, these these boys need that type of person so they can, you know, especially if it's people that you know, feel like they're that way, so they can feel like they're not the only ones. They're not in these by theirself. Was he was that kind of a soft kind of coming out or something. I don't I don't know, man, it was it was. It's a lot to unpack there, Bro. It's it's a lot going on. Man, it's a whole lot to unpack. I haven't listened to that whole thing. So yeah, it's a lot going on. Man, it's a whole lot to unpack. Bro. Yeah, we're about to were about to get something in his next book when to come out out. I'm gonna tell you that on the verbs. Heyn a, man, I'm telling you, And I was listening to it because because you got to think even when you was listening to it. You was listening to Michelle Obama coaching. She was coaching even first when he was talking, she was leading me. You feel me, there's a lot to unpack, man, with that, with that, having a relationship, actually knowing that somebody was then actually don't that they were gay, having a relationship with no spending intimate time with them to be able to be corrected when they said something ignorant, like how many conversations were you having with your professor? You feel me? How I was never really in a space to be corrected by my professors in a. Personal I never got that close to any of my professors ever, not on that level. No, right, right, And we and we both have done a lot of school, bro, you know what I'm saying. We got undergraduate degrees, you know, a couple. I got two or three. I think I might have three bachelor degrees. I got like three bachelor degrees. I got like shit, a master's half, my dot DYM all but dissertations. As far as my doctoral program, Like, hey, bro, we did a whole lot of school. Never got that close to a professor, never. Yeah, And I just know and even when we were you know, coming up because we came up in that air, like, Bro, you didn't the only way that you knew somebody was. It's only one way to know. And it's a lot of people that you suspected that you possibly thought, but it's only one way to know, yep. And everybody didn't know. You know what I'm saying, And it was that it was done that way on purpose. So I just don't really understand what the purpose of that was. But to come back to our conversation, you heard it there. Our children are unprotected, bro. You understand what I'm saying. And there are people who are out running around who think. Like that. And who are that's their messaging? You feel me? Little boys need gay men, huh. Yeah, they need They need one in their. Life, huh, to get to teach them empathy and compassion and all of these things that you learn from your mother. Like your mother taught you empathy and compassion. Your grandmother teaches you and models empathy and compassion and caring and love and so on and so forth. You man, So I don't know, bro, but I'll tell you, the vulnerability of our children is probably my third biggest threat to our family, bro, because if we don't get it right for our kids. It's over for us, Bro, It's over for us. And I think we on the ropes because our kids are not going to be They're not going to be in a position to carry on our the needs. Bro. Noah, we already see it, you know, like we said, with these kids that are starting to become adult age trying to transition into adulthood and get independence and all that were already seeing it. It's a struggle. It's a major struggle. Yeah, it's a cold game, bro, So we don't. Do something soon to start turning in trajectory around you right like we're gonna it's gonna Yeah, it's. A cold game. I ain't gonna hold you. It's a cold game. Bro. All right, man, thank you man for coming through. Bro. We we we we little bit over our man, So we're gonna stop there. Man. I really truly appreciate you. Bro. Tell the people how they can follow. You, bro, a man, they can just find all my platforms at time to see you seen your time to see USR dot com. Yes, indeed, man, I appreciate you, bro. Our ways and shit, you know we're gonna chop it up on the back end. So absolutely. Yes, sir, Salute to the family. Man. Thank y'all so much. Man, thank you all so much for attending episode three, Man and and and tapping in. I really truly genuinely appreciate you. This was brought to you by the Black Gentleman Grooming Company. We do have a line of all natural handcraft the Groomer products specifically with you in mind, so be sure to come check us out www dot door, blackgen dot com. This is Junior, the true signing off Man, giving you your daily reminder to view your life like a pair of dice until your life looks like a pair of dice. 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